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Finding Fulfillment Beyond Your Weight, Shape or Size

For so many of us weighing less not only becomes a goal we strive for. It also becomes intertwined with all sorts of things. Our self-worth. ("I am only worthy if I lose weight. I'm terrible, unlikeable, unloveable, _______ if I don't lose anything, or worse, if I gain and gain.") Our lives. We assume it gives us meaning. Fulfillment. And we pursue weight loss with the same passion, perseverance and all-in attitude that we might devote to something else. Like a relationship. Like writing. Like learning another craft.
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Seemingly Small Steps That Can be Powerful

We think we need to make big earth-shattering decisions to build meaningful lives, to make positive changes. And sometimes that's true. Sometimes that might mean moving to a new city, getting a new job, starting a new academic program, ending a toxic relationship. But often the smallest steps can be surprisingly powerful. Plus, sometimes, we assume that it's either "go big or go home." And, because we feel overwhelmed, we go home. We feel paralyzed. And we don't do anything.
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Sharing Our Shame

I just penned a piece for our main blog about being ourselves, what this really means and what it really looks like. One of the psychologists I interviewed shared this story with me: A young man was deeply ashamed about his enormous debt from student loans and credit cards. He didn't want anyone to know, including his friends, because he feared that they would judge and exclude him.
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Culture

Making Mondays Magical—Or at Least Less Miserable

Mondays get a bad rap. Inevitably, every Monday morning, we see images on different social media sites talking about how terrible Mondays are, wishing for a shorter day and a stronger cup of coffee (or five)---among other things. Often these images are hilarious. Most of us really do dread Mondays since it's the start of the work week. Technically, it's time to get serious and get back to our tight, demanding schedules.
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A Different Way to Deal with Your Inner Critic

Often we want to banish our inner critic. We want it to vanish. To eliminate it once and for all. This is totally understandable, because it's a cruel voice, which is painful to hear. Sometimes, incredibly painful. It just sounds so angry. Your inner critic might be akin to a person screaming in your face. Really loud. All the time. It might hurl insults. It might be a constant stream of negativity, and you can't do this and you can't do that, you idiot! 
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