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When You’re Overwhelmed Try these Words

Friday, December 19th, 2014

beach, dunes, taken by mama, july 2014

I’m a person who tends to get triggered easily. It doesn’t take much to make me overwhelmed, to trigger the “what if?” “holy crap” pile of thoughts. I’ve gotten much better throughout the years, but lately it’s been tough with so many things to plan and do.

So lately, I’ve been thinking of ways I can talk to myself without making matters worse. Because the dialogue in our heads can and does make matters worse. The words we use can create tidal waves, explosions, catastrophes inside our minds, which complicate our coping and incite our already stressed-out bodies.


Creating A Supportive Daily Ritual

Wednesday, December 17th, 2014

pomegranate candle from mama, november 2014

When life gets busy and overwhelming and hard, it’s the simple and small rituals that can ground us. That can serve as an anchor. That can remind us of what is important. Of what is us.

Rituals become familiar actions, gestures we can lean on. They can calm us. They can help us to reflect. To get quiet when chaos swirls around us. And they can become a time we meet all kinds of needs (our need for stillness, serenity, solitude, spirituality).


Self-Care Sunday: Make A Date with Your Feelings

Sunday, December 14th, 2014

expectation hangover, christine hassler

In her book Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love and Life Christine Hassler includes a valuable tip for honoring our feelings. Sometimes, when negative feelings arise, we might not be able to experience them fully. We might be at work or with others.

That’s when scheduling a date with your feelings can help. Because setting a date means you’re not avoiding or suppressing your feelings. You’re honoring them at another time.

As Hassler writes, “Our feelings have feelings. I know that may sound strange but it’s true. When our feelings don’t feel they are acknowledged, they end up being recycled and coming back later, snowballing into a more intense feeling, or even manifesting as a health issue, to try and get our attention in another way.”


Meeting Your Needs When You’re Super Busy

Friday, December 12th, 2014

amelia island, red flower

In the last few months Brian and I have been planning our wedding (while experiencing some unexpected drama with our venue), and making improvements on our house.

I’ve been revising my book while working on my normal writing projects. Brian has been swamped at work. And, of course, we have the holidays.

Things have been hectic, to say the least. (And we don’t have any kids or pets!)

What I’ve realized during these busy times is the importance of meeting my own needs (and letting others meet theirs). I’ve realized just how critical it is to my well-being, productivity and sanity. Because you can’t go wrong with focusing on your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.


Paying Attention to the Most Beautiful Details

Tuesday, December 9th, 2014

puddle reflection, nov 2014

Last week I mentioned the power of paying attention to details. The details of our lives. The details of our surroundings. The details of our relationships. The details in the details.

Writing my book has helped me notice the small yet big things of our lives, the things I used to regularly dismiss and some days still do. The sunset. The carpet of leaves outside my office window. My fiance’s eyes. My mother’s laugh. The scent of a pomegranate candle. The artwork on my favorite mugs. The strings in the song I’ll be walking down the aisle to. The power of a sentence. A word.


Self-Care Sunday: Create A Play-Book

Sunday, December 7th, 2014

bubbles, central park, nyc

I think of play and creativity as a big part of self-care. Because with play and creativity come curiosity (about our bodies, our feelings, the world), humor, laughter, and simply a playful approach to life.

That is, instead of criticizing ourselves for being anxious or upset, we can get curious and explore why we’re feeling this way. We can explore where this feeling is in our body (your heart, your stomach).

We can marvel at our surroundings, because so much magic really does exist in our lives. It’s just a matter of using our senses fully.


Other Ways to Practice Self-Compassion This Holiday Season

Saturday, December 6th, 2014

Buddha quote

Yesterday, I wrote about the different ways we can be kind to ourselves no matter the holiday season we’re having.Today, I’m sharing other ways we can practice self-compassion.


Self-Compassion During the Holiday Season

Friday, December 5th, 2014

creative joy, single heart, 2012

The holiday season is upon us. I just took a deep breath after writing that. Maybe you’d like to, too.

The holidays are a beautiful time, but they also may be a stressful and even heartbreaking time for oh-so many reasons.

Whatever this month brings for you, I hope you let it start and end with kindness. No matter what’s happening, I hope you can extend lots of compassion your way. I hope you give yourself doses of it daily, hourly.


Self-Care Sunday: A Tip for Practicing Self-Care Every Day

Sunday, November 30th, 2014

roses

In addition to sharing links to others’ posts on self-care (along with a few of my own) in these “Self-Care Sunday” posts, I also sometimes share a small tip or idea for taking kinder care of ourselves.

Self-care is an attitude — of compassion toward ourselves. It’s asking ourselves “what’s the kindest choice I can make?”

It’s also action. It’s action that nourishes and supports us. It’s action that contributes to our health and well-being, in all different ways. It’s small steps on a daily basis. Because our lives, of course, are made up of little moments.


Thanksgiving Day: What I’m Grateful For

Thursday, November 27th, 2014

fall flowers, penn

Every Thanksgiving, I share a list of things I’m grateful for. This year I’m grateful for:


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