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Self-Care Sunday: Decluttering to Create Meaningful Spaces

On Friday I shared valuable insights from Lauren Rosenfeld and Dr. Melva Green's book Breathing Room: Open Your Heart by Decluttering Your Home. Because decluttering is a powerful way to practice self-care.

This might seem surprising. But as I mentioned in the previous post, our homes are where we meet a lot of our needs. In our homes we meet our need for sleep, relaxation, nourishment, support, solitude and reflection, among others.

So it's important for our homes to become sanctuaries. It's important for them to reflect the things we need and the things that serve us.

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Decluttering Our Inner and Outer Spaces

I've mentioned before that self-care can sometimes be surprising. That is, sometimes, self-care isn't blissful or relaxing in the moment. Sometimes, it feels like work. Sometimes, it's even decluttering. Because what we surround ourselves with has a powerful effect on our well-being, on our psychological and physical health.
For instance, I spend a lot of time at home. I work from home. Naturally, it's where I relax. It's where I spend quality time with my husband. For me it's important to have a relatively organized, clean and inspiring space. For my work. And my life. How my home feels affects my mood and perspective.
I'm realizing that the state of my home is a big part of my self-care, because I meet my needs in this environment. I meet needs such as sleep, rest, nourishment, connection, curiosity and growth.
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Digging for Your Deepest Fear

When I was in the midst of dieting, of worrying about my weight, of trying to lose weight, it had very little, of course, to do with losing weight or trying to be "healthy," or trying to look a certain way. It had nothing to do with any of these things.

Instead, what it did have to do with was self-worth. Somehow my biggest fear became that I wasn't inherently worthy of good things. So I had to earn my worth, as though I were an empty bank account. And every time I lost weight or skipped dessert, I deposited some money.

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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image, Self-Care and Well-Being

In the book Listful Thinking: Using Lists to be More Productive, Highly Successful, and Less Stressed, author Paula Rizzo talks about the many helpful lists we can make.* For Rizzo lists have been a life-saver, helping her do everything from finding an apartment in Manhattan to navigating her busy days as a TV producer.

I make a lot of lists, too, because they help me organize the random racing thoughts preoccupying my mind. They help me break down messy, complicated things into feasible smaller steps. They help me feel less overwhelmed. They help me create a plan of action. They give my life structure. And lists even give me insights into who I am.

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Why We Should Listen to Our Inner Critics

Have you found yourself in this situation: You're working on treating yourself with more compassion. But then your inner critic starts: You're enormous. Ugly. Stupid. Undeserving. Lazy. Are you sure you should be relaxing? Are you sure you want to do that presentation or ask for a promotion? Are you sure you're good enough? You're not.


And as these thoughts spill out, you feel disappointed, maybe even angry: Really? Why am I still so hard on myself? What the hell is wrong with me?

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Self-Care Sunday: Focusing on Your Relationships

One of the most important parts of self-care is cultivating connection. This includes cultivating a connection with ourselves and with others. When it comes to others, it's important to surround ourselves with people who genuinely care about us, and to focus on building healthy relationships with those individuals.

Think of the people in your life who've been tremendously supportive. The people who've had some sort of positive influence on you. The person you can call to spill a secret to. The person you can call with good or bad news. The person who's taught you an important lesson. Who's held your hand during a rough time. Who always makes you laugh. Who truly listens. Who helped you in some sweet or compassionate way. Who accepts you for you.

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Repairing the Relationship With Ourselves

Forgiving ourselves for a mistake or wrongdoing is often harder than forgiving others. We wonder why we made such a stupid, ridiculous, careless mistake. We know better! Did we have a temporary lapse in judgment? What were we thinking? How could we?

We pummel ourselves with questions. We ruminate about our offense or failure. We feel guilt and shame. We call ourselves names. We go over the many actions we should've taken -- if we'd been smarter.

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A Powerful Body Image Book for Kids

Today, I’m excited and honored to share my interview with Judith Matz and Elizabeth Patch, creators of the powerful kids book Amanda's Big Dream. It tells the story of a girl who dreams of a solo in the Spring Ice Skating Show. But her confidence plummets when her skating coach makes a comment about her weight.

I’ve known Judith and Elizabeth for several years now, and have featured their important work here on Weightless. Elizabeth is a high school art teacher and illustrator who creates beautiful images that reflect a diversity of body types. As she says on her website: "Happy art for every body!"

Judith is a licensed clinical social worker who's been helping people overcome overeating and build a healthy relationship with food and themselves for over 25 years. She's also the author of The Diet Survivor's Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance and Self-Care and Beyond a Shadow of a Diet: The Comprehensive Guide to Treating Binge Eating Disorder, Compulsive Eating, and Emotional Overeating.

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