Archives for Body Image - Page 2
There's a lot of confusion surrounding self-compassion: We see self-compassion as self-indulgent. We see it as selfish. We see it as weak. Which is unfortunate because a) this means that we don't practice self-compassion and b) self-compassion isn't any of these things. I asked several individuals who specialize in self-compassion to clear up the often misunderstood concept by answering this question: What do you wish people really understood about self-compassion? Last week I shared several of their truths in this piece. Below, you'll find several more truths from another therapist and a nutritionist.
The average American gains X number of pounds between Halloween and Christmas. It takes just a few meals to gain weight but many months to lose it. Don't eat the cheesecake! That's way too many calories. For every "treat," you need to do X number of push-ups and burpees and cardio and.... You'll be paying for that pumpkin pie! Never have a second helping! Don't forget about bikini season!
Since I started writing Weightless (in 2009!), every year around this time, I’ve shared a list of last-minute gifts we can give to our loved ones and ourselves—whether we’re celebrating Christmas or Hanukkah. I’ve combined those lists, updated them and added new ideas.
There are so many (too many) misconceptions about what self-compassion really is and what it looks like. And it's precisely these myths that stop us from practicing self-compassion. It's these (erroneous) assumptions that lead us to being self-critical and dismissing ourselves. Which is why I asked several therapists to answer this question: What do you wish people really understood about self-compassion? Below you'll find responses from two therapists, which just might have you reconsidering your thoughts on self-compassion.
Right now I don't recognize my body. There is a fresh scar well below my belly from my C-section. There is more weight. There are blemishes and bigger thighs. There are curvier curves, an extra softness, and something I jokingly refer to as my marsupial pouch. I notice myself talking more and more about my appearance, and feeling uncomfortable in my own skin.
We often think that the only path to accepting our bodies and treating them (and ourselves) well is to embrace everything, to embrace ourselves from head to toe. And you might be wondering: But what if I still hate my thighs? What if I can't get over my nose? Does that mean I'll be miserable in my skin forever?
I think the path to...
We don't have to be in love with our bodies---our weight, shape or size---to treat ourselves well. In fact, we don't even have to like our bodies. We don't have to walk around loving or liking every inch in order to feel good in our own skin. Because often what helps us to feel good in our own skin are actions and practices. The small gestures. The gradual steps we take every...
Journaling is a powerful way to learn more about ourselves. And it's amazing how many stories just one word (or a few words) can spark. Below are 50 (plus) words to help you self-reflect. Don't think too much about your responses, and don't censor yourself. Simply write what's on your mind. If you like, set a timer, and give yourself a limit. Or don't. Do what works best for you. Always.
One of the books I regularly recommend to readers is Rosie Molinary's Beautiful You. Because it's empowering, inspiring and practical. And because it's necessary. Because we receive messages that tell us we aren't good enough---but we can become good enough and happy and confident if we do X, Y and Z. If we lose weight. If we change our appearance. If we are productive. If we don't make any mistakes. If we...
I used to view my thoughts and beliefs as rock-solid facts. I assumed they were indisputable, unquestionable truths. I assumed that I had to stick with them because I'd stuck with them for years. As if I was married to these thoughts, and divorce simply wasn't an option.