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Self-Care Sunday Links 8.30.15

On some Sundays I share links to pieces from around the web, along with posts I’ve written for Psych Central. This month's links include everything from reframing your thoughts about exercise to reducing mom guilt to what it really means to love yourself. I hope you find these helpful, and I hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday!
3 strategies to reframe your thinking about exercise.
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Creating Weekdays You Actually Enjoy, Part 2

On Monday, in this piece, I shared a few ideas on how we can create weekdays we enjoy. Many of us view the weekdays (days most of us are working) as frustrating, hectic and exhausting. We view them as one big slog, while Saturday and Sunday are viewed as wonderful and fun. A time to exhale. Because it feels like during the week we've been holding our breath.

But while weekdays are certainly busier and filled with additional responsibilities and stricter schedules, we can still shape them into satisfying, fulfilling experiences. Because our lives don't stop. And it doesn't help to act like these days are one big blob of annoyance until we finally reach the paradise of a weekend.

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You Are Not Your Story, Mistake or Inner Critic’s Comments

So many of us take one isolated event -- a mistake, a painful situation -- or the critical comments of our inner critic and let it color who we are. Completely. It's as though we become this one thing. This one negative thing.

Maybe your inner critic regularly spews remarks about your weight and how you look disgusting and horrible in everything. So you become the person who looks disgusting and horrible all the time.*

Maybe you made a big mistake or a bad decision, which you regret. So you become the person defined by that decision, that one mistake.

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Embracing Your Flaws

For years I had an overpowering all-or-nothing mindset. If I couldn't do it perfectly, then I'd failed. If I didn't look pretty all the time, then I wasn't pretty at all. If I didn't have a flat stomach, then I couldn't like my body. If I didn't ace every test, then I wasn't smart. I had a very hard time accepting that imperfections are natural (and make me me). I had a hard time accepting that being flawed didn't mean being doomed or undeserving or unworthy.

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5 More Ways to Listen to Ourselves

So often we dismiss our own thoughts, feelings, needs and desires. We assume that someone else knows better about what we should do, eat, wear, think, feel, want, need. So we silence ourselves. We discount ourselves. We take ourselves out of the conversation. And we listen to others (people who may or may not have our best interest at heart).
Yesterday, I shared different ways we can put ourselves back in the conversation, different ways we can sharpen our listening skills so we can really hear ourselves. Today, I'm sharing five more suggestions.
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Different Ways to Listen to Ourselves

This week on "Make a Mess," my creativity blog, I wrote about looking outside myself for answers. I assumed that other people knew better what I needed and wanted. And I assumed that those people also deserved to have a say. (Many of them did not.)

Unwittingly, I placed the power that belonged to me in their hands. Not only did I often remove myself from the discussion, I removed myself from the entire room.

But here's a vital realization: We have the answers inside us. They are within. We just need to listen.

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Who Do You Think You Are?

Who do you think you are to wear a bikini when you don't have a "bikini body"?

Who do you think you are to stop dieting when you "should" lose weight?

Who do you think you are to take care of yourself when you haven't finished your work?

Who do you think you are to eat several cookies or savor two slices of cake?

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Self-Care Sunday: Exploring Your Social Media Use

This week has been all about asking ourselves questions to identify our needs, dreams and desires; to explore our thoughts and feelings; and to get honest with ourselves. Today is no exception. Today, I'd like to talk about social media. Because a big part of taking care of ourselves is being intentional about our lives, being deliberate about what we invite into our lives and what we keep out. It's about making healthy, self-compassionate choices.

This is especially important with social media because it's such a public space. Because, like any activity, it can add to our lives or take away from them.

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Reframing How We See Our Bodies

Last weekend I was browsing through the book Unexpected Art: Serendipitous Installations, Site-Specific Works, and Surprising Interventions. One artist's words -- Tomoko Konoike -- especially struck me: "I consider my body not as an object, but first and foremost as a 'place' for internal experience. I think of my artwork, then, as a sort of tool for shifting myself from this inner world of my body to another world..."
This made me wonder: What if we, too, saw our bodies as the places for our internal experience? As the containers of our ideas, questions, compassion, wonder, love? How might we treat them differently then?
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