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Creating Meaningful Categories of Self-Care

Self-care comes in all shapes and sizes. How we take care of ourselves depends on what we need at the time, and what's available to us. In The Generalized Anxiety Disorder Workbook authors Melisa Robichaud, PhD, and Michel J. Dugas, PhD, suggest keeping a list of self-care activities we can turn to (and scheduling them, just like we would a dental appointment). They share these three categories and some examples:

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Self-Care Sunday: Present Over Perfect

There's a powerful perspective that many of us miss around the holidays and, of course, at other times too. It's the idea of being present instead of being perfect. Because it's so easy to get caught up, isn't it? It's so easy to get caught up in buying the perfect gifts, in wearing the perfect party outfits, in hosting the perfect dinner. In trying to be the perfect everything.
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Accepting Shame, Pain and All Kinds of Emotions

This month I'm writing a piece for Psych Central on not viewing our anxiety as an adversary. An expert I interviewed for the piece shared the below poem with me, which I knew I had to share with you. This is how she encourages her clients to relate to their anxiety.

And it's how I think we can relate to everything -- particularly painful emotions. Instead of fighting with our feelings, we can acknowledge and accept them. We can let ourselves feel what we feel. Because every internal experience, every feeling, is welcome.

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Revising Our Definition of Exercise as a Punishment or Chore

In the beautiful book Yoga and Body Image, 25 contributors share personal stories about how yoga has helped them to accept their bodies and feel more comfortable in their own skin. They talk about how yoga has helped them to find their voice and express it.

This is so important, because we often forget what movement really is (and isn't). Moving our bodies isn't about punishing ourselves for eating something "naughty" or "sinful." It isn't about checking off a chore on our to-do list. It isn't about "no pain, no gain." It has nothing to do with being miserable or being bored.

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Simple, Clear-Cut Ways to View Boundaries — Especially for People-Pleasers

Boundaries can seem like a big (and intimidating) word, especially to people who haven't set many limits throughout their lives. If you're a people-pleaser, you know what I mean. However, the good news is that setting boundaries is an acquired skill. We can learn some tools and then practice them over and over. We don't have to resign ourselves to doing things we're uncomfortable with because that's what we used to do. We can make healthy changes.

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A Mindful Practice for Dealing with Difficult Feelings

One of the best ways we can take care of ourselves is by finding healthy ways to navigate our emotions. Because difficult emotions can derail us, depending on how we perceive them and what we do with them.

They can derail us if we see them as scary things we can never, ever feel. They can derail us if we avoid them and pretend they don't exist. They can derail us if we judge ourselves for being upset or anxious or angry or hurt or depressed.

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