Archives for Eating & Dieting

Binge Eating

Filling Ourselves with the Right Things

We fill ourselves with food. Food that we don't savor. Food that we barely even taste. We fill ourselves with alcohol. Too much alcohol. Parties. Endless gatherings and events. People who are critical, maybe even cruel. We fill ourselves with new clothes, new shoes, new trinkets, meaningless objects we don't need or even enjoy. And yet we still feel empty. Hollow. Depleted. Under-nourished. Maybe even starving or gasping for air.
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Body Image

Declaring Our Independence From What Doesn’t Serve Us

Every year, on or around July 4th, I republish and update a piece on declaring our independence from what doesn’t serve or support us — everything from dieting to damaging beliefs. I hope you find it helpful! And I hope you have a wonderful holiday or Monday. Today, we celebrate our independence here in America. But wherever you live, it also might be the day you celebrate your independence, too.
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Body Image

Please Don’t Punish Yourself

You ate a bowl of ice cream. The full fat kind. Maybe, you even ate two bowls. Please don't punish yourself with cruel words. You are disgusting. You have no willpower. Please don't drown yourself in shame, blame and regret. I can't believe I did this. I'm the only one who can't control herself around food. This is humiliating. 
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Finding Fulfillment Beyond Your Weight, Shape or Size

For so many of us weighing less not only becomes a goal we strive for. It also becomes intertwined with all sorts of things. Our self-worth. ("I am only worthy if I lose weight. I'm terrible, unlikeable, unloveable, _______ if I don't lose anything, or worse, if I gain and gain.") Our lives. We assume it gives us meaning. Fulfillment. And we pursue weight loss with the same passion, perseverance and all-in attitude that we might devote to something else. Like a relationship. Like writing. Like learning another craft.
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Culture

The Joy of Eating

In our diet-obsessed society we've been taught to view food as a necessary evil, a nuisance, the thing to blame for the scale not budging, the thing we can't have. The forbidden fruit. Or we've been taught to view food in a more neutral light: as fuel. Strictly as a source of nutrients, vitamins, protein, fiber. Fuel for our bodies to function. Fuel for our brains to create. But nothing more.
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Navigating a Culture That Promotes Guilt Around Food

I regularly see posts on social media and pieces elsewhere about food and guilt. Posts that say if you "splurge" occasionally, you have no reason to feel guilty. If you eat dessert once or twice a week, that's OK, too. Usually. If you're exercising and eating healthy, then you have no reason to feel guilty either. Most of the time. I've seen comments that say, "Yes! You're so right." And I get it: This is what we read and hear all over the place: In magazines. On TV. Maybe at the dinner table. Maybe when we're out and about.
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On Eating, Dieting and Refocusing on Ourselves

This week I came across an article on another website that featured two dietitians sharing what they eat in a day. They mentioned eating certain foods to prevent "over-indulging" at their next meal and having such and such tea to keep them from eating more chocolate. I've seen similar articles on other websites. And I've seen similar words. Words about not exceeding calorie counts and filling up on certain foods to prevent eating entire meals (of pasta, for instance).
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