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Self-Care Sunday Links 8.30.15

On some Sundays I share links to pieces from around the web, along with posts I’ve written for Psych Central. This month's links include everything from reframing your thoughts about exercise to reducing mom guilt to what it really means to love yourself. I hope you find these helpful, and I hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday!
3 strategies to reframe your thinking about exercise.
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You Are Not Your Story, Mistake or Inner Critic’s Comments

So many of us take one isolated event -- a mistake, a painful situation -- or the critical comments of our inner critic and let it color who we are. Completely. It's as though we become this one thing. This one negative thing.

Maybe your inner critic regularly spews remarks about your weight and how you look disgusting and horrible in everything. So you become the person who looks disgusting and horrible all the time.*

Maybe you made a big mistake or a bad decision, which you regret. So you become the person defined by that decision, that one mistake.

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Embracing Your Flaws

For years I had an overpowering all-or-nothing mindset. If I couldn't do it perfectly, then I'd failed. If I didn't look pretty all the time, then I wasn't pretty at all. If I didn't have a flat stomach, then I couldn't like my body. If I didn't ace every test, then I wasn't smart. I had a very hard time accepting that imperfections are natural (and make me me). I had a hard time accepting that being flawed didn't mean being doomed or undeserving or unworthy.

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10 Simple Questions to Help You Identify or Clarify Your Needs

I've said this before many times, but that's because I think it's so important: Our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for all relationships. It's the foundation of everything. Part of this relationship involves having a dialogue with ourselves. It involves identifying our needs and responding to them. Because this is also the foundation for a fulfilling life.

And this is where questions can help. Today, I'm sharing questions you can contemplate regularly to take compassionate care of yourself.

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Self-Care Sunday: A Reminder

We often think that self-care is optional. Or self-care is selfish. Or it's about being lazy. Or we think we can finally access self-care when we lose weight. When we fit into an old pair of jeans. When we meet a certain goal. When life stops being so busy.

We think we have to earn the right to take care of ourselves. It's as though self-care is the reward for working a long day. It's the reward for acing a presentation or completing a project. It's the reward for skipping dessert.

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Reframing How We See Our Bodies

Last weekend I was browsing through the book Unexpected Art: Serendipitous Installations, Site-Specific Works, and Surprising Interventions. One artist's words -- Tomoko Konoike -- especially struck me: "I consider my body not as an object, but first and foremost as a 'place' for internal experience. I think of my artwork, then, as a sort of tool for shifting myself from this inner world of my body to another world..."
This made me wonder: What if we, too, saw our bodies as the places for our internal experience? As the containers of our ideas, questions, compassion, wonder, love? How might we treat them differently then?
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Declaring Our Independence From What Doesn’t Serve Us


Every year, around July 4th, I republish and update a piece on declaring our independence from what doesn’t serve or support us — everything from dieting to damaging beliefs. I hope you find it helpful!
Tomorrow, we’re celebrating our independence here in America. But wherever you live, it also might be the day you celebrate your independence, too.

It might be the day you liberate yourself from certain behaviors, beliefs, objects or people that sink your body image, your self-care, your mood and your life.

For instance, maybe you declare independence from dieting or the bathroom scale, which you toss in the trash.

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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image and Well-Being, Part 2

In May I penned this piece about the different lists we can create for helping us build a more positive body image, practice compassionate self-care and boost our well-being. Today, I'm sharing a list of other lists, which I hope you find helpful!

I love writing lists because they help to simplify overwhelming things -- like feelings, worries, projects, making positive changes in our lives. Lists make the abstract ideas floating around my head more tangible, more doable.

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Surviving Bikini Season with Your Positive Body Image In Tact

You've likely come across an article or email or social media post about getting "bikini ready." Maybe you hear people talking about it at the gym, the grocery store, at work or even at home. It's hard to avoid the frenzy when it tends to be all around us.

Even though I write a blog about building a positive body image, I find myself getting sucked in. Maybe you, too, find yourself joining the conversation, and minutes later, wondering what the heck happened. Minutes later you're discussing diets or counting calories in your head. Minutes later you're unsure if you want dessert. Minutes later you find yourself staring at your belly, and sighing.

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