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Your Body Is Not The Enemy

Sunday, July 20th, 2014

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In our culture there is a prevailing belief that if we can’t get our bodies to look a certain way, to lose weight, to fit into an old pair of jeans, then they’re the enemy.

They’re an enemy we have to subdue, manipulate and pound into submission. An enemy we need to insult, yell at and despise.

Today, I wanted to share a reminder that, in fact, our bodies are not the enemy — despite what you see in ads or read in “health” publications. They never were.


10 Reasons to Love Your Body

Friday, July 11th, 2014

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In our culture there are conditions. There are conditions that dictate when we can — and can’t — love our bodies.

For instance, we can love our bodies when we’re thin. We can love our bodies when we’ve lost weight. We can love them when our waists and thighs are small, when our bodies adhere to certain random standards.


Exploring Our Beauty And Body Beliefs

Thursday, July 10th, 2014

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{quote from Daily Joy}

Last week I shared 20 questions for connecting to ourselves and our needs.

It’s also helpful to explore questions around beauty, worthiness and enoughness. Because it’s our beliefs about what is beautiful and what is enough that influence — negatively or positively — how we think about ourselves, how we take care of ourselves and how we navigate our lives.

Often these beliefs are so ingrained that we just assume they’re the truth or how things should be.

Exploring these beliefs helps us better understand why we think the way we do, and why we do what we do. It opens the door to thinking and living in ways that serve us.

Here are 20 questions to help you examine these beliefs.


On Self-Care And Holding Our Breath

Friday, June 27th, 2014

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In my book I talk about giving ourselves the permission to play. Because it isn’t necessarily our lack of time or too many responsibilities that stops us from playing.

Rather, it’s our beliefs. It’s our belief that now that we’re adults, we shouldn’t play. We must get serious.

It’s our belief that we’re too busy or too tired or too old.


Playful And Powerful Quotes on Food, Cooking & Eating

Sunday, June 22nd, 2014

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When we’re trying to eat intuitively and ditch our dieting mentality, it can feel like we’re a party of one.

Everywhere we look, we see ads for weight-loss programs, diet foods and diet pills.

We’re shamed and blamed about our food choices (you better not eat that if you want to be “healthy.” you know it’s bikini season, right?).

Our friends and family might be “watching” what they eat (e.g., counting calories), and we assume we have to watch, too. (Or maybe some people even suggest it.)

When we’re trying to find foods that truly nourish us, when we’re trying to rebuild our relationship with food, it can help to have some good reminders.


When You Feel Guilty After Eating

Friday, May 30th, 2014

CT cafe

For Memorial Day weekend, Brian and I visited friends in Miami. We ate lots of my favorite foods: shrimp, french fries, gelato, whole wheat waffles.

While I enjoyed every bite, afterward, I felt the subtle, gnawing nudge of guilt. And some negative thoughts had slithered in:

What if you gain weight from all of this? You’ve already gained weight since last summer. What if it all goes straight to your expanding hips and thighs? What’s wrong with you? Did you really need to eat the whole plate? You know, you look pregnant, right?

While I can’t control these automatic thoughts, I can remind myself that they’re definitely mistaken. I can remind myself of the truth.


Reinterpreting Painful Stories

Tuesday, May 13th, 2014

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I used to spin many painful stories about myself, my weight and my appearance. For instance, I used to cling to a story that said that once I was thin, I’d be beautiful, popular and happy.

I also used to cling to a story that revolved around self-care: I didn’t deserve to take care of myself until I was a certain size; that I somehow wasn’t allowed to feel good until I reached my goal weight.

I believed that I had to earn self-care (along with respect, love and kindness, both from myself and others).


Body Image Booster: Create A Timeline

Monday, April 7th, 2014

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Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

Reviewing your past relationship with your body can give you insight into how to improve your current connection. It can help you spot patterns and connect the dots between various events and your feelings.

That’s why I suggest creating a timeline of how you felt about your body throughout the years. Start with your first memory about being in your body, and then include other pivotal moments.


When You Gain Weight

Saturday, April 5th, 2014

creative joy, hearts

Because April is National Poetry Month, here’s a poem I wrote as a reminder for all of us.

When you gain weight,

you may feel like a failure,

you may be convinced

you’ve done something wrong

you may think you need

to start counting calories

and cutting out dessert.


Body Image Booster: Keep A Thought Log

Monday, March 31st, 2014

NYC Oct 2012

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

A negative body image is made up of negative thoughts.

Wow, I look horrible today. Like every day. My pants are tight. What a surprise.

Why can’t I just be thinner? This cellulite has got to go! If I could just get rid of this flab, I’d be so much happier.

Often, we don’t even realize we’re playing a demoralizing dialogue in our minds all day long. Which, of course, only perpetuates and spikes the negativity and bashing.

Or maybe our thoughts aren’t overly cruel. Maybe there’s a hint of negativity or self-doubt that’s still deflating.

Either way, our thoughts can influence how we feel about ourselves, how we treat ourselves, and how we let others treat us. They can influence the boundaries we set, and the lives we lead.


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