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Setting Self-Compassionate Boundaries

Thursday, October 30th, 2014

creative joy retreat, 2012, hearts

This week my friend and favorite blogger Therese Borchard wrote a powerful piece about self-compassion and setting boundaries. The whole piece is a must-read. But it’s these words that struck me, because they’re all too familiar:


Self-Care Sunday: Exploring Who You’ve Been

Sunday, October 26th, 2014

caterpillar quote, BN, october 2014

In addition to sharing links to others’ posts on self-care (along with a few of my own) in these “Self-Care Sunday” posts, I’m also occasionally sharing a small tip or idea for taking kinder care of ourselves.

Right now I’m reading Wild by Cheryl Strayed. (I know. I’m always late to the party.) In the beginning of the book, she talks about all the things she’s been.

She writes: “I’d been so many things already. A loving wife and adulteress. A beloved daughter who now spent holidays alone. An ambitious overachiever and aspiring writer who hopped from one meaningless job to the next while dabbling dangerously with drugs and sleeping with too many men. I was the granddaughter of a Pennsylvania coal miner, the daughter of a steelworker turned salesman.”


Questions to Ask Ourselves for Practicing Self-Care

Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014

flowers and candle at home, CROPPED

This morning I was reading Mara’s newsletter (I highly recommend subscribing, which you can do here). In it, she mentions the simple question we can ask ourselves when practicing self-care: What do I need?

It’s a question we ask every day, several times a day.

I love this because sometimes we complicate self-care. We get caught up in shoulds and checking off tasks. We equate self-care with specific activities — pedicures, bubble baths, exercise, eating certain foods.


Self-Care Sunday 10.19.14

Sunday, October 19th, 2014

Unrepeatable quote, BN, october 2014

In this new series I share links to all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to expressing our creativity (which goes hand in hand with self-discovery) to feeling our feelings to saying no to saying yes to savoring supportive, healthy relationships.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build fulfilling, satisfying lives. Because self-care simply feels good!

I hope you find these links inspiring and empowering.

12 ways to get out of a bad mood.

Are you missing from the visual story of your life?


What to Do When Your Inner Critic Is Roaring

Friday, October 17th, 2014

creative joy, wishes

A few days ago, in this post, I shared the many qualities that make up our inner critics, from Tara Mohr’s powerful book Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message. Because our inner critic is very different from our core self.

As Tara writes, “You are not the critical voice. You are the person aware of the critical voice. You are the person feeling perplexed by it or bummed out by it or believing it…You are the entity that is hearing the voice.”

Today, I wanted to share more insights from Tara’s book on how we can navigate our inner critic because she offers a helpful and compassionate approach.


How to Distinguish Your Core Self From Your Inner Critic

Wednesday, October 15th, 2014

Each of us has an inner critic. In fact, we’re hardwired for one, according to Tara Mohr in her fantastic book Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message.

She describes the inner critic as an expression of our safety instinct. It’s the part of us that yearns to stay safe from dangers like hurt, failure, disappointment and rejection.

And it’s a part that we often confuse with our core selves. We assume that the cruel comments are just us. It’s how we are. And they must be true.

We accept the inner critic’s messages wholeheartedly.


A Helpful Way to Think Of Your Thoughts

Saturday, October 11th, 2014

St. Aug, October 2014, taken by mama

Years ago, I used to believe my cruel thoughts wholeheartedly. One reason was because I assumed they were true blue facts. Another reason was because I worried that I was cheating if I didn’t agree with these negative thoughts.

I was somehow doing something wrong if I let them slip by without fully consuming them. I would be letting myself off the hook. I would be taking the easy way out. I wouldn’t be holding myself accountable or responsible. And this wasn’t the right thing to do, I assumed.


Paying Attention to Our Bodies

Wednesday, October 8th, 2014

Author Tina Welling had no idea that she had an underactive thyroid. She was experiencing all the symptoms, such as weakness and frequent infections. She was canceling meetings and outings with friends. Her work schedule was getting tougher and tougher to keep up with.

But she hadn’t noticed any of this — until a blood test showed her levels were off the charts. She’d become numb to her own body.


Connecting to Our Core Selves

Thursday, October 2nd, 2014

NYC, early July 2014, cropped, deep blue sea

In her piece on the power of story and the quest for our true selves, Justine Musk includes this poem by David Whyte (the last few lines are my favorite):

This is not
the age of information.
This is not
the age of information.
Forget the news,
and the radio,
and the blurred screen.
This is the time
of loaves
and fishes.
People are hungry
and one good word is bread
for a thousand.


What to Remember When You Feel Terrible About Your Body

Thursday, September 25th, 2014

sneakers shot

I think it’s key to feel our feelings — whatever the feeling that comes up. All feelings are valid. So if you’re feeling like crap about your body, then you’re feeling like crap about your body.

That’s OK.

It’s something to acknowledge, accept and feel — instead of beating yourself up for beating yourself up.

But sometimes these feelings and thoughts stick around too long. And they start dictating our decisions to not take kind care of ourselves (which only boosts our negative body image). They become overwhelming. All-consuming. Stressful.


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