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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image and Well-Being, Part 2

In May I penned this piece about the different lists we can create for helping us build a more positive body image, practice compassionate self-care and boost our well-being. Today, I'm sharing a list of other lists, which I hope you find helpful!

I love writing lists because they help to simplify overwhelming things -- like feelings, worries, projects, making positive changes in our lives. Lists make the abstract ideas floating around my head more tangible, more doable.

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Surviving Bikini Season with Your Positive Body Image In Tact

You've likely come across an article or email or social media post about getting "bikini ready." Maybe you hear people talking about it at the gym, the grocery store, at work or even at home. It's hard to avoid the frenzy when it tends to be all around us.

Even though I write a blog about building a positive body image, I find myself getting sucked in. Maybe you, too, find yourself joining the conversation, and minutes later, wondering what the heck happened. Minutes later you're discussing diets or counting calories in your head. Minutes later you're unsure if you want dessert. Minutes later you find yourself staring at your belly, and sighing.

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Instead of Rushing to Self-Criticism, Consider these Words

There are many days when I feel disappointed in myself. Even angry. Frustrated that I ate too much, that I wasn't brave, that I made a mistake, that I snapped at a loved one, that I didn't clean, that I didn't work enough, that I didn't do that many reps of an exercise, that I'm not strong enough.

There are days I'm overwhelmed. Days I'm unsure or irritated. Days I think I've gained weight, and I wear my disappointment like a coat. All of us have these days. The details may be different, but the berating and bashing and judging and sadness may be the same.

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Taking Exquisite Care of Ourselves

The last few days I've  been cleaning my house. Vigorously. Our family is visiting from up north, more family is coming over this weekend, and our house is being appraised. I've been getting on my hands and knees scrubbing the spots off the tiles. I've been sweeping up teeny tiny crumbs. I've paid attention to the smallest of details, to the smallest piece of dirt, to the thinnest layer of dust.

In other words, we've been taking exquisite care in cleaning our home. We're proud of our place, and we want it to show. And it feels good to tend to it. To express care for something meaningful to both of us.

This level of care got me thinking. How often do we take such exquisite care of ourselves?

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Digging for Your Deepest Fear

When I was in the midst of dieting, of worrying about my weight, of trying to lose weight, it had very little, of course, to do with losing weight or trying to be "healthy," or trying to look a certain way. It had nothing to do with any of these things.

Instead, what it did have to do with was self-worth. Somehow my biggest fear became that I wasn't inherently worthy of good things. So I had to earn my worth, as though I were an empty bank account. And every time I lost weight or skipped dessert, I deposited some money.

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Self-Care Sunday Links 5.31.15

It's been a while since I've shared a list of self-care links. With today being the last day of May (wow, this month flew by!), it seems like a fitting time for a round-up of posts around the blogosphere. Below, you'll find links on everything from embracing your reflection to building a work/life balance to signs it might be time to see a therapist. I hope you're enjoying a wonderful Sunday!

Excellent tips and insights on taking mirror selfies and actually liking what we see.

Consider doing a word-of-the-year check-in. If you never picked a word-of-the-year, maybe you'd like to pick one now.

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What We Want to Remember

I recently discovered a new-to-me blog by Karina Bania. This post in particular struck me. In it Bania wonders what she'll remember about today:

"Will it be the eight am beach-combing and ocean swim? The almost running out of gas on the deserted road, or the ten am piña colada that accompanied the epic wave watching laziness. Will it be the five year-old attitude and the endless sibling fighting that defined the afternoon?

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Or maybe the only memory will be this sunset swim. The one where summer and fall and my girls growing selves meet. Where seasons change subtly, days blur into one another, and so many beautiful moments in life are blown into the wind."
This made me think of a journal prompt we can explore every day, something simple, in the evening:

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Self-Care Sunday: Weekly Check-in

When we're busy, we tend to go on autopilot (or in survival mode) and barrel through our days. We don't really pay much attention to how we're doing. Instead, we hyperfocus on tasks and chores. We may forget to tune into our thoughts and feelings, to check in with the happenings of our hearts.

That's why it's important to schedule a special time in the week that's dedicated to checking in with yourself. Just you, and your journal. Pick any day you like as your check-in, such as Sunday. Block it out in your planner. Carve out 5 or 10 minutes (more if you have it) to sit and reflect on how you're doing.

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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image, Self-Care and Well-Being

In the book Listful Thinking: Using Lists to be More Productive, Highly Successful, and Less Stressed, author Paula Rizzo talks about the many helpful lists we can make.* For Rizzo lists have been a life-saver, helping her do everything from finding an apartment in Manhattan to navigating her busy days as a TV producer.

I make a lot of lists, too, because they help me organize the random racing thoughts preoccupying my mind. They help me break down messy, complicated things into feasible smaller steps. They help me feel less overwhelmed. They help me create a plan of action. They give my life structure. And lists even give me insights into who I am.

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