Healthy Coping Articles

Practicing Self-Care: The Daily & Weekly Check-In

Tuesday, June 3rd, 2014

my wall collage, chrome filter on iphone, june, 2014

Recently Susannah, one of my favorite bloggers, shared this check-in post. In it, she lists what’s she’s currently reading, feeling, smelling, tasting, listening to, creating, wanting and pondering.

I love this list because I think it’s a valuable way to check in with ourselves. It’s a simple way to stay attuned to our inner selves.

By writing a list like this we convey to ourselves that yes, I am important, and yes, I’m listening, I’m all ears, You are truly being heard.


15 Questions to Explore And Nourish Your Needs

Tuesday, May 27th, 2014

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Last week we explored the things we like — and don’t like — on a daily basis. Continuing with the self-discovery theme, here are more questions to help you uncover your needs and nourish them.

Importantly, when you’re thinking about responding to your needs, remember that there’s a time for everything — a time to browse social media sites and a time to get outside, no computer, no phone.


3 Ways to Calm Your Body

Wednesday, May 21st, 2014

shortcuts to inner peace, ashley davis bush

It’s hard to feel comfortable in your own skin when you’re stressed or tense. I think part of the reason my body image was so negative years ago was because my body felt foreign to me.

Because I rarely felt relaxed. Because I just didn’t know how to relax. Because I was constantly a big, tight ball of tension and anxiety and overwhelm.

Those emotions and reactions added to the physical heaviness I felt, making it very hard for me to feel good and safe and serene in my own body.

It wasn’t a weight issue (i.e., I didn’t need to lose weight). No, I needed better coping strategies. I needed to honor my body’s desire for movement and calm.

I needed to find ways to access this peace and energy within myself.


Body Image Booster: Be 10 Percent Kinder

Monday, May 19th, 2014

updated pic of heart blooms, may 2013, in CT

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

Psychologist Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D, writes one of my favorite blogs on Psych Central. It’s all about practicing mindfulness.

Last week he talked about the power of being just 10 percent kinder to ourselves and others.


Reinterpreting Painful Stories

Tuesday, May 13th, 2014

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I used to spin many painful stories about myself, my weight and my appearance. For instance, I used to cling to a story that said that once I was thin, I’d be beautiful, popular and happy.

I also used to cling to a story that revolved around self-care: I didn’t deserve to take care of myself until I was a certain size; that I somehow wasn’t allowed to feel good until I reached my goal weight.

I believed that I had to earn self-care (along with respect, love and kindness, both from myself and others).


Journaling Prompts & Questions for Listening to Your Body

Sunday, May 11th, 2014

anastasia island, 1, 2014, taken by mama, text included

Last week I shared a journaling prompt to get us started on writing 10 positive statements about our bodies.

Today, I’m sharing more prompts and questions that help us tune into our bodies and actually listen to them — something many of us (myself included) forget to do.

Before you start writing, close your eyes, put your hands on your heart, and take several deep, long breaths.


A Helpful Way to Check in with Yourself

Monday, May 5th, 2014

creative joy, single heart, 2012

A few months ago I wrote this article about couples holding a marriage meeting once a week.

According to psychotherapist Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW, in her book Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted, marriage meetings help couples reconnect, resolve conflicts, work as a team and make sure the household runs smoothly.

Marriage meetings consist of four things: expressing appreciation for each other; discussing and delegating chores; scheduling activities together; and discussing one or two issues.

I think this actually provides a great structure for regularly checking in with ourselves. Think of this time as your self-care meeting.


Body Image Boosters From The Blogosphere 5.4.14

Sunday, May 4th, 2014

Our rose, april 2014

A positive body image goes beyond liking your looks. It encompasses taking good care of yourself and leading a fulfilling life. In this weekly series, I share some of my favorite posts from some of my favorite bloggers on this topic. Sometimes I also share relevant pieces that I’ve written elsewhere. Hope you find these links inspiring!

Questions to spark self-discovery.

What do you believe? “I believe in the beauty of curves. That individual expression is the best way to go. And that it is possible to love your body, even on days when you don’t like it.”


Making Self-Care A Priority

Friday, May 2nd, 2014

books on my shelf, in brookhaven

According to life coach, speaker and author Renée Peterson Trudeau in her book Nurturing the Soul of Your Family: 10 Ways to Reconnect and Find Peace in Everyday Life, self-care includes everything from silencing self-criticism to saying no to carving out downtime to not letting guilt drive your actions.


Other Ways to View Your Inner Critic

Tuesday, April 29th, 2014

summer island, bird, st. aug, taken by mama

Last weekend I wrote about taking a business-like approach to dealing with our inner critics. Because I’ve realized that fighting or ignoring my inner critic doesn’t really work.

It just seems to add fuel to an already hungry, raging fire.

Other approaches that may help with our inner critic include being lighthearted, curious and compassionate.


 
 

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