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Self-Care Sunday: Your Voice

Sunday, March 22nd, 2015

wizard of oz quote

When we dislike our bodies, when we feel uncomfortable in our own skin, we may start silencing our voices.

Because we haven’t lost weight, can’t adhere to a diet, can’t fit into a certain size or don’t fit into a certain standard, we become convinced that our voices don’t matter. That we haven’t earned the right to speak, to matter.

We dismiss our thoughts and opinions. We dismiss our needs. We neglect our feelings.


What If You Still Don’t Like Your Body?

Friday, March 6th, 2015

tulips, horizontal shot

I subscribe to Anna Guest-Jelley’s newsletter (and you should, too; it’s filled with excellent and practical insights). Recently, she wrote something really powerful, which I knew, as soon as I read the words, that I had to share with you.

It’s a beautiful way of thinking about body acceptance. And it’s something I think so many of us forget. I forget.

Because body acceptance can feel tough. It can feel unnatural. But even though it feels uncomfortable, or awkward, or itchy or really hard, that doesn’t mean we’re doomed to hate our bodies or to feel disconnected from them.


Rethinking Exercise for a Fuller Life

Thursday, March 5th, 2015

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Today, we tend to view exercise in the same way we view sweeping the floors, doing the laundry and organizing our dresser drawers: a necessary chore, a nuisance, a should.

We also see exercise as a punishment. A punishment for eating ice cream, a brownie or too many calories. A punishment for relaxing for too long. A punishment for a fun weekend.


Practicing Self-Compassion When You Can’t

Thursday, February 19th, 2015

branch, creative joy

I recently wrote this article on how to practice self-compassion when it’s the last thing you want to do. Because when we’re upset, so many of us revert back to what we know: berating ourselves.

We might do this in the moment. For days. Maybe even weeks.

We might do this after bathing suit shopping. After not running as fast or walking as long as someone else, or ourselves the time before. After an awkward interaction with our boss. After making a mistake. After doing, saying or experiencing anything we deem inadequate.


When You Feel Frustrated with Your Body

Sunday, February 15th, 2015

NYC in Oct 2012

I appreciate my body.

I respect it.

I try to protect it.

And yet there are days when frustration fills

my bones at the same rate my breath does.

 

Days I wish I had more energy

Days I don’t understand why I’m slower

than everyone else in a workout class

Days I’m doubled over with disappointment that I’m not stronger

Days I resent my sensitivity to so many things

Days I wish I didn’t require as much sleep or caring.


A Valentine’s Day Gift for Your Body

Friday, February 13th, 2015

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So often, as we sprint through the day, the last thing we think about is our body.

The last thing we think about is the inner machinery that’s involved in the seemingly simplest of movements: opening our eyes in the morning; glancing about the room, hitting the snooze button (a few times); shifting our feet from the bed to the floor; walking (or running) into the bathroom; splashing water onto our faces; picking up a toothbrush; turning on the faucet for a hot shower.

In those few minutes, our bodies perform great feats.


When You Think Your Body Is to Blame

Friday, February 6th, 2015

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Many of us leap into conclusions when it comes to our bodies. For instance, we assume that if a piece of clothing doesn’t fit us, it’s clearly our fault. It must be because we’re too curvy, our shoulders are too broad, our thighs are too big, our waist is too wide.

We do this with other things, activities and even people. Some of us play this blame game regularly. In the excellent book Yoga and Body Image, co-editor Anna Guest-Jelley shares the different ways she blamed her body.


Beyond the Bucket List: Focusing On Tiny Thrills

Friday, January 23rd, 2015

Jennifer Louden, A Year of Daily Joy

I think bucket lists are wonderful. It’s important to have a place for contemplating and listing your ultimate dreams, for reflecting on the experiences, activities and actions that inspire you. The experiences, activities and actions you just know you need to do. The things that are calling you.

But I also love an idea I read about in Jennifer Louden’s latest book — A Year of Daily Joy: A Guided Journal to Creating Happiness Every Daywhich is filled with beautiful quotes, tips, insights and images. The idea is to create a “thimble list.”


My Body Image Dream for 2015

Monday, January 19th, 2015

amelia island, red flower

Today, in the U.S., we honor Martin Luther King, Jr., who had an incredible dream and helped make it a reality. Inspired by his powerful speech and Therese Borchard’s beautiful piece, every year I republish a piece on my personal dream (which I’ve updated since last year). It’s a dream that focuses on everything from how we treat each other to how we treat ourselves.

I have a dream that our society will stop judging, shaming and bullying people because of their size, shape and weight.

I have a dream that we’ll focus on cultivating healthy habits instead of remaining chained to the numbers on our scales (or calipers or clothes).


Some Thoughts on the New Year And Being a New You

Saturday, January 3rd, 2015

yiddish proverb

It is a new year.

But this doesn’t require being a new you.

Of course, you will see this phrase

in many places:

TV, magazines, websites.

You will hear it in conversation

at work, at the checkout line

maybe even at home.


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