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An Emotional First-Aid Kit for Navigating Life’s Storms

When I used to struggle and go through tough times, I didn't really know how to handle it. I didn't know what to do. Because what do you do during a painful situation? Years ago, I'd try to eat it away. I'd berate myself for having certain feelings and get even more upset. I'd withdraw and spend a lot of time on the couch, flipping channels and feeling empty. I'd also feel hopeless and helpless and alone. I'd feel restless and lost and very uncomfortable in my own body.
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A Beautiful Way to View and Process Our Emotions

We tend to look at our "negative" emotions as a nuisance at best or with anger at worst. We judge ourselves for feeling sad or lonely. We judge ourselves for feeling anxious. Often we just want these feelings to go away. Often we pretend they don't exist in the first place. This is understandable. Maybe we weren't taught to process our emotions. Maybe we'd simply rather feel good instead of heavy, weighed down and hurt. Again, totally understandable. And that's hard. Because these feelings don't dissipate. They don't go away.
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An Exercise for Building Value-Based Days

How often do you say, "Where did the time go?" or a similar version, lamenting that there isn't enough time for everything you want and need to do. Part of the problem might be that we don't realize just how we spend our time and, honestly, how sometimes we squander it (me absolutely included!). Of course, some activities take longer than we think. We run into new and tricky challenges. And sometimes we're surprised by illnesses and other things. Sometimes, we simply have a bad day. After all, we aren't robots.
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Creating Meaningful Categories of Self-Care

Self-care comes in all shapes and sizes. How we take care of ourselves depends on what we need at the time, and what's available to us. In The Generalized Anxiety Disorder Workbook authors Melisa Robichaud, PhD, and Michel J. Dugas, PhD, suggest keeping a list of self-care activities we can turn to (and scheduling them, just like we would a dental appointment). They share these three categories and some examples:
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Self-Care Sunday: Present Over Perfect

There's a powerful perspective that many of us miss around the holidays and, of course, at other times too. It's the idea of being present instead of being perfect. Because it's so easy to get caught up, isn't it? It's so easy to get caught up in buying the perfect gifts, in wearing the perfect party outfits, in hosting the perfect dinner. In trying to be the perfect everything.
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Accepting Shame, Pain and All Kinds of Emotions

This month I'm writing a piece for Psych Central on not viewing our anxiety as an adversary. An expert I interviewed for the piece shared the below poem with me, which I knew I had to share with you. This is how she encourages her clients to relate to their anxiety. And it's how I think we can relate to everything -- particularly painful emotions. Instead of fighting with our feelings, we can acknowledge and accept them. We can let ourselves feel what we feel. Because every internal experience, every feeling, is welcome.
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