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Meeting Your Needs When You’re Super Busy

Friday, December 12th, 2014

amelia island, red flower

In the last few months Brian and I have been planning our wedding (while experiencing some unexpected drama with our venue), and making improvements on our house.

I’ve been revising my book while working on my normal writing projects. Brian has been swamped at work. And, of course, we have the holidays.

Things have been hectic, to say the least. (And we don’t have any kids or pets!)

What I’ve realized during these busy times is the importance of meeting my own needs (and letting others meet theirs). I’ve realized just how critical it is to my well-being, productivity and sanity. Because you can’t go wrong with focusing on your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.

Other Ways to Practice Self-Compassion This Holiday Season

Saturday, December 6th, 2014

Buddha quote

Yesterday, I wrote about the different ways we can be kind to ourselves no matter the holiday season we’re having.Today, I’m sharing other ways we can practice self-compassion.

Self-Compassion During the Holiday Season

Friday, December 5th, 2014

creative joy, single heart, 2012

The holiday season is upon us. I just took a deep breath after writing that. Maybe you’d like to, too.

The holidays are a beautiful time, but they also may be a stressful and even heartbreaking time for oh-so many reasons.

Whatever this month brings for you, I hope you let it start and end with kindness. No matter what’s happening, I hope you can extend lots of compassion your way. I hope you give yourself doses of it daily, hourly.

Self-Care Sunday: A Tip for Practicing Self-Care Every Day

Sunday, November 30th, 2014


In addition to sharing links to others’ posts on self-care (along with a few of my own) in these “Self-Care Sunday” posts, I also sometimes share a small tip or idea for taking kinder care of ourselves.

Self-care is an attitude — of compassion toward ourselves. It’s asking ourselves “what’s the kindest choice I can make?”

It’s also action. It’s action that nourishes and supports us. It’s action that contributes to our health and well-being, in all different ways. It’s small steps on a daily basis. Because our lives, of course, are made up of little moments.

Self-Care Sunday 11.23.14

Sunday, November 23rd, 2014

chuck close, face book

{from Chuck Close: Face Book}

On some Sundays I share links to all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to expressing our creativity (which goes hand in hand with self-discovery) to feeling our feelings.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build fulfilling, satisfying lives. Because self-care simply feels good!

I hope you find these links inspiring and empowering.

I love this post from Tara: Consider what you’d do if the critics weren’t in the room.

And this one from Rachel on redefining success.

Prompts for Practicing Gratitude for Our Bodies

Friday, November 21st, 2014

gustave flaubert quote, poetry, particles and life

With American Thanksgiving less than a week away (how did this happen!!), I wanted to share more ideas with you on practicing gratitude, year-round. (On Wednesday I talked about doing a gratitude alphabet. )

For instance, this month, Laura Simms, a career coach whose work I greatly admire, has been hosting a photo challenge on Instagram called “the daily bon.” (You can learn all about it here.) I shared the above photo for the prompt “handwriting.”

A Unique Way to Practice Gratitude

Wednesday, November 19th, 2014

the grateful life

Gratitude is a self-compassionate practice, according to therapist Lea Seigen Shinraku, MFT, who I recently interviewed for a piece on authentic ways to practice gratitude.

“Acknowledging and expressing genuine gratitude for what you appreciate in your life is a deeply kind act,” she said.

I agree. When we express gratitude for anything, it deepens our connection with it, and it deepens our connection with ourselves.

Your Body Belongs

Thursday, November 13th, 2014

creative joy, hearts

“Our bodies know they belong; it is our minds that make our lives so homeless.”

~ John O’Donohue

The above quote is part of Anna’s #CurvyLoveNotes, which she shares on Instagram. It inspired the below words:

On Body Image: Be Stubborn

Friday, November 7th, 2014

Connecticut, path littered w leaves

I can’t tell you how much I love this post from Jennifer Louden (whose work is incredible, and you guys know I link to her pieces regularly). In it she talks about the importance of being stubborn.

Jen has penned six non-fiction books, plenty of essays and a magazine column for three years, among other projects. Today, she consistently writes powerful posts on her blog (and elsewhere), and continues to write excellent books.

All of this writing, however, isn’t easy for Jen. Yet she doesn’t stop — despite her own inner critic or the negative comments of others. She writes:

3 Lessons on Body Image, Self-Doubt & Self-Care

Thursday, November 6th, 2014

pomegranate candle from mama, november 2014

This month marks five years since I started writing Weightless. (This was my first post published on November 2nd 2009.) Five years! Wow. It’s cliche, but true: Time flies.

Like I do every year, I’d like to share a few lessons I’ve learned along the way from writing this blog and living this life.

1. Our bodies aren’t currency. 



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