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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image, Self-Care and Well-Being

In the book Listful Thinking: Using Lists to be More Productive, Highly Successful, and Less Stressed, author Paula Rizzo talks about the many helpful lists we can make.* For Rizzo lists have been a life-saver, helping her do everything from finding an apartment in Manhattan to navigating her busy days as a TV producer.

I make a lot of lists, too, because they help me organize the random racing thoughts preoccupying my mind. They help me break down messy, complicated things into feasible smaller steps. They help me feel less overwhelmed. They help me create a plan of action. They give my life structure. And lists even give me insights into who I am.

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Why We Should Listen to Our Inner Critics

Have you found yourself in this situation: You're working on treating yourself with more compassion. But then your inner critic starts: You're enormous. Ugly. Stupid. Undeserving. Lazy. Are you sure you should be relaxing? Are you sure you want to do that presentation or ask for a promotion? Are you sure you're good enough? You're not.


And as these thoughts spill out, you feel disappointed, maybe even angry: Really? Why am I still so hard on myself? What the hell is wrong with me?

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Self-Care Sunday: Focusing on Your Relationships

One of the most important parts of self-care is cultivating connection. This includes cultivating a connection with ourselves and with others. When it comes to others, it's important to surround ourselves with people who genuinely care about us, and to focus on building healthy relationships with those individuals.

Think of the people in your life who've been tremendously supportive. The people who've had some sort of positive influence on you. The person you can call to spill a secret to. The person you can call with good or bad news. The person who's taught you an important lesson. Who's held your hand during a rough time. Who always makes you laugh. Who truly listens. Who helped you in some sweet or compassionate way. Who accepts you for you.

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Repairing the Relationship With Ourselves

Forgiving ourselves for a mistake or wrongdoing is often harder than forgiving others. We wonder why we made such a stupid, ridiculous, careless mistake. We know better! Did we have a temporary lapse in judgment? What were we thinking? How could we?

We pummel ourselves with questions. We ruminate about our offense or failure. We feel guilt and shame. We call ourselves names. We go over the many actions we should've taken -- if we'd been smarter.

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A Powerful Body Image Book for Kids

Today, I’m excited and honored to share my interview with Judith Matz and Elizabeth Patch, creators of the powerful kids book Amanda's Big Dream. It tells the story of a girl who dreams of a solo in the Spring Ice Skating Show. But her confidence plummets when her skating coach makes a comment about her weight.

I’ve known Judith and Elizabeth for several years now, and have featured their important work here on Weightless. Elizabeth is a high school art teacher and illustrator who creates beautiful images that reflect a diversity of body types. As she says on her website: "Happy art for every body!"

Judith is a licensed clinical social worker who's been helping people overcome overeating and build a healthy relationship with food and themselves for over 25 years. She's also the author of The Diet Survivor's Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance and Self-Care and Beyond a Shadow of a Diet: The Comprehensive Guide to Treating Binge Eating Disorder, Compulsive Eating, and Emotional Overeating.

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Self-Care Sunday: Inspiring, Thoughtful Quotes

On this Sunday I'm sharing a list of inspiring, uplifting and thought-provoking quotes from Louise Baxter Harmon’s book Happiness A-Z: The Gleeful Guide to Finding and Following Your Bliss. Her book includes sooo many good ones!

Record the quotes that resonate with you. Consider which words you agree and disagree with. Write down these thoughts, too.

It's important information about what we need, what means most to us, what really doesn't. It's all a window into our souls.

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Using Visualization to Cope with Body-Hating Thoughts & Other Concerns


Visualization is a valuable way to cope with our emotions. It can help us when our brains start churning out body-hating thoughts. It can help us pause and refocus.

It can help us when we need a soothing break, when we're seeking comfort.

In her book The Emotionally Sensitive Person: Finding Peace When Your Emotions Overwhelm You psychologist Karyn D. Hall, Ph.D, defines visualization as "a way of coping by using your imagination to picture relaxing events."

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What Damaging Assumptions Are You Making?

Sometimes, assumptions can get us into trouble. We become so convinced something is a fact that we act on behaviors that aren't good for us, that shatter our sense of self, that stall our self-care.

For years I had many assumptions that didn't serve me very well. I assumed that in order to be worthy I had to be thin. In order to be happy, I had to lose weight. In order to lose weight I had to put myself on ridiculous diets. In order to have someone love me, I had to earn it.

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