This is a strange Thanksgiving in the Tartakovsky household, one that I didn’t think I’d be spending this way, this soon. This year, we’re spending …
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Margarita…your thankfulness brings a tear to my eye. I lost my dad in 2008, he was 60 and I am 28…so i get you. My dad was one of the greatest unconditional supports in my life. He always made me feel beautiful.
I am looking forward too tommorrow…to be present with my family and the blessings in my life.
Thanks so much for the post!
Thank you, Stephanie! I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad also supported us unconditionally, and always made me and my mom feel beautiful. He was amazing person.
Have a great Thanksgiving!!
Lyn C
5:28 pm on
November 25th, 2009Margarita, I am so sorry for your loss. Thanks for your advice about staying present with the loved ones we have (including ourselves).
JJ
8:03 pm on
November 25th, 2009Thanks for sharing such a sweet post. I lost my dad in August six years ago, when he was 53 and I was 23. Death is such a reminder of the preciousness of life. Best to your family.
@Lyn and JJ, You’re so welcome!! It means a lot that it resonated with you both. JJ, I’m so sorry about your dad. He was so young. All the best to you guys, and I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!
my father will be coming from abroad to stay with me one week this December. I have the complete reversal of this. I have an ambivalent relationship with my body and have had severe body image issues that I am currently working on. I am not overweight and none of my sisters are, either. This does not stop my father always making a remark about our body weight and he makes no secret of the fact that he thinks women should be thin. (My younger sister is a UK size 6 and he told her she was gaining weight). He said the same to me and my sister broke in “do you think she looked better back in 2003?” (When I was a recovering anorexic and clinically underweight) and he shrugged “well….that wasn’t so bad”.
That moment was a wake-up call that he’s no authority on what I should be looking like, but even so, whenever I spend time with him (not often, once a year) he never fails to make me even more conscious of how I fall short of his expectations, being a UK size 14.
Jayne Coleman
8:05 am on
November 30th, 2009Burgundy I find that so sad. You must be a very strong person, even if you don’t think so, to have overcome/recovered from anorexia and the constant criticism that probably fuelled it. This December do whatever you need to do to protect yourself from the negative messages. One of the things I learned from a book by Doreen Virtue is to imagine myself surrounded by white light that protects me from any negative vibes/thoughts/actions.
On a more practical note, maybe you and your sisters need to talk to him about the impact his attitude has had on your lives? Your dad is missing out on so much by focusing on what you weigh, rather than on who you really are.
Blessed be this festive season.
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