Archives for Self Worth

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Self-Care Sunday: A Reminder

We often think that self-care is optional. Or self-care is selfish. Or it's about being lazy. Or we think we can finally access self-care when we lose weight. When we fit into an old pair of jeans. When we meet a certain goal. When life stops being so busy.

We think we have to earn the right to take care of ourselves. It's as though self-care is the reward for working a long day. It's the reward for acing a presentation or completing a project. It's the reward for skipping dessert.

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Body Image

Reframing How We See Our Bodies

Last weekend I was browsing through the book Unexpected Art: Serendipitous Installations, Site-Specific Works, and Surprising Interventions. One artist's words -- Tomoko Konoike -- especially struck me: "I consider my body not as an object, but first and foremost as a 'place' for internal experience. I think of my artwork, then, as a sort of tool for shifting myself from this inner world of my body to another world..."
This made me wonder: What if we, too, saw our bodies as the places for our internal experience? As the containers of our ideas, questions, compassion, wonder, love? How might we treat them differently then?
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Self-Care Sunday: Dealing with Bad Days

Some days are just harder than others. Some days you wake up drained. You don't feel like talking to anyone. In fact, you don't feel like doing anything at all. The smallest of actions seem to require the most energy (like getting out of bed). Energy you don't happen to have. Some days the world looks darker. You feel like you've failed one too many times.

You're officially having a bad day -- even though nothing particularly bad has happened.

Here's what I've found to be helpful on those days:

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Books

When You’re Thinking “Why Me??” This Can Help



Perception matters. A lot. How we perceive a situation will likely dictate our behavior. How we perceive ourselves will likely dictate certain decisions.

We will likely make very different decisions if we see a mistake as a failure versus as an opportunity for growth. We'll likely make very different decisions if we think "This always happens to me! What's the point of trying? I'll just lose or mess up anyway."

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Body Image

Declaring Our Independence From What Doesn’t Serve Us


Every year, around July 4th, I republish and update a piece on declaring our independence from what doesn’t serve or support us — everything from dieting to damaging beliefs. I hope you find it helpful!
Tomorrow, we’re celebrating our independence here in America. But wherever you live, it also might be the day you celebrate your independence, too.

It might be the day you liberate yourself from certain behaviors, beliefs, objects or people that sink your body image, your self-care, your mood and your life.

For instance, maybe you declare independence from dieting or the bathroom scale, which you toss in the trash.

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Self-Care Sunday: Seeking Solitude

Spending time alone is how we tune in to ourselves. It's how we listen to our thoughts, feelings and needs. Which, of course, is the first step in caring for ourselves. It's how we get to know what we like and don't like. It's how we explore who we are. It's how we make sense of everything. It's how we learn to trust ourselves.

I spend a lot of time alone. And yet not enough.

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Body Image

Writing Lists for a Better Body Image and Well-Being, Part 2

In May I penned this piece about the different lists we can create for helping us build a more positive body image, practice compassionate self-care and boost our well-being. Today, I'm sharing a list of other lists, which I hope you find helpful!

I love writing lists because they help to simplify overwhelming things -- like feelings, worries, projects, making positive changes in our lives. Lists make the abstract ideas floating around my head more tangible, more doable.

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