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Self-Care Sunday 10.19.14

Sunday, October 19th, 2014

Unrepeatable quote, BN, october 2014

In this new series I share links to all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to expressing our creativity (which goes hand in hand with self-discovery) to feeling our feelings to saying no to saying yes to savoring supportive, healthy relationships.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build fulfilling, satisfying lives. Because self-care simply feels good!

I hope you find these links inspiring and empowering.

12 ways to get out of a bad mood.

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Paying Attention to Our Bodies

Wednesday, October 8th, 2014

Author Tina Welling had no idea that she had an underactive thyroid. She was experiencing all the symptoms, such as weakness and frequent infections. She was canceling meetings and outings with friends. Her work schedule was getting tougher and tougher to keep up with.

But she hadn’t noticed any of this — until a blood test showed her levels were off the charts. She’d become numb to her own body.


What to Remember When You Feel Terrible About Your Body

Thursday, September 25th, 2014

sneakers shot

I think it’s key to feel our feelings — whatever the feeling that comes up. All feelings are valid. So if you’re feeling like crap about your body, then you’re feeling like crap about your body.

That’s OK.

It’s something to acknowledge, accept and feel — instead of beating yourself up for beating yourself up.

But sometimes these feelings and thoughts stick around too long. And they start dictating our decisions to not take kind care of ourselves (which only boosts our negative body image). They become overwhelming. All-consuming. Stressful.


Forgiving Ourselves

Sunday, September 21st, 2014

creative joy, purple flowers

This weekend I took out my journal and wrote a kind of letter to myself. I started with these words: I forgive myself…

I wrote down the things I am ready to forgive myself for (and a few things I am not). Maybe you, too, want to focus on forgiveness, and write about what you’re ready to let go.


A Farewell to Your Shackles

Sunday, September 7th, 2014

bird, amelia island, 2010

You are a small, unsophisticated machine

simplistic in your function.

And yet

you rule my moods

dictate my diet

and overshadow the joys in my life.


Embracing Our Bodies Despite Our Flaws

Tuesday, August 26th, 2014

creative joy, 2012, yellow flower with quote

Many of us are hesitant to accept our bodies because they’re “flawed.” We have stretch marks, cellulite, too-big thighs, too-small breasts, too-round bellies.

We assume all these traits are terrible imperfections which preclude us from appreciating and loving our bodies.

How can I accept something that is flawed? How can I be positive when there is negative surrounding me, part of me?


Sunday Self-Care Round-Up 8.24.14

Sunday, August 24th, 2014

CT cafe

I’m starting a new round-up series on Weightless that includes all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to feeling our feelings to saying no to saying yes to savoring supportive, healthy relationships.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build fulfilling, satisfying lives. Because self-care simply feels good!

Fittingly, these posts will appear on most Sundays. :) I hope you find these links inspiring and empowering.

The four most influential self-help books of my life.


Creating Your Nourishing List of Yes

Friday, August 22nd, 2014

creative joy, notice, love and hearts, 2012

Last week I talked about the power of saying no, and shared examples of requests, activities, habits and ideas we can say no to. Because saying no gives us the time, space and energy to say yes to what truly nourishes and serves us.

But what are those things for you? Once you say no, what are the yeses you’ll be focusing on?

Because knowing your yeses creates a fulfilling, satisfying life. Because knowing your yeses supports you in saying no.

Because your yeses are so vital, so important that saying no becomes a priority, a way for you to protect what’s precious to you.


The Different Ways We Can Be Kinder to Ourselves

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

amelia island, red flower

In Heart to Heart, my eBook with Anna Guest-Jelley, we focus on cultivating kindness, because we don’t heal ourselves with insults, judgement and body bashing. We heal ourselves — our bruised body image, our sinking self-worth — with compassion.

I like Sharon Salzberg’s definition of kindness in her book The Kindness Handbook: “Kindness can manifest as compassion, as generosity, as paying attention.”


A Unique Way to Approach Your Inner Critic

Saturday, August 16th, 2014

creative joy retreat, 2012, leaf and light

Most of us have a mean — maybe even cruel — inner voice that says everything from “You’re too big to wear that!” to “You’re so stupid!” Understandably, we may grow to dislike — maybe even despise — this inner voice.

We might dislike it because it sounds like someone who used to bully us. Because it sounds like a parent, past partner or so-called friend. Maybe it sounds like the younger you, who regularly received hurtful remarks about your appearance in school.

I like the approach in the book Mindful Compassion, written by researcher Paul Gilbert, Ph.D, and former Tibetan Buddhist monk Choden.


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