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10 Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself This Weekend

Friday, April 18th, 2014

anastasia island, 2014, taken by mama

Yesterday I talked about experimenting with self-compassion — despite the disapproving whispers and roars of our inner critic.

Because the negative thoughts — whatever they are — don’t matter. They don’t have to drive or dictate our actions. They don’t have to rule our worlds.

We can act with kindness, no matter what we hear from our inner critic — or from others. And we can do so in small ways.

We can make small shifts in our days to be kinder to ourselves. We can make these shifts at any shape, size or weight.


Experimenting with Self-Compassion

Thursday, April 17th, 2014

roses

One of the hardest things about building a healthier relationship with ourselves is changing our inner dialogue. The inner critic can just be so darn loud.

For instance, when we even think about being nicer to ourselves, the nastiness starts.

Why do you think you deserve this? You still haven’t lost the weight. Who are you kidding?


Body Image Booster: Love After Love

Monday, April 14th, 2014

updated pic of heart blooms, may 2013, in CT

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

Because it’s National Poetry Month, I’d like to share another poem with you. This one is by poet and playwright Derek Walcott. I came across this poem in Liz’s post.


Listening to the Language of Your Body

Thursday, April 10th, 2014

minful anger, andrea brandt

A pivotal part of building a more positive body image and practicing compassionate self-care is listening to our bodies.

Our bodies speak to us through sensations, according to psychotherapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D, MFT, in her book Mindful Anger: A Pathway to Emotional Freedom.

Brandt defines sensations as “the perception of stimuli through the senses (sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch)” and “the physical feeling that results when senses are stimulated (e.g., warmth) or when there is a change inside the body (e.g., cramping).”


Body Image Booster: Create A Timeline

Monday, April 7th, 2014

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Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

Reviewing your past relationship with your body can give you insight into how to improve your current connection. It can help you spot patterns and connect the dots between various events and your feelings.

That’s why I suggest creating a timeline of how you felt about your body throughout the years. Start with your first memory about being in your body, and then include other pivotal moments.


When You Gain Weight

Saturday, April 5th, 2014

creative joy, hearts

Because April is National Poetry Month, here’s a poem I wrote as a reminder for all of us.

When you gain weight,

you may feel like a failure,

you may be convinced

you’ve done something wrong

you may think you need

to start counting calories

and cutting out dessert.


Healthy Ways to Cope With Negative Thoughts

Friday, April 4th, 2014

clouds, miami, 2013

On Monday I talked about tracking our thoughts, whether they’re positive or negative. Tracking our thoughts helps us better understand the kinds of things we’re saying to ourselves on a daily basis.

Because our thoughts can affect our body image and, of course, how we see ourselves — whether we deem ourselves worthy of respect and love, whether we deem ourselves worthy of our own appreciation.

Today, I’m sharing a few facts about negative thoughts and how we can cope with them. Because it’s easy to spend years ruled by our negative thoughts, believing wholeheartedly they’re reflections of reality, and, as such, believing we must act accordingly.


Body Image Booster: Keep A Thought Log

Monday, March 31st, 2014

NYC Oct 2012

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

A negative body image is made up of negative thoughts.

Wow, I look horrible today. Like every day. My pants are tight. What a surprise.

Why can’t I just be thinner? This cellulite has got to go! If I could just get rid of this flab, I’d be so much happier.

Often, we don’t even realize we’re playing a demoralizing dialogue in our minds all day long. Which, of course, only perpetuates and spikes the negativity and bashing.

Or maybe our thoughts aren’t overly cruel. Maybe there’s a hint of negativity or self-doubt that’s still deflating.

Either way, our thoughts can influence how we feel about ourselves, how we treat ourselves, and how we let others treat us. They can influence the boundaries we set, and the lives we lead.


Body Image Boosters From The Blogosphere 3.30.14

Sunday, March 30th, 2014

single flower, creative joy retreat

A positive body image goes beyond liking your looks. It encompasses taking good care of yourself and leading a fulfilling life. In this weekly series, I share some of my favorite posts from some of my favorite bloggers on this topic. Sometimes I also share relevant pieces that I’ve written elsewhere. Hope you find these links inspiring!

Self-care on the difficult days.

This piece from Rachel is absolutely stunning. I’ve written her words into my journal, to be re-read when the body worries arise.


Quieting Body Worries With Purpose And Play

Friday, March 28th, 2014

St. Augustine beach, 2014

Sometimes our hyperfocus with our bodies can actually be a restlessness, a lost purpose, a lack of play, a confusion with our inner or outer lives.

The worry over expanding waistlines may really be a frustration of rarely having time for yourself.

The problem with our thighs may be masking bigger questions about where we’re headed. (Sometimes, it’s just easier to bash our legs than to explore new, potentially scary territory.)


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  • Margarita Tartakovsky, MS: @ AntNene, you’re so welcome! :) I’m glad you liked them. Thank you for your...
  • AntNene: I love this post. Thank you so much for these ideas!
  • Josefina: the line about giving myself a smile…felt good I felt truly absorbed thanks, I needed this now
  • Margarita Tartakovsky, MS: @ Elizabeth, thank you! :)
  • elizabeth: Margarita, a lovely, lovely reminder to allow compassion for our own body as it moves through whatever...
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