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Self-Care Sunday Links 8.30.15

On some Sundays I share links to pieces from around the web, along with posts I’ve written for Psych Central. This month's links include everything from reframing your thoughts about exercise to reducing mom guilt to what it really means to love yourself. I hope you find these helpful, and I hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday!
3 strategies to reframe your thinking about exercise.
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You Are Not Your Story, Mistake or Inner Critic’s Comments

So many of us take one isolated event -- a mistake, a painful situation -- or the critical comments of our inner critic and let it color who we are. Completely. It's as though we become this one thing. This one negative thing.

Maybe your inner critic regularly spews remarks about your weight and how you look disgusting and horrible in everything. So you become the person who looks disgusting and horrible all the time.*

Maybe you made a big mistake or a bad decision, which you regret. So you become the person defined by that decision, that one mistake.

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Embracing Your Flaws

For years I had an overpowering all-or-nothing mindset. If I couldn't do it perfectly, then I'd failed. If I didn't look pretty all the time, then I wasn't pretty at all. If I didn't have a flat stomach, then I couldn't like my body. If I didn't ace every test, then I wasn't smart. I had a very hard time accepting that imperfections are natural (and make me me). I had a hard time accepting that being flawed didn't mean being doomed or undeserving or unworthy.

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5 More Ways to Listen to Ourselves

So often we dismiss our own thoughts, feelings, needs and desires. We assume that someone else knows better about what we should do, eat, wear, think, feel, want, need. So we silence ourselves. We discount ourselves. We take ourselves out of the conversation. And we listen to others (people who may or may not have our best interest at heart).
Yesterday, I shared different ways we can put ourselves back in the conversation, different ways we can sharpen our listening skills so we can really hear ourselves. Today, I'm sharing five more suggestions.
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Who Do You Think You Are?

Who do you think you are to wear a bikini when you don't have a "bikini body"?

Who do you think you are to stop dieting when you "should" lose weight?

Who do you think you are to take care of yourself when you haven't finished your work?

Who do you think you are to eat several cookies or savor two slices of cake?

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Self-Care Sunday: Exploring Your Social Media Use

This week has been all about asking ourselves questions to identify our needs, dreams and desires; to explore our thoughts and feelings; and to get honest with ourselves. Today is no exception. Today, I'd like to talk about social media. Because a big part of taking care of ourselves is being intentional about our lives, being deliberate about what we invite into our lives and what we keep out. It's about making healthy, self-compassionate choices.

This is especially important with social media because it's such a public space. Because, like any activity, it can add to our lives or take away from them.

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20 Questions for Getting Honest with Ourselves

We need to know what we want, what makes us happy, what's troubling us, what's truly on our minds and in our hearts in order to lead a meaningful life and have meaningful relationships. This requires listening to ourselves, taking the time to pause and check in. And it requires getting honest with ourselves. Bare bones honest.

Here's a list of questions to help you get honest -- to explore your true self, to reconnect with your heart:

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10 Simple Questions to Help You Identify or Clarify Your Needs

I've said this before many times, but that's because I think it's so important: Our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for all relationships. It's the foundation of everything. Part of this relationship involves having a dialogue with ourselves. It involves identifying our needs and responding to them. Because this is also the foundation for a fulfilling life.

And this is where questions can help. Today, I'm sharing questions you can contemplate regularly to take compassionate care of yourself.

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Finding Lessons in Trials, Triumphs and Everyday Life

One of the things that helps us avoid bashing ourselves and getting bogged down by life's challenges is to have a learning mindset. To look at everything (or at least most things) as a lesson to be learned. For instance, just yesterday, I read this excellent piece by Todd Henry. In it he recounts all the frustrating things that happened after he gave a talk in Colorado: dealing with a delayed flight, missing his connecting flight home, having to stay at a hotel overnight, missing the hotel shuttle, only eating breakfast all day.

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