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Giving Others the Gift of Our Sight

So often what we want most when we're overwhelmed, afraid, exhausted, lost, a foreigner in our own bodies is to be seen. To be heard. To have another human being understand, really understand, what we're going through, where we're coming from. To have another human being listen, without texting, without looking around, without criticizing. To look at us directly, to look into our eyes. To be present with us wholeheartedly.

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How to Catch Yourself When You’re Falling

There is a beautiful quote from Baal Shem Tov: "Let me fall if I must fall. The one I will become will catch me."

Which always reminds me that we have the power to catch ourselves, even if we don't think we can. That is comforting and empowering, because all of us will fall. We may fall from the sky, a very long descent. We may fall out of a second-story window, closer to the ground but still potentially bruised. But, again, these falls are OK. Because we can handle this. Because we've got this. We can be our own superman, swooping in when we've been thrown from a building.

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Making Choices from Love, Not Fear

Do any of these experiences sound familiar, whether past or present: You took on jobs that you hated and held onto every dollar you had out of fear of not having enough money. You punished your body at the gym for fear of gaining weight. You watched what you ate because you hated your body. You surrounded yourself with unhealthy "friends," and endured unhealthy relationships because you feared being rejected. You became a people-pleaser because you feared disappointing others. You partied and trashed your body to numb the deep loneliness you felt.

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Self-Care Sunday: Embracing and Savoring Life’s Messes

One of my favorite magazines, Bella Grace, asked readers to share the messes they secretly love. Which they featured in a piece in their seventh issue. Which has quickly become one of my favorite articles. Which is a powerful perspective to cultivate. Because life is messy, and there are many messes that are actually beautiful. Many messes we already do and can embrace.

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