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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image, Self-Care and Well-Being

In the book Listful Thinking: Using Lists to be More Productive, Highly Successful, and Less Stressed, author Paula Rizzo talks about the many helpful lists we can make.* For Rizzo lists have been a life-saver, helping her do everything from finding an apartment in Manhattan to navigating her busy days as a TV producer.

I make a lot of lists, too, because they help me organize the random racing thoughts preoccupying my mind. They help me break down messy, complicated things into feasible smaller steps. They help me feel less overwhelmed. They help me create a plan of action. They give my life structure. And lists even give me insights into who I am.

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Why We Should Listen to Our Inner Critics

Have you found yourself in this situation: You're working on treating yourself with more compassion. But then your inner critic starts: You're enormous. Ugly. Stupid. Undeserving. Lazy. Are you sure you should be relaxing? Are you sure you want to do that presentation or ask for a promotion? Are you sure you're good enough? You're not.


And as these thoughts spill out, you feel disappointed, maybe even angry: Really? Why am I still so hard on myself? What the hell is wrong with me?

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Body Image Booster: Penning a Permission Slip


On some Mondays I share a tip, activity, inspiring quote or other tidbits that help boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. I’d love to hear from you!
One of the biggest reasons I didn't like my body and take good care of it was because I believed I wasn't allowed to. I believed I didn't have the permission until I changed my appearance, until I lost weight, which meant I finally deserved to.

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You Are Not a Number

In an earlier post I talked about the different small ways we can embrace ourselves. In one tip I suggested tossing out the scale. Because you're not a number.

But sometimes, it feels like we are. Doesn't it?

Sometimes, we become convinced that the number on the scale means everything, dictates everything -- from our happiness to our relationship status to our worth as a human being.

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Reframing Negative Thoughts Into Helpful Questions

Yesterday, I wrote about cultivating curiosity (instead of berating or criticizing ourselves). Today, I'm exploring curiosity, again, because it's such a powerful tool in building a more positive body image and taking compassionate care of ourselves.

All of us experience negative thoughts, particularly about ourselves. And some of us experience them on repeat. While we might not be able to stop our brains from spitting out negative thoughts, we can reframe them -- instead of interpreting these thoughts as truths.

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Instead of Criticizing Yourself Cultivate Curiosity

Instead of getting frustrated with our bodies, our reactions or our feelings, we can get curious. Instead of berating ourselves, we can dig deeper. We can explore why we're having certain emotions and reactions. We can scour our mistakes for lessons. We can examine what triggers our emotional overeating and what we really need instead.

I love the concept of curiosity because it's a powerful way to engage with ourselves and our environment. When we're curious, we're more present. We're more open to learning. We get to know our needs. We get to know ourselves. We can use the information we learn to truly nourish ourselves.

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Body Image Booster: Writing A Love Note to Our Bodies

It's been a while since I've written a body image booster post on Mondays. I used to write these posts at the beginning of every week because let's face it Mondays can be tough. We could use a little lift, a tiny boost in the right direction.

Here are two quotes I've recently come across that might help: "Every Monday morning is new hope," as Maira Kalman says. And as Storm Jameson said, “The only way to live is to accept each minute as an unrepeatable miracle, which is exactly what it is: a miracle and unrepeatable.”

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The Power of Self-Care

When I practice self-care, I am myself. The veil of overwhelm lifts and reveals the core of me. I am silly, playful, compassionate, curious, understanding, patient and energetic. I'm still imperfect. I still make mistakes. I still stumble and struggle. But my body and mind reconnect. We're no longer two separate beings, both miserable and holding our breaths.

In other words, when I get enough sleep, eat nutrient-rich foods, move my body, respond to my needs, savor rest and relaxation, I feel most like myself. I feel more comfortable in my own skin. I'm more present.

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