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A Farewell to Your Shackles

Sunday, September 7th, 2014

bird, amelia island, 2010

You are a small, unsophisticated machine

simplistic in your function.

And yet

you rule my moods

dictate my diet

and overshadow the joys in my life.


Embracing Our Bodies Despite Our Flaws

Tuesday, August 26th, 2014

creative joy, 2012, yellow flower with quote

Many of us are hesitant to accept our bodies because they’re “flawed.” We have stretch marks, cellulite, too-big thighs, too-small breasts, too-round bellies.

We assume all these traits are terrible imperfections which preclude us from appreciating and loving our bodies.

How can I accept something that is flawed? How can I be positive when there is negative surrounding me, part of me?


Sunday Self-Care Round-Up 8.24.14

Sunday, August 24th, 2014

CT cafe

I’m starting a new round-up series on Weightless that includes all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to feeling our feelings to saying no to saying yes to savoring supportive, healthy relationships.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build fulfilling, satisfying lives. Because self-care simply feels good!

Fittingly, these posts will appear on most Sundays. :) I hope you find these links inspiring and empowering.

The four most influential self-help books of my life.


Creating Your Nourishing List of Yes

Friday, August 22nd, 2014

creative joy, notice, love and hearts, 2012

Last week I talked about the power of saying no, and shared examples of requests, activities, habits and ideas we can say no to. Because saying no gives us the time, space and energy to say yes to what truly nourishes and serves us.

But what are those things for you? Once you say no, what are the yeses you’ll be focusing on?

Because knowing your yeses creates a fulfilling, satisfying life. Because knowing your yeses supports you in saying no.

Because your yeses are so vital, so important that saying no becomes a priority, a way for you to protect what’s precious to you.


The Different Ways We Can Be Kinder to Ourselves

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

amelia island, red flower

In Heart to Heart, my eBook with Anna Guest-Jelley, we focus on cultivating kindness, because we don’t heal ourselves with insults, judgement and body bashing. We heal ourselves — our bruised body image, our sinking self-worth — with compassion.

I like Sharon Salzberg’s definition of kindness in her book The Kindness Handbook: “Kindness can manifest as compassion, as generosity, as paying attention.”


A Unique Way to Approach Your Inner Critic

Saturday, August 16th, 2014

creative joy retreat, 2012, leaf and light

Most of us have a mean — maybe even cruel — inner voice that says everything from “You’re too big to wear that!” to “You’re so stupid!” Understandably, we may grow to dislike — maybe even despise — this inner voice.

We might dislike it because it sounds like someone who used to bully us. Because it sounds like a parent, past partner or so-called friend. Maybe it sounds like the younger you, who regularly received hurtful remarks about your appearance in school.

I like the approach in the book Mindful Compassion, written by researcher Paul Gilbert, Ph.D, and former Tibetan Buddhist monk Choden.


What Worthy Looks Like

Thursday, August 14th, 2014

Our rose, april 2014

This week Anna Guest-Jelley — a close friend and founder of the ever powerful Curvy Yoga — and I introduced you to our eBook Heart to Heart: 20 Poems, Meditations + Affirmations to Embrace Your Body & Cultivate Kindness.

(You can learn more here. Plus, until Tuesday, the 19th, enter the code “HEART” to save $5.)

Today, I wanted to share a new poem with you about being worthy. Because it’s so easy to internalize the message that we must earn our self-worth with accolades, accomplishments and changes in appearance.

When you feel this way, when you second-guess your self-worth, if it resonates with you, return to this reminder.


Heart to Heart: Cultivating A Kinder Relationship With Your Body

Tuesday, August 12th, 2014

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When I was deep in the well of body hatred, I didn’t really see any other path, any other way of being with myself. My friends and family loved me unconditionally, and told me not to be so critical.

But aside from them, there was always a sinking, gnawing feeling that I wasn’t enough, one substantiated (or perhaps triggered) by everything around me.

I ate up these messages. I ate up the messages that said I’d finally be enough when I looked a certain way.


35 Lessons on Body Image, Well-Being And Life

Wednesday, July 30th, 2014

tulips

Today is my 32nd birthday. Every year, for my b-day, I’ve been republishing a version of the below post. It’s become sort of a tradition around here.

In it, I share what I’ve learned about body image, well-being and life in my years on this earth thus far. Why 35? Extra lessons for good measure and good luck!

1. Be you.

In all your amazing and unique glory. Trying to be like others or pretending you like something you actually don’t doesn’t work. Trust me, I’ve tried. It feels awkward and itchy. And then there’s the matter of life being too short.

Find out who you are. Explore your likes and dislikes. Explore what makes you happy. Explore what feeds you, what gets you up in the early hours of the day. Spend time by yourself. Take yourself out on dates.


Body Image Booster: A Key Question to Ask Every Day

Monday, July 28th, 2014

NYC Oct 2012

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

Self-reflection is helpful when building a more positive body image. It helps you pinpoint what you need to work on and understand where you’re at in the first place.


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