On this Sunday I’m sharing a list of inspiring, uplifting and thought-provoking quotes from Louise Baxter Harmon’s book Happiness A-Z: The Gleeful Guide to Finding and Following Your Bliss. Her book includes sooo many good ones!
Record the quotes that resonate with you. Consider which words you agree and disagree with. Write down these thoughts, too.
It’s important information about what we need, what means most to us, what really doesn’t. It’s all a window into our souls.
When we dislike our bodies, when we feel uncomfortable in our own skin, we may start silencing our voices.
Because we haven’t lost weight, can’t adhere to a diet, can’t fit into a certain size or don’t fit into a certain standard, we become convinced that our voices don’t matter. That we haven’t earned the right to speak, to matter.
We dismiss our thoughts and opinions. We dismiss our needs. We neglect our feelings.
Sometimes, assumptions can get us into trouble. We become so convinced something is a fact that we act on behaviors that aren’t good for us, that shatter our sense of self, that stall our self-care.
For years I had many assumptions that didn’t serve me very well. I assumed that in order to be worthy I had to be thin. In order to be happy, I had to lose weight. In order to lose weight I had to put myself on ridiculous diets. In order to have someone love me, I had to earn it.
Knowing ourselves is critical in building a fulfilling self-care routine and meaningful life. I recently came across The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D, which is filled with curious and thought-provoking questions.
Here are 21 questions from the book to help you spark self-discovery. (You also can pose these fascinating questions to others.)
Today is International Women’s Day, so how about celebrating yourself and the women in your life?
Here are some ideas, which of course you can do any day and every day:
I subscribe to Anna Guest-Jelley’s newsletter (and you should, too; it’s filled with excellent and practical insights). Recently, she wrote something really powerful, which I knew, as soon as I read the words, that I had to share with you.
It’s a beautiful way of thinking about body acceptance. And it’s something I think so many of us forget. I forget.
Because body acceptance can feel tough. It can feel unnatural. But even though it feels uncomfortable, or awkward, or itchy or really hard, that doesn’t mean we’re doomed to hate our bodies or to feel disconnected from them.
Today, we tend to view exercise in the same way we view sweeping the floors, doing the laundry and organizing our dresser drawers: a necessary chore, a nuisance, a should.
We also see exercise as a punishment. A punishment for eating ice cream, a brownie or too many calories. A punishment for relaxing for too long. A punishment for a fun weekend.
So often, as we sprint through the day, the last thing we think about is our body.
The last thing we think about is the inner machinery that’s involved in the seemingly simplest of movements: opening our eyes in the morning; glancing about the room, hitting the snooze button (a few times); shifting our feet from the bed to the floor; walking (or running) into the bathroom; splashing water onto our faces; picking up a toothbrush; turning on the faucet for a hot shower.
In those few minutes, our bodies perform great feats.
Today, in the U.S., we honor Martin Luther King, Jr., who had an incredible dream and helped make it a reality. Inspired by his powerful speech and Therese Borchard’s beautiful piece, every year I republish a piece on my personal dream (which I’ve updated since last year). It’s a dream that focuses on everything from how we treat each other to how we treat ourselves.
I have a dream that our society will stop judging, shaming and bullying people because of their size, shape and weight.
I have a dream that we’ll focus on cultivating healthy habits instead of remaining chained to the numbers on our scales (or calipers or clothes).
On the last pages of her book Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life From Dear Sugar Cheryl Strayed pens her response to the question: “What would you tell your twentysomething self if you could talk to her now?”
These are snippets of her wisdom:
“Feed yourself. Literally. The sort of people worthy of your love will love you more for this, sweet pea.”
“You don’t have a career. You have a life. Do the work. Keep the faith. Be true blue. You are a writer because you write.”