Yesterday I talked about experimenting with self-compassion — despite the disapproving whispers and roars of our inner critic.
Because the negative thoughts — whatever they are — don’t matter. They don’t have to drive or dictate our actions. They don’t have to rule our worlds.
We can act with kindness, no matter what we hear from our inner critic — or from others. And we can do so in small ways.
We can make small shifts in our days to be kinder to ourselves. We can make these shifts at any shape, size or weight.
One of the hardest things about building a healthier relationship with ourselves is changing our inner dialogue. The inner critic can just be so darn loud.
For instance, when we even think about being nicer to ourselves, the nastiness starts.
Why do you think you deserve this? You still haven’t lost the weight. Who are you kidding?
Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!
Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.
A pivotal part of building a more positive body image and practicing compassionate self-care is listening to our bodies.
Our bodies speak to us through sensations, according to psychotherapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D, MFT, in her book Mindful Anger: A Pathway to Emotional Freedom.
Brandt defines sensations as “the perception of stimuli through the senses (sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch)” and “the physical feeling that results when senses are stimulated (e.g., warmth) or when there is a change inside the body (e.g., cramping).”
On Monday I talked about tracking our thoughts, whether they’re positive or negative. Tracking our thoughts helps us better understand the kinds of things we’re saying to ourselves on a daily basis.
Because our thoughts can affect our body image and, of course, how we see ourselves — whether we deem ourselves worthy of respect and love, whether we deem ourselves worthy of our own appreciation.
Today, I’m sharing a few facts about negative thoughts and how we can cope with them. Because it’s easy to spend years ruled by our negative thoughts, believing wholeheartedly they’re reflections of reality, and, as such, believing we must act accordingly.
Sometimes our hyperfocus with our bodies can actually be a restlessness, a lost purpose, a lack of play, a confusion with our inner or outer lives.
The worry over expanding waistlines may really be a frustration of rarely having time for yourself.
The problem with our thighs may be masking bigger questions about where we’re headed. (Sometimes, it’s just easier to bash our legs than to explore new, potentially scary territory.)
I love it because it serves as a significant reminder.
This afternoon I interviewed an ADHD coach for a piece on Psych Central about chronic lateness. At the end of our conversation, she mentioned that today is the International Day of Happiness.
I had no idea. So in the spirit of today’s significance, here’s a list of 10 ways we can cultivate joy today and every day.
Throughout the years, I’ve realized that the state of my space greatly affects my mood and stress level.
When there’s clutter and disorganization, it creates a tension in my body, triggering a bubble of negative energy just waiting to burst.
It creates a disconnect between me and my environment, and it feeds my frustration and overwhelm.
When it comes to taking care of yourself, don’t hesitate to dream big.
Sometimes we think that dreaming big is a big waste of time. That we’re too old or too ____ (fill in the blank).
Or that dreaming big is just another reminder of something else we can’t have or enjoy or take part in.