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Dear Girl Who Hates Her Body

Dear Girl Who Hates Her Body,

You look at your body in the mirror and grimace. Ugh. It still looks like crap. You touch your body in disgust. You spend hours in your closet trying on every piece of clothing you own. And still nothing fits. Nothing looks good. Everything is wrong. You feel wrong.

You wake up at 5 a.m. when the world is still dark and drag yourself to the gym. You don't want to be there. But what other choice do you have?

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Giving Others the Gift of Our Sight

So often what we want most when we're overwhelmed, afraid, exhausted, lost, a foreigner in our own bodies is to be seen. To be heard. To have another human being understand, really understand, what we're going through, where we're coming from. To have another human being listen, without texting, without looking around, without criticizing. To look at us directly, to look into our eyes. To be present with us wholeheartedly.

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How to Catch Yourself When You’re Falling

There is a beautiful quote from Baal Shem Tov: "Let me fall if I must fall. The one I will become will catch me."

Which always reminds me that we have the power to catch ourselves, even if we don't think we can. That is comforting and empowering, because all of us will fall. We may fall from the sky, a very long descent. We may fall out of a second-story window, closer to the ground but still potentially bruised. But, again, these falls are OK. Because we can handle this. Because we've got this. We can be our own superman, swooping in when we've been thrown from a building.

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More Mantras That Might Resonate With You

This week we talked about creating mantras that we need. Today, I'm sharing other examples of mantras. Mantras can come in all shapes and sizes. They can be a single word or a single sentence. They can speak to all sorts of subjects. Again, it depends on what you need---whatever brings you comfort and calm, whatever inspires you, whatever serves as a powerful reminder.

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