You will see plenty of articles about the average number of calories in a Thanksgiving meal and how horrifying this is supposed to be. You’ll see plenty of articles on which foods you can eat and which foods you should never ever ever consume.
You’ll see articles portraying food as the enemy or Thanksgiving and the holidays in general as a battle you must defeat. (Or articles that create multiple enemies — one article said “food isn’t always the enemy” and then named something else that is.)
You’ll see articles that demonize food and you for “indulging.” They might be filled with judgement, scare tactics and guilt. They might be filled with ridiculous tips to manipulate yourself to eat less.
With American Thanksgiving less than a week away (how did this happen!!), I wanted to share more ideas with you on practicing gratitude, year-round. (On Wednesday I talked about doing a gratitude alphabet. )
For instance, this month, Laura Simms, a career coach whose work I greatly admire, has been hosting a photo challenge on Instagram called “the daily bon.” (You can learn all about it here.) I shared the above photo for the prompt “handwriting.”
Gratitude is a self-compassionate practice, according to therapist Lea Seigen Shinraku, MFT, who I recently interviewed for a piece on authentic ways to practice gratitude.
“Acknowledging and expressing genuine gratitude for what you appreciate in your life is a deeply kind act,” she said.
I agree. When we express gratitude for anything, it deepens our connection with it, and it deepens our connection with ourselves.
In addition to sharing links to others’ posts on self-care (along with a few of my own) in these “Self-Care Sunday” posts, I also sometimes share a small tip or idea for taking kinder care of ourselves.
The holidays can be a stressful time. There are extra responsibilities, on top of our regular responsibilities. There are strong emotions swirling inside our bodies, possibly a combination of deep joy and deep grief.
We may have unrealistic expectations about everything going perfectly. And start getting disappointed when they don’t.
Every year, around July 4th, I republish and update a piece on declaring our independence from what doesn’t serve us — everything from dieting to damaging beliefs. Hope you find it helpful!
Tomorrow, we’re celebrating our independence here in America. But wherever you live, it also might be the day you celebrate your independence, too.
It might be the day you liberate yourself from certain behaviors, beliefs, objects or people that sink your body image, your self-care, your mood and your life.
This afternoon I interviewed an ADHD coach for a piece on Psych Central about chronic lateness. At the end of our conversation, she mentioned that today is the International Day of Happiness.
I had no idea. So in the spirit of today’s significance, here’s a list of 10 ways we can cultivate joy today and every day.
Today, in the U.S., we honor Martin Luther King, Jr., who had an incredible dream and helped make it a reality. Inspired by his powerful speech and Therese Borchard’s achingly beautiful piece, I’m republishing an updated version of last year’s post on my personal dream. It’s a dream that focuses on everything from how we treat each other to how we treat ourselves.
I have a dream that our society will stop judging, shaming and bullying people because of their size, shape and weight.
I have a dream that we’ll focus on cultivating healthy habits instead of remaining chained to the numbers on our scales (or calipers).
“I really dislike working out.”
That’s what Jillian Michaels — the trainer on The Biggest Loser — recently told a magazine while promoting one of her workouts.
So why does she do it? Because, she says, she loves her skinny jeans and playing with her kids. Then she shares her thoughts on how often everyone needs to work out per week.
This is just one of countless articles making the rounds in January — the month that’s all about the new us (“New Year, New You”). Articles filled with shoulds and have-tos and you-betters.
Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!
Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. I’d love to hear from you!
Rather than creating resolutions, many bloggers choose one word to guide their new year. It’s like an intention, a reminder, an invitation, an exploration.
You can’t turn the TV on, visit a bookstore or read a magazine without seeing something with the slogan “New Year, New You.” (Or simply open your inbox. Just today I got an email from Amazon with this subject line.)
And like many things in our culture — ads for diet foods and weight loss companies — after a while, you might feel like you need to board the same train. You might feel like you need to adopt the same line of thinking and change yourself.