Health At Every Size (HAES) Articles

Body Image And Self-Care: On Asking For Support

Tuesday, June 24th, 2014

you are worthy as you are, quote, trees

Last week I wrote about how we can ask for what we need. Because we can’t expect others to read our minds. And we can’t expect them to decipher our hints, jokes or passive-aggressive remarks.

That’s why it’s key to be clear, direct, humble and polite.

Sometimes, though, we might not have the words. We might not know what to say when we’re put on the spot. Or we might be too frustrated, angry or hurt to say the words.

What To Do When You Fear Weight Gain Or Do Gain Weight

Friday, April 26th, 2013

NYC in Oct 2012

So many of us are scared to gain weight. And so many of us become disgusted with ourselves when we do.

It’s this fear and disgust that drives our desire to diet, engage in punishing exercise and hate our bodies unless the scale says a certain number. They can also color how we see ourselves at the core: as failures.

30 Ways To Boost Your Well-Being Without Focusing On Weight

Thursday, April 4th, 2013

riding bikes w brian, instagram

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned since writing Weightless is that you don’t need to chain yourself to a scale in order to be happy or healthy. You can feel better and boost your health by focusing on habits, not weight loss.

What’s the problem with focusing on weight?

Body Image Booster: What Is Your Dream?

Monday, January 21st, 2013

creative joy, 2012, yellow flower

Today, in the U.S., we honor Martin Luther King, Jr., who had an incredible dream and helped make it a reality.

I was inspired to share my dreams by his powerful speech and Therese Borchard’s achingly beautiful piece.

I have a dream that our society will stop judging, shaming and bullying people because of their size, shape and weight.

I have a dream that we’ll focus on cultivating healthy habits instead of remaining chained to the numbers on our scales (or calipers).

Helping Your Child Have A Healthy Relationship With Food: Part 3 With Dr. Katja Rowell

Thursday, November 29th, 2012

This is the last part of my interview with Dr. Katja Rowell, M.D., a feeding specialist and author of the must-read book Love Me, Feed Me: The Adoptive Parents’ Guide to Ending the Worry About Weight, Picky Eating, Power Struggles and More. (I highly recommend it for all parents!)

Below, Dr. Rowell reveals the practical and effective ways parents can help their children build a healthy relationship with food. Specifically, she follows Ellyn Satter’s evidence-based feeding models: The Trust Model and Division of Responsibility. I wish these models were standard practice in every pediatrician and dietitian’s office.

Dr. Rowell also discusses healthy eating and feeding in our earlier interviews on Weightless. Be sure to check out parts one, two and three.

Learn more about Dr. Rowell at her website, and read her fantastic blog. Also, check out these valuable additional resources from Dr. Rowell’s website.

Myths & Facts About Feeding Your Kids: Part 2 With Dr. Katja Rowell

Wednesday, November 28th, 2012

One of the things I love about feeding specialist Dr. Katja Rowell’s new book Love Me, Feed Me: The Adoptive Parents’ Guide to Ending the Worry About Weight, Picky Eating, Power Struggles and More is that it debunks many damaging myths about what it means to raise a healthy child with a healthy relationship with food.

The problem with these myths is that they steer parents in the wrong — and unhealthy — direction. They often cause kids to obsess over food and create needless conflict between parents and their children. Mealtime becomes a battle.

Below, in part two of our interview, Dr. Rowell shares seven common myths and facts on everything from limiting portions to forbidding foods to controlling weight.

Love Me, Feed Me is truly a comprehensive, wise and practical guide in nourishing your child, ending food obsession and addressing common concerns, such as developmental delays and sensory problems. And, ultimately, it empowers parents to connect with their kids through feeding.

Learn more about Dr. Rowell at her website, and read her fantastic blog. Also, check out these valuable additional resources from Dr. Rowell’s website.

Helping Adoptive Parents Overcome Feeding Problems: Q&A With Dr. Katja Rowell

Tuesday, November 27th, 2012

November is National Adoption Month, so I wanted to talk about an often neglected yet critical concern for adoptive and foster families: problems with feeding.

It’s a very complex issue, but kids who are adopted or in foster care tend to be especially susceptible to eating struggles. And, unfortunately, the resources on feeding are scarce. Or, if parents do receive advice, it’s often misguided, exacerbating the problem and leading kids to obsess over food.

That’s why I’m so honored to present my interview with Dr. Katja Rowell, MD, a family doctor and feeding specialist. I’m a huge fan of Dr. Rowell and her positive work in helping parents raise healthy kids. (I’ve also interviewed her before on Weightless.)

Recently, she’s published an excellent book called Love Me, Feed Me: The Adoptive Parents’ Guide to Ending the Worry About Weight, Picky Eating, Power Struggles and MoreIt dispels common — and damaging — myths about healthy feeding and is packed with evidence-based practices for helping your child build a nourishing relationship with food.

It’s a compassionate, practical and safe resource, which I highly recommend to all parents. (By the way, you can win a copy below!)

In part one of our interview, Dr. Rowell delves into why adopted and foster kids struggle with eating and how a healthy relationship with food is at the core of children’s happiness.

Learn more about Dr. Rowell at her website, and read her fantastic blog.

Body Image Booster: Engage Your Creativity

Monday, October 1st, 2012

colored pencils

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. I’d love to hear from you!

Sometimes, the best way to boost our body image doesn’t have anything to do with body image at all.

Body Image Boosters From The Blogosphere 9.30.12

Sunday, September 30th, 2012

{via etsy by J.M. Barclay}

A positive body image goes beyond liking your looks. It encompasses taking good care of yourself and leading a fulfilling life. In this new series, I’m sharing some of my favorite posts from some of my favorite bloggers on this topic. Hope you find these links inspiring, too!

Last week (9.24-9.28) was BEDA’s annual Weight Stigma Awareness Week. Here are a few posts to check out:

Embracing & Honoring Your Body And Your Health

Wednesday, July 25th, 2012

{Anna Guest-Jelley leading a yoga class}

A few weeks ago I was on a call with Anna Guest-Jelley, who authors the beautiful blog Curvy Yoga and created the must-read e-book Permission to Curve: Inspiring Poses for Curvy Yogis and Their Teachers.

She talked all about embracing and honoring our bodies and our health. Today, I wanted to share her wise words.

The Importance of Softening, Not Struggling

According to Anna, permission is at the root of embracing our bodies, movement and health at every size. But many of us have a tough time giving ourselves permission. Many of us have a tough time trusting ourselves when it comes to our health and what we eat.



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