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Self-Care Sunday 11.23.14

Sunday, November 23rd, 2014

chuck close, face book

{from Chuck Close: Face Book}

On some Sundays I share links to all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to expressing our creativity (which goes hand in hand with self-discovery) to feeling our feelings.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build fulfilling, satisfying lives. Because self-care simply feels good!

I hope you find these links inspiring and empowering.

I love this post from Tara: Consider what you’d do if the critics weren’t in the room.

And this one from Rachel on redefining success.


Self-Care Sunday: Holiday Edition

Sunday, November 16th, 2014

Rockefellar Center, NYC, w filter

In addition to sharing links to others’ posts on self-care (along with a few of my own) in these “Self-Care Sunday” posts, I also sometimes share a small tip or idea for taking kinder care of ourselves.

The holidays can be a stressful time. There are extra responsibilities, on top of our regular responsibilities. There are strong emotions swirling inside our bodies, possibly a combination of deep joy and deep grief.

We may have unrealistic expectations about everything going perfectly. And start getting disappointed when they don’t.


The Power Of Writing & Exercises to Try

Tuesday, November 11th, 2014

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I believe each of us is creative. From birth.

Julia Cameron believes that each of us is a writer. Also from birth.

“I believe we all come into life as writers,” she writes in her book The Right to Write: An Invitation and Initiation into the Writing Life.

We are born, she writes, with the gift of language. This gift comes to us within months, as we start naming people, objects, our surroundings.


3 Lessons on Body Image, Self-Doubt & Self-Care

Thursday, November 6th, 2014

pomegranate candle from mama, november 2014

This month marks five years since I started writing Weightless. (This was my first post published on November 2nd 2009.) Five years! Wow. It’s cliche, but true: Time flies.

Like I do every year, I’d like to share a few lessons I’ve learned along the way from writing this blog and living this life.

1. Our bodies aren’t currency. 


Self-Care Sunday 11.2.14

Sunday, November 2nd, 2014

office spot, nov 2014

In this new series I share links to all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to expressing our creativity (which goes hand in hand with self-discovery) to feeling our feelings to saying no to saying yes to savoring supportive, healthy relationships.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build fulfilling, satisfying lives. Because self-care simply feels good!

I hope you find these links inspiring and empowering.

10 questions for giving up martyrdom.

Such a wonderful perspective on others criticizing our work!


Dear Body: A Letter of Apology

Friday, October 31st, 2014

sneakers shot

Dear Body,

This isn’t the first time this happened. Years ago, weeks ago, you issued the same pleas in the form of an aching back. First it started with a pinch, a whisper. This week it was an all-out roar.

The act of bending down was dicey. Walking fully upright didn’t feel very good. Rolling over in bed took effort (and produced pain). Walking too quickly triggered spasms (and a shout of “ouch!” inside my brain).

You know that I love a challenging workout. I love how empowered I feel after doing many push-ups. It is a reminder that I am strong. Every push-up shatters the stories my brain has spun for years of not being an athlete, of being awkward, of being weak.


Setting Self-Compassionate Boundaries

Thursday, October 30th, 2014

creative joy retreat, 2012, hearts

This week my friend and favorite blogger Therese Borchard wrote a powerful piece about self-compassion and setting boundaries. The whole piece is a must-read. But it’s these words that struck me, because they’re all too familiar:


A Creative Way to Explore Your Emotions

Saturday, October 25th, 2014

glitter, washi tape, creativity, 2014

All of our emotions, whether negative or positive, are welcome. We get into dicey territory when we try to avoid them or stuff them down or judge ourselves for having them (why are you upset about the world’s smallest thing?!).

The best thing we can do with our emotions is to process them. The best thing we can do is to name the feeling we’re feeling and then explore it.

We can get curious. And once we identify and explore, then we can attend to our needs (soothe ourselves, set a boundary, confront the conflict).

But this is hard. I know. It’s especially hard if we’re more accustomed to pretending emotions don’t exist — if we’ve had years and years of practice. It’s especially hard if we just don’t take the time to tune into ourselves.


Questions to Ask Ourselves for Practicing Self-Care

Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014

flowers and candle at home, CROPPED

This morning I was reading Mara’s newsletter (I highly recommend subscribing, which you can do here). In it, she mentions the simple question we can ask ourselves when practicing self-care: What do I need?

It’s a question we ask every day, several times a day.

I love this because sometimes we complicate self-care. We get caught up in shoulds and checking off tasks. We equate self-care with specific activities — pedicures, bubble baths, exercise, eating certain foods.


A Helpful Way to Think Of Your Thoughts

Saturday, October 11th, 2014

St. Aug, October 2014, taken by mama

Years ago, I used to believe my cruel thoughts wholeheartedly. One reason was because I assumed they were true blue facts. Another reason was because I worried that I was cheating if I didn’t agree with these negative thoughts.

I was somehow doing something wrong if I let them slip by without fully consuming them. I would be letting myself off the hook. I would be taking the easy way out. I wouldn’t be holding myself accountable or responsible. And this wasn’t the right thing to do, I assumed.


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