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Seemingly Small Steps That Can be Powerful

We think we need to make big earth-shattering decisions to build meaningful lives, to make positive changes. And sometimes that's true. Sometimes that might mean moving to a new city, getting a new job, starting a new academic program, ending a toxic relationship. But often the smallest steps can be surprisingly powerful. Plus, sometimes, we assume that it's either "go big or go home." And, because we feel overwhelmed, we go home. We feel paralyzed. And we don't do anything.
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Sharing Our Shame

I just penned a piece for our main blog about being ourselves, what this really means and what it really looks like. One of the psychologists I interviewed shared this story with me: A young man was deeply ashamed about his enormous debt from student loans and credit cards. He didn't want anyone to know, including his friends, because he feared that they would judge and exclude him.
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A Different Way to Deal with Your Inner Critic

Often we want to banish our inner critic. We want it to vanish. To eliminate it once and for all. This is totally understandable, because it's a cruel voice, which is painful to hear. Sometimes, incredibly painful. It just sounds so angry. Your inner critic might be akin to a person screaming in your face. Really loud. All the time. It might hurl insults. It might be a constant stream of negativity, and you can't do this and you can't do that, you idiot! 
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The Foundation of Self-Care

The foundation of compassionate self-care is paying attention to ourselves. It is noticing what's happening inside our bodies, since this gives us valuable information into our needs. Because once we know that, we can choose how to respond. And those responses might be as simple as eating when we notice that we're hungry and stopping when we notice that we're full. Or they might be learning that we're feeling upset when our heads hit the pillow because we haven't focused enough on our priorities---so you identify how to make those things first and foremost. And you do.
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Why I Don’t Read Fitness or Health Magazines Anymore

I'm not sure that I've ever felt good reading a fitness or "health" magazine geared toward women. Instead, I've felt self-conscious, inadequate and way too big. At some point I realized the words in their glossy pages weren't gospel. I realized that I didn't have to believe or act on their tips---which focused on watching my weight and what I was eating (like a hawk), feeling guilty any time I wavered and preparing for (i.e., panicking over) bikini season and holiday parties.
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