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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image, Self-Care and Well-Being

In the book Listful Thinking: Using Lists to be More Productive, Highly Successful, and Less Stressed, author Paula Rizzo talks about the many helpful lists we can make.* For Rizzo lists have been a life-saver, helping her do everything from finding an apartment in Manhattan to navigating her busy days as a TV producer.

I make a lot of lists, too, because they help me organize the random racing thoughts preoccupying my mind. They help me break down messy, complicated things into feasible smaller steps. They help me feel less overwhelmed. They help me create a plan of action. They give my life structure. And lists even give me insights into who I am.

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Body Image Booster: Penning a Permission Slip


On some Mondays I share a tip, activity, inspiring quote or other tidbits that help boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. I’d love to hear from you!
One of the biggest reasons I didn't like my body and take good care of it was because I believed I wasn't allowed to. I believed I didn't have the permission until I changed my appearance, until I lost weight, which meant I finally deserved to.

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You Are Not a Number

In an earlier post I talked about the different small ways we can embrace ourselves. In one tip I suggested tossing out the scale. Because you're not a number.

But sometimes, it feels like we are. Doesn't it?

Sometimes, we become convinced that the number on the scale means everything, dictates everything -- from our happiness to our relationship status to our worth as a human being.

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Body Image Booster: Writing A Love Note to Our Bodies

It's been a while since I've written a body image booster post on Mondays. I used to write these posts at the beginning of every week because let's face it Mondays can be tough. We could use a little lift, a tiny boost in the right direction.

Here are two quotes I've recently come across that might help: "Every Monday morning is new hope," as Maira Kalman says. And as Storm Jameson said, “The only way to live is to accept each minute as an unrepeatable miracle, which is exactly what it is: a miracle and unrepeatable.”

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Love Yourself Anyway

Some of us grew up in abusive households, where we were torn down every single day. Where we were explicitly told that we are unworthy and unlovable.

Some of us grew up in healthier households, but were bullied in school for our weight, looks or who we are.

Some of us grew up in households where weight was synonymous with self-worth, where certain foods were forbidden and insults about appearance were the norm.

Some of us have had toxic relationships with people who berated us for everything. And, over time, we started to believe them.

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A Powerful Body Image Book for Kids

Today, I’m excited and honored to share my interview with Judith Matz and Elizabeth Patch, creators of the powerful kids book Amanda's Big Dream. It tells the story of a girl who dreams of a solo in the Spring Ice Skating Show. But her confidence plummets when her skating coach makes a comment about her weight.

I’ve known Judith and Elizabeth for several years now, and have featured their important work here on Weightless. Elizabeth is a high school art teacher and illustrator who creates beautiful images that reflect a diversity of body types. As she says on her website: "Happy art for every body!"

Judith is a licensed clinical social worker who's been helping people overcome overeating and build a healthy relationship with food and themselves for over 25 years. She's also the author of The Diet Survivor's Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance and Self-Care and Beyond a Shadow of a Diet: The Comprehensive Guide to Treating Binge Eating Disorder, Compulsive Eating, and Emotional Overeating.

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Self-Care Sunday: Your Voice

When we dislike our bodies, when we feel uncomfortable in our own skin, we may start silencing our voices.

Because we haven't lost weight, can't adhere to a diet, can't fit into a certain size or don't fit into a certain standard, we become convinced that our voices don't matter. That we haven't earned the right to speak, to matter.

We dismiss our thoughts and opinions. We dismiss our needs. We neglect our feelings.

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What If You Still Don’t Like Your Body?

I subscribe to Anna Guest-Jelley's newsletter (and you should, too; it's filled with excellent and practical insights). Recently, she wrote something really powerful, which I knew, as soon as I read the words, that I had to share with you.

It's a beautiful way of thinking about body acceptance. And it's something I think so many of us forget. I forget.

Because body acceptance can feel tough. It can feel unnatural. But even though it feels uncomfortable, or awkward, or itchy or really hard, that doesn't mean we're doomed to hate our bodies or to feel disconnected from them.

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