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10 Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself This Weekend

Friday, April 18th, 2014

anastasia island, 2014, taken by mama

Yesterday I talked about experimenting with self-compassion — despite the disapproving whispers and roars of our inner critic.

Because the negative thoughts — whatever they are — don’t matter. They don’t have to drive or dictate our actions. They don’t have to rule our worlds.

We can act with kindness, no matter what we hear from our inner critic — or from others. And we can do so in small ways.

We can make small shifts in our days to be kinder to ourselves. We can make these shifts at any shape, size or weight.

Experimenting with Self-Compassion

Thursday, April 17th, 2014


One of the hardest things about building a healthier relationship with ourselves is changing our inner dialogue. The inner critic can just be so darn loud.

For instance, when we even think about being nicer to ourselves, the nastiness starts.

Why do you think you deserve this? You still haven’t lost the weight. Who are you kidding?

Body Image Booster: Love After Love

Monday, April 14th, 2014

updated pic of heart blooms, may 2013, in CT

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

Because it’s National Poetry Month, I’d like to share another poem with you. This one is by poet and playwright Derek Walcott. I came across this poem in Liz’s post.

Listening to the Language of Your Body

Thursday, April 10th, 2014

minful anger, andrea brandt

A pivotal part of building a more positive body image and practicing compassionate self-care is listening to our bodies.

Our bodies speak to us through sensations, according to psychotherapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D, MFT, in her book Mindful Anger: A Pathway to Emotional Freedom.

Brandt defines sensations as “the perception of stimuli through the senses (sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch)” and “the physical feeling that results when senses are stimulated (e.g., warmth) or when there is a change inside the body (e.g., cramping).”

Healthy Ways to Cope With Negative Thoughts

Friday, April 4th, 2014

clouds, miami, 2013

On Monday I talked about tracking our thoughts, whether they’re positive or negative. Tracking our thoughts helps us better understand the kinds of things we’re saying to ourselves on a daily basis.

Because our thoughts can affect our body image and, of course, how we see ourselves — whether we deem ourselves worthy of respect and love, whether we deem ourselves worthy of our own appreciation.

Today, I’m sharing a few facts about negative thoughts and how we can cope with them. Because it’s easy to spend years ruled by our negative thoughts, believing wholeheartedly they’re reflections of reality, and, as such, believing we must act accordingly.

Quieting Body Worries With Purpose And Play

Friday, March 28th, 2014

St. Augustine beach, 2014

Sometimes our hyperfocus with our bodies can actually be a restlessness, a lost purpose, a lack of play, a confusion with our inner or outer lives.

The worry over expanding waistlines may really be a frustration of rarely having time for yourself.

The problem with our thighs may be masking bigger questions about where we’re headed. (Sometimes, it’s just easier to bash our legs than to explore new, potentially scary territory.)

When Someone Doubts Your Dreams Or Decisions (Including Yourself)

Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

she, a celebration of greatness in every woman

I love the following excerpt from Mary Anne Radmacher and Liz Kalloch’s book She: A Celebration of Greatness in Every Woman.

 I love it because it serves as a significant reminder.

10 Ways to Cultivate Joy Today & Every Day

Thursday, March 20th, 2014

creative joy, purple flowers

This afternoon I interviewed an ADHD coach for a piece on Psych Central about chronic lateness. At the end of our conversation, she mentioned that today is the International Day of Happiness.

I had no idea. So in the spirit of today’s significance, here’s a list of 10 ways we can cultivate joy today and every day.

Creating A Calming Personal Space

Friday, March 7th, 2014

perfumes and jewels

Throughout the years, I’ve realized that the state of my space greatly affects my mood and stress level.

When there’s clutter and disorganization, it creates a tension in my body, triggering a bubble of negative energy just waiting to burst.

It creates a disconnect between me and my environment, and it feeds my frustration and overwhelm.

An Exercise for Making Self-Care Dreams Into Daily Realities

Friday, February 28th, 2014

creative joy, wishes

When it comes to taking care of yourself, don’t hesitate to dream big.

Sometimes we think that dreaming big is a big waste of time. That we’re too old or too ____ (fill in the blank).

Or that dreaming big is just another reminder of something else we can’t have or enjoy or take part in.



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Recent Comments
  • Margarita Tartakovsky, MS: @ AntNene, you’re so welcome! :) I’m glad you liked them. Thank you for your...
  • AntNene: I love this post. Thank you so much for these ideas!
  • Josefina: the line about giving myself a smile…felt good I felt truly absorbed thanks, I needed this now
  • Margarita Tartakovsky, MS: @ Elizabeth, thank you! :)
  • elizabeth: Margarita, a lovely, lovely reminder to allow compassion for our own body as it moves through whatever...
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