This summer I’m craving bike rides, savoring the sight of big green trees for miles and the feel of the breeze cooling off my sweat-soaked skin.
This summer I’m craving a scoop of chocolate ice cream with rainbow sprinkles.
I’m craving grilled shrimp and french fries by the beach.
I hope everyone is enjoying a great Sunday! I wanted to pop in and share several soothing visualizations with you.
You can practice these right now. You can practice them when you’re feeling stressed, anxious or overwhelmed.
You can practice them to help you ease emotional and physical tension, to decelerate the racing, body-bashing thoughts.
You can practice your favorite visualization as part of a daily ritual — in the morning, afternoon or at night. Light a candle, turn on some soft meditative music, and simply begin.
Recently Susannah, one of my favorite bloggers, shared this check-in post. In it, she lists what’s she’s currently reading, feeling, smelling, tasting, listening to, creating, wanting and pondering.
I love this list because I think it’s a valuable way to check in with ourselves. It’s a simple way to stay attuned to our inner selves.
By writing a list like this we convey to ourselves that yes, I am important, and yes, I’m listening, I’m all ears, You are truly being heard.
Last week we explored the things we like — and don’t like — on a daily basis. Continuing with the self-discovery theme, here are more questions to help you uncover your needs and nourish them.
Importantly, when you’re thinking about responding to your needs, remember that there’s a time for everything — a time to browse social media sites and a time to get outside, no computer, no phone.
It’s hard to feel comfortable in your own skin when you’re stressed or tense. I think part of the reason my body image was so negative years ago was because my body felt foreign to me.
Because I rarely felt relaxed. Because I just didn’t know how to relax. Because I was constantly a big, tight ball of tension and anxiety and overwhelm.
Those emotions and reactions added to the physical heaviness I felt, making it very hard for me to feel good and safe and serene in my own body.
It wasn’t a weight issue (i.e., I didn’t need to lose weight). No, I needed better coping strategies. I needed to honor my body’s desire for movement and calm.
I needed to find ways to access this peace and energy within myself.
Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!
Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.
Psychologist Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D, writes one of my favorite blogs on Psych Central. It’s all about practicing mindfulness.
Last week he talked about the power of being just 10 percent kinder to ourselves and others.
I used to spin many painful stories about myself, my weight and my appearance. For instance, I used to cling to a story that said that once I was thin, I’d be beautiful, popular and happy.
I also used to cling to a story that revolved around self-care: I didn’t deserve to take care of myself until I was a certain size; that I somehow wasn’t allowed to feel good until I reached my goal weight.
I believed that I had to earn self-care (along with respect, love and kindness, both from myself and others).
Last week I shared a journaling prompt to get us started on writing 10 positive statements about our bodies.
Today, I’m sharing more prompts and questions that help us tune into our bodies and actually listen to them — something many of us (myself included) forget to do.
Before you start writing, close your eyes, put your hands on your heart, and take several deep, long breaths.
A few months ago I wrote this article about couples holding a marriage meeting once a week.
According to psychotherapist Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW, in her book Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted, marriage meetings help couples reconnect, resolve conflicts, work as a team and make sure the household runs smoothly.
Marriage meetings consist of four things: expressing appreciation for each other; discussing and delegating chores; scheduling activities together; and discussing one or two issues.
I think this actually provides a great structure for regularly checking in with ourselves. Think of this time as your self-care meeting.
A positive body image goes beyond liking your looks. It encompasses taking good care of yourself and leading a fulfilling life. In this weekly series, I share some of my favorite posts from some of my favorite bloggers on this topic. Sometimes I also share relevant pieces that I’ve written elsewhere. Hope you find these links inspiring!
Questions to spark self-discovery.
What do you believe? “I believe in the beauty of curves. That individual expression is the best way to go. And that it is possible to love your body, even on days when you don’t like it.”