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I used to think that in order to accept my body, I had to lose weight. After all, I had to have a body that was worthy and deserving of acceptance. I had to have a body that was good enough to embrace and appreciate. And in its current form, it wasn't. Which, in my mind, left me with one option: hyper-focus on changing my body.
Our bodies hold so many stories. Difficult stories. Beautiful stories. Stories that are held in scars and stretch marks. Stories that are held in arms and feet. Stories etched inside smile lines and expressive eyes. Stories cupped in hands. Stories of strength. Perseverance. Love. Lust. Motherhood. Illness. Insecurity. Anxiety. Adventure.
If you're setting resolutions this year, consider reflecting on the below questions to make sure they're truly right for you. Because what's the point of making goals or creating intentions that only make you miserable while you're trying to achieve them and live them?
What if instead of berating your body all day every day, you thanked it (at least once or twice, here and there)? What if you stopped fighting your body? What if you stopped seeing it as an enemy or obstacle?
When we start a new year, we often feel a whole lot of pressure. After all, we've "indulged" for the past few months or weeks. We've "given in" to our crazy cravings, and eaten terrible things like cookies and cake. And now it's time to get serious. It's time to "get back on track," get into the gym, "eat clean," count calories and keep ourselves "accountable." It's time to work off the weight we likely gained during the holidays, when we were being "bad" and "naughty," when we were left to our own---devious and deplorable---devices.
There's a lot of confusion surrounding self-compassion: We see self-compassion as self-indulgent. We see it as selfish. We see it as weak. Which is unfortunate because a) this means that we don't practice self-compassion and b) self-compassion isn't any of these things. I asked several individuals who specialize in self-compassion to clear up the often misunderstood concept by answering this question: What do you wish people really understood about self-compassion? Last week I shared several of their truths in this piece. Below, you'll find several more truths from another therapist and a nutritionist.
The average American gains X number of pounds between Halloween and Christmas. It takes just a few meals to gain weight but many months to lose it. Don't eat the cheesecake! That's way too many calories. For every "treat," you need to do X number of push-ups and burpees and cardio and.... You'll be paying for that pumpkin pie! Never have a second helping! Don't forget about bikini season!
Since I started writing Weightless (in 2009!), every year around this time, I’ve shared a list of last-minute gifts we can give to our loved ones and ourselves—whether we’re celebrating Christmas or Hanukkah. I’ve combined those lists, updated them and added new ideas.