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Rediscovering and Remembering What We’re Grateful For

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone who's celebrating! So I was away a bit longer than I thought (apparently revising almost 70,000 words takes some time). But we'll be back to regular programming next week. :)

Every year for Thanksgiving I write a post about what I'm grateful for (like last year). This year, however, I'm sharing some questions to help us rediscover and remember what is meaningful to us -- from the super small stuff to the really big things. (You guys know by now I'm all about asking questions.)
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Setting Boundaries When Loved Ones Comment on Your Weight

What do you do when someone close to you comments on your weight? Makes a snarky remark about your looks? Makes a joke about your recent weight gain?

When this happens, you might be shocked, startled and really sad. It can be downright painful.

Maybe you've been working on embracing your body for a while, but these kinds of comments still bruise you. Or maybe you're in a shaky relationship with your body. And these comments certainly don't help.

Recently, a reader asked me for advice on navigating these kinds of situations. She's going home for the holidays and her family tends to focus a lot on weight and appearance. So I reached out to some of my favorite clinicians for help. I shared one excellent response last week.

Today, I'm sharing Judith Matz's valuable suggestions (along with two more therapists). Judith, LCSW, is a clinical social worker who helps people make peace with food, their bodies, and themselves. She's the author and co-author of the fantastic books Amanda's Big Dream; The Diet Survivor's Handbook; and Beyond a Shadow of a Diet. You can learn more about Judith at her website
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What to Do When Your Family Comments on Your Weight

Recently, a reader, Jen, left an excellent question on my post about what to do when you gain weight. She wrote:

"Also, I was wondering if you could write on the topic of family members commenting on weight gain. I grew up in a family that focuses a lot on weight and appearance, and doesn’t care to discuss emotional health. I’m visiting family over Thanksgiving this year, and have been ruminating and ruminating and ruminating about what my family will think of me. Some of them I haven’t seen for 3 years, so they’ll certainly notice if I’ve changed; and they’ll comment on it, too. That’s what I’m most afraid of, and why I keep thinking about Thanksgiving, and dreading it very much in the process.

Currently, I don’t have tools that I can use to deal with the emotional pain of them commenting on my appearance, if they do. I’ve learned to handle my own mean comments, but comments from family members just seem too difficult to manage."

Of course, she's not alone. This is a common, very common, issue that we face, whether we're recovering from an eating disorder, working on embracing our bodies or trying not to focus on weight at all. Our families might comment on how much weight we've gained or lost. They might comment on how much we're eating or not eating. They might make other comments about our appearance, which hurt us.

And they might make these comments at any time, at any gathering. Which is why I wanted to explore this topic right away. (Plus, the holidays are right around the corner.)

I've asked a few different experts to chime in. Today, I'm sharing an excellent response from Amy Pershing, LMSW, ACSW, the founding director of Bodywise BED Recovery Program in Ann Arbor, Mich. She's also the clinical director of the The Center for Eating Disorders in Ann Arbor, and a past Chair of The Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA).
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Asking Beautiful Questions in 2015

Because we had a busy end of the year -- the holidays, getting the house ready for company, getting married, having loved ones in town, submitting book revisions, working on other projects -- I didn't get a chance to reflect that much on the old year or the new year.

I feel like I leaped into 2015. Excited and grateful but exhausted.

So I was happy to find a great piece on making intentions around this time, which doesn't make me feel like I'm already incredibly behind or missed out on something. The piece is by author Warren Berger and is called "Forget Resolutions, What's Your 'Beautiful Question' for 2015?"

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60 Last-Minute Body Positive Gifts For Your Loved Ones & Yourself

Since I’ve been writing Weightless, every year around this time, I’ve shared a list of last-minute gifts we can give to our loved ones and ourselves — whether we’re celebrating Christmas or not. I’ve combined those lists, updated them and added new ideas.

Below, you’ll find a combination of presents you can purchase and gifts that don’t cost a thing. I hope these give you some good ideas.

And, if you’re celebrating Christmas, I hope you have a beautiful holiday. I'll be celebrating with my very soon-to-be hubby and our family. And, if you’re not, I hope you have a beautiful day.

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When You’re Overwhelmed Try these Words

I'm a person who tends to get triggered easily. It doesn't take much to make me overwhelmed, to trigger the "what if?" "holy crap" pile of thoughts. I've gotten much better throughout the years, but lately it's been tough with so many things to plan and do.

So lately, I've been thinking of ways I can talk to myself without making matters worse. Because the dialogue in our heads can and does make matters worse. The words we use can create tidal waves, explosions, catastrophes inside our minds, which complicate our coping and incite our already stressed-out bodies.

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