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Love Yourself Anyway

Some of us grew up in abusive households, where we were torn down every single day. Where we were explicitly told that we are unworthy and unlovable.

Some of us grew up in healthier households, but were bullied in school for our weight, looks or who we are.

Some of us grew up in households where weight was synonymous with self-worth, where certain foods were forbidden and insults about appearance were the norm.

Some of us have had toxic relationships with people who berated us for everything. And, over time, we started to believe them.

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A Powerful Body Image Book for Kids

Today, I’m excited and honored to share my interview with Judith Matz and Elizabeth Patch, creators of the powerful kids book Amanda's Big Dream. It tells the story of a girl who dreams of a solo in the Spring Ice Skating Show. But her confidence plummets when her skating coach makes a comment about her weight.

I’ve known Judith and Elizabeth for several years now, and have featured their important work here on Weightless. Elizabeth is a high school art teacher and illustrator who creates beautiful images that reflect a diversity of body types. As she says on her website: "Happy art for every body!"

Judith is a licensed clinical social worker who's been helping people overcome overeating and build a healthy relationship with food and themselves for over 25 years. She's also the author of The Diet Survivor's Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance and Self-Care and Beyond a Shadow of a Diet: The Comprehensive Guide to Treating Binge Eating Disorder, Compulsive Eating, and Emotional Overeating.

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20 Questions for Exploring Unconditional Self-Love

Yesterday, we explored what unconditional self-love looks like. Today, I'm sharing some questions we can ask ourselves to start (or keep) loving ourselves unconditionally. Because I personally find it helpful to divide something as big as self-love into its many parts. I find it helpful to have prompts (like questions) to dive into and think through. One word. One sentence at a time. I hope you might, too.

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What It Means to Love Ourselves Unconditionally

Lately, I've been thinking about self-love and what it means to love ourselves unconditionally. What does this really look like on a day-to-day basis?

I think of loving ourselves unconditionally as loving others unconditionally, such as our parents, partners, kids and close friends.

When we get into arguments, we resolve them. When they make mistakes, we forgive them. When they forget how beautiful they are, we remind them. I think this is what unconditional love looks like for us.

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Self-Care Sunday: Inspiring, Thoughtful Quotes

On this Sunday I'm sharing a list of inspiring, uplifting and thought-provoking quotes from Louise Baxter Harmon’s book Happiness A-Z: The Gleeful Guide to Finding and Following Your Bliss. Her book includes sooo many good ones!

Record the quotes that resonate with you. Consider which words you agree and disagree with. Write down these thoughts, too.

It's important information about what we need, what means most to us, what really doesn't. It's all a window into our souls.

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Using Visualization to Cope with Body-Hating Thoughts & Other Concerns


Visualization is a valuable way to cope with our emotions. It can help us when our brains start churning out body-hating thoughts. It can help us pause and refocus.

It can help us when we need a soothing break, when we're seeking comfort.

In her book The Emotionally Sensitive Person: Finding Peace When Your Emotions Overwhelm You psychologist Karyn D. Hall, Ph.D, defines visualization as "a way of coping by using your imagination to picture relaxing events."

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