I talk often about focusing our attention on the things that serve us and letting go of the things that don’t.
For instance, in this post, I wrote: “There’s so much freedom in relinquishing the beliefs, behaviors, habits, objects, stories and people that don’t serve us.”
In this post, I said: “…saying no gives us the time, space and energy to say yes to what truly nourishes and serves us.”
But what does this really mean?
Because if you’ve spent years spinning negative self-statements, neglecting your self-care and letting people into your life that only sink your self-worth and spike judgment and body bashing, you may have no idea.
I didn’t. In fact, I didn’t even think I could choose something that served me, whatever this meant. I didn’t realize I had the permission to pick something positive. I didn’t have to believe my own mean thoughts. (Thankfully, we don’t.)
So what does it mean when something actually serves us?
I came across a great question in Jen Louden’s beautiful post that spoke to one side of this: “Is this story generating the future I want?”
I love this! It’s a specific — and beautifully simple — question we can ask ourselves. A question that also reminds us that we can create stories that support and empower us.
Here are other questions to consider when contemplating if something, such as a story, behavior, belief or person, serves you:
We may not have much practice with picking stories, habits and people that serve us. It may not come automatically or naturally. But asking ourselves questions like the ones above and reminding ourselves that we can make intentional supportive choices are helpful ways to start the process.
What questions arise for you when thinking of the word “serve”?
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