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Dear Girl Who Hates Her Body

Dear Girl Who Hates Her Body, You look at your body in the mirror and grimace. Ugh. It still looks like crap. You touch your body in disgust. You spend hours in your closet trying on every piece of clothing you own. And still nothing fits. Nothing looks good. Everything is wrong. You feel wrong. You wake up at 5 a.m. when the world is still dark and drag yourself to the gym. You don't want to be there. But what other choice do you have?
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How to Catch Yourself When You’re Falling

There is a beautiful quote from Baal Shem Tov: "Let me fall if I must fall. The one I will become will catch me." Which always reminds me that we have the power to catch ourselves, even if we don't think we can. That is comforting and empowering, because all of us will fall. We may fall from the sky, a very long descent. We may fall out of a second-story window, closer to the ground but still potentially bruised. But, again, these falls are OK. Because we can handle this. Because we've got this. We can be our own superman, swooping in when we've been thrown from a building.
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More Mantras That Might Resonate With You

This week we talked about creating mantras that we need. Today, I'm sharing other examples of mantras. Mantras can come in all shapes and sizes. They can be a single word or a single sentence. They can speak to all sorts of subjects. Again, it depends on what you need---whatever brings you comfort and calm, whatever inspires you, whatever serves as a powerful reminder.
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Try to Be Patient with Yourself

When you don't finish everything on your to-do list and more tasks keep piling up, try to be patient with yourself. When you look tired and your skin feels like sandpaper and you hate the way you look in everything, try to be patient with yourself. When you get easily distracted or can't make up your mind, try to be patient with yourself.
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Making Choices from Love, Not Fear

Do any of these experiences sound familiar, whether past or present: You took on jobs that you hated and held onto every dollar you had out of fear of not having enough money. You punished your body at the gym for fear of gaining weight. You watched what you ate because you hated your body. You surrounded yourself with unhealthy "friends," and endured unhealthy relationships because you feared being rejected. You became a people-pleaser because you feared disappointing others. You partied and trashed your body to numb the deep loneliness you felt.
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