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Declaring Our Independence From What Doesn’t Serve Us


Every year, around July 4th, I republish and update a piece on declaring our independence from what doesn’t serve or support us — everything from dieting to damaging beliefs. I hope you find it helpful!
Tomorrow, we’re celebrating our independence here in America. But wherever you live, it also might be the day you celebrate your independence, too.

It might be the day you liberate yourself from certain behaviors, beliefs, objects or people that sink your body image, your self-care, your mood and your life.

For instance, maybe you declare independence from dieting or the bathroom scale, which you toss in the trash.

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Small Ways to Honor Our Bodies and Ourselves

Lately, right before bed, I've been washing my feet. For just a few minutes. I feel silly writing this. But it's become an important ritual: Putting my feet under the hot water, using an exfoliating sponge soaked in my favorite body wash has felt calming and satisfying.

It feels like I'm connecting to my body and treating it kindly, gently and with respect. Yes, this small, seemingly insignificant act feels like I'm honoring my body and myself.

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Self-Care Sunday: Seeking Solitude

Spending time alone is how we tune in to ourselves. It's how we listen to our thoughts, feelings and needs. Which, of course, is the first step in caring for ourselves. It's how we get to know what we like and don't like. It's how we explore who we are. It's how we make sense of everything. It's how we learn to trust ourselves.

I spend a lot of time alone. And yet not enough.

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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image and Well-Being, Part 2

In May I penned this piece about the different lists we can create for helping us build a more positive body image, practice compassionate self-care and boost our well-being. Today, I'm sharing a list of other lists, which I hope you find helpful!

I love writing lists because they help to simplify overwhelming things -- like feelings, worries, projects, making positive changes in our lives. Lists make the abstract ideas floating around my head more tangible, more doable.

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Surviving Bikini Season with Your Positive Body Image In Tact

You've likely come across an article or email or social media post about getting "bikini ready." Maybe you hear people talking about it at the gym, the grocery store, at work or even at home. It's hard to avoid the frenzy when it tends to be all around us.

Even though I write a blog about building a positive body image, I find myself getting sucked in. Maybe you, too, find yourself joining the conversation, and minutes later, wondering what the heck happened. Minutes later you're discussing diets or counting calories in your head. Minutes later you're unsure if you want dessert. Minutes later you find yourself staring at your belly, and sighing.

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Instead of Rushing to Self-Criticism, Consider these Words

There are many days when I feel disappointed in myself. Even angry. Frustrated that I ate too much, that I wasn't brave, that I made a mistake, that I snapped at a loved one, that I didn't clean, that I didn't work enough, that I didn't do that many reps of an exercise, that I'm not strong enough.

There are days I'm overwhelmed. Days I'm unsure or irritated. Days I think I've gained weight, and I wear my disappointment like a coat. All of us have these days. The details may be different, but the berating and bashing and judging and sadness may be the same.

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Self-Care Sunday: Creating What We Need

Recently, on my creativity blog I wrote about creating every day for 100 days straight. I think this is important because in creating, we get to know ourselves better. We learn what fascinates and inspires us. We learn about our thoughts and even our fears.
For instance, through my writing, I'm able to identify my concerns and self-doubts. Once abstract, scary entities become concrete, tangible objects I can explore, unpack and address.
We learn about our tendencies and rhythms. For instance, I know that I prefer to write slowly, rereading my words, deliberating whether they adequately describe what I'm thinking and feeling. Plus, I hate feeling rushed.
In other words, through creating, we connect to ourselves.
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Reevaluating How We Work and Live

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about productivity and reevaluating how I work. In the past few months I've been feeling burnt out. A lot of that, I've realized, has to do with trying to be someone I'm not.

(How fascinating that how we do one thing often mirrors how we do everything else. I can't tell you how many times I've tried to be someone I'm not in so many areas, in so many ways.)

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Taking Exquisite Care of Ourselves

The last few days I've  been cleaning my house. Vigorously. Our family is visiting from up north, more family is coming over this weekend, and our house is being appraised. I've been getting on my hands and knees scrubbing the spots off the tiles. I've been sweeping up teeny tiny crumbs. I've paid attention to the smallest of details, to the smallest piece of dirt, to the thinnest layer of dust.

In other words, we've been taking exquisite care in cleaning our home. We're proud of our place, and we want it to show. And it feels good to tend to it. To express care for something meaningful to both of us.

This level of care got me thinking. How often do we take such exquisite care of ourselves?

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