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Declaring Our Independence From What Doesn’t Serve Us


Every year, around July 4th, I republish and update a piece on declaring our independence from what doesn’t serve or support us — everything from dieting to damaging beliefs. I hope you find it helpful!
Tomorrow, we’re celebrating our independence here in America. But wherever you live, it also might be the day you celebrate your independence, too.

It might be the day you liberate yourself from certain behaviors, beliefs, objects or people that sink your body image, your self-care, your mood and your life.

For instance, maybe you declare independence from dieting or the bathroom scale, which you toss in the trash.

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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image and Well-Being, Part 2

In May I penned this piece about the different lists we can create for helping us build a more positive body image, practice compassionate self-care and boost our well-being. Today, I'm sharing a list of other lists, which I hope you find helpful!

I love writing lists because they help to simplify overwhelming things -- like feelings, worries, projects, making positive changes in our lives. Lists make the abstract ideas floating around my head more tangible, more doable.

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Surviving Bikini Season with Your Positive Body Image In Tact

You've likely come across an article or email or social media post about getting "bikini ready." Maybe you hear people talking about it at the gym, the grocery store, at work or even at home. It's hard to avoid the frenzy when it tends to be all around us.

Even though I write a blog about building a positive body image, I find myself getting sucked in. Maybe you, too, find yourself joining the conversation, and minutes later, wondering what the heck happened. Minutes later you're discussing diets or counting calories in your head. Minutes later you're unsure if you want dessert. Minutes later you find yourself staring at your belly, and sighing.

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Instead of Rushing to Self-Criticism, Consider these Words

There are many days when I feel disappointed in myself. Even angry. Frustrated that I ate too much, that I wasn't brave, that I made a mistake, that I snapped at a loved one, that I didn't clean, that I didn't work enough, that I didn't do that many reps of an exercise, that I'm not strong enough.

There are days I'm overwhelmed. Days I'm unsure or irritated. Days I think I've gained weight, and I wear my disappointment like a coat. All of us have these days. The details may be different, but the berating and bashing and judging and sadness may be the same.

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Digging for Your Deepest Fear

When I was in the midst of dieting, of worrying about my weight, of trying to lose weight, it had very little, of course, to do with losing weight or trying to be "healthy," or trying to look a certain way. It had nothing to do with any of these things.

Instead, what it did have to do with was self-worth. Somehow my biggest fear became that I wasn't inherently worthy of good things. So I had to earn my worth, as though I were an empty bank account. And every time I lost weight or skipped dessert, I deposited some money.

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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image, Self-Care and Well-Being

In the book Listful Thinking: Using Lists to be More Productive, Highly Successful, and Less Stressed, author Paula Rizzo talks about the many helpful lists we can make.* For Rizzo lists have been a life-saver, helping her do everything from finding an apartment in Manhattan to navigating her busy days as a TV producer.

I make a lot of lists, too, because they help me organize the random racing thoughts preoccupying my mind. They help me break down messy, complicated things into feasible smaller steps. They help me feel less overwhelmed. They help me create a plan of action. They give my life structure. And lists even give me insights into who I am.

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Body Image Booster: Penning a Permission Slip


On some Mondays I share a tip, activity, inspiring quote or other tidbits that help boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. I’d love to hear from you!
One of the biggest reasons I didn't like my body and take good care of it was because I believed I wasn't allowed to. I believed I didn't have the permission until I changed my appearance, until I lost weight, which meant I finally deserved to.

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You Are Not a Number

In an earlier post I talked about the different small ways we can embrace ourselves. In one tip I suggested tossing out the scale. Because you're not a number.

But sometimes, it feels like we are. Doesn't it?

Sometimes, we become convinced that the number on the scale means everything, dictates everything -- from our happiness to our relationship status to our worth as a human being.

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Body Image Booster: Writing A Love Note to Our Bodies

It's been a while since I've written a body image booster post on Mondays. I used to write these posts at the beginning of every week because let's face it Mondays can be tough. We could use a little lift, a tiny boost in the right direction.

Here are two quotes I've recently come across that might help: "Every Monday morning is new hope," as Maira Kalman says. And as Storm Jameson said, “The only way to live is to accept each minute as an unrepeatable miracle, which is exactly what it is: a miracle and unrepeatable.”

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