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Binge Eating

Filling Ourselves with the Right Things

We fill ourselves with food. Food that we don't savor. Food that we barely even taste. We fill ourselves with alcohol. Too much alcohol. Parties. Endless gatherings and events. People who are critical, maybe even cruel. We fill ourselves with new clothes, new shoes, new trinkets, meaningless objects we don't need or even enjoy. And yet we still feel empty. Hollow. Depleted. Under-nourished. Maybe even starving or gasping for air.
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Creating Meaningful Vows for Living Our Lives

Vows are powerful statements for our lives. Which become powerful actions. According to physician and Zen teacher Jan Chozen Bays, M.D., in her thoughtful, practical book The Vow-Powered Life: A Simple Method for Living with Purpose: "Vows are the forces that weave together the fabric of our life and all of life. Without vows, without purposeful action, life would cease to exist."
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Self-Care Sunday: Reminders for Savoring the Moment and More

Below is a selection of powerful quotes from The Coloring Book of Mindfulness: 50 Quotes and Designs to Help You Focus, Slow Down, De-Stress, illustrated by Holly MacDonald. I hope these quotes remind you to be more present and to savor each moment---because we naturally and inevitably forget, too wrapped up in our mind's chatter, too focused on our to-do lists. Which is OK, because we can simply refocus on what's unraveling right before us. We can start using our senses fully, refocusing on what we're seeing, smelling, hearing, touching, tasting.
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An Emotional First-Aid Kit for Navigating Life’s Storms

When I used to struggle and go through tough times, I didn't really know how to handle it. I didn't know what to do. Because what do you do during a painful situation? Years ago, I'd try to eat it away. I'd berate myself for having certain feelings and get even more upset. I'd withdraw and spend a lot of time on the couch, flipping channels and feeling empty. I'd also feel hopeless and helpless and alone. I'd feel restless and lost and very uncomfortable in my own body.
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A Beautiful Way to View and Process Our Emotions

We tend to look at our "negative" emotions as a nuisance at best or with anger at worst. We judge ourselves for feeling sad or lonely. We judge ourselves for feeling anxious. Often we just want these feelings to go away. Often we pretend they don't exist in the first place. This is understandable. Maybe we weren't taught to process our emotions. Maybe we'd simply rather feel good instead of heavy, weighed down and hurt. Again, totally understandable. And that's hard. Because these feelings don't dissipate. They don't go away.
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An Exercise for Building Value-Based Days

How often do you say, "Where did the time go?" or a similar version, lamenting that there isn't enough time for everything you want and need to do. Part of the problem might be that we don't realize just how we spend our time and, honestly, how sometimes we squander it (me absolutely included!). Of course, some activities take longer than we think. We run into new and tricky challenges. And sometimes we're surprised by illnesses and other things. Sometimes, we simply have a bad day. After all, we aren't robots.
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