she, a celebration of greatness in every woman

I love the following excerpt from Mary Anne Radmacher and Liz Kalloch’s book She: A Celebration of Greatness in Every Woman.

 I love it because it serves as a significant reminder.

The next time someone wonders why you’re carving out time for yourself, why you’ve stopped depleting yourself, why you’ve ditched that diet, why you have a housekeeper, why you’re expressing an opinion, why you’re eating dessert, why you refuse to weigh yourself, why you don’t want to talk about weight or calorie counts, why you’re setting a certain boundary, why you’re dreaming a certain dream, reread the below, and use the same – or a similar – phrase:

Because I said so. Because it works for me. Because I’m expressing my voice. Because I’m honoring myself. Because I deserve it, and you know, you do, too.

Do the same when your inner critic starts roaring, when the self-doubts won’t stop, when the insecurities become too big.

Because you said so. And that is enough.

“While you may have said that you wouldn’t repeat the sorts of things your parents said to you…there’s one phrase I hope you’ll hold on to and fully embrace.

‘Because I said so.’

This is the answer to many things. That occasional self-doubt. That persistent second-guessing. Look the uncertainties asserting themselves square in the eye and enunciate, ‘Because. I. Said. So.’ The value of that phrase extends beyond the realm of self-talk.

Vividly connecting to your own inspired actions seems to invite a raft of nay-sayers and dream slayers. They ask questions that sound like, ‘Really? You’re going to do THAT?’ or ‘Oh, that’s interesting. Are you trained for that.’

When your own sense of knowing is called to someone else’s spotlight – that’s when a healthy dose of ‘because I said so,’ (also easily remembered as BISS) really serves the conversation. At the end of the matter, any matter, there’s one expert on the subject of your personal passions, longings, and vision.

That, my dearest, is YOU.

Remember the phrase when addressing doubt, any doubt, yours or someone else’s. Knowing what is true for you, doesn’t have to be true for anyone else, is sometimes knowing enough.

And, please, while you’re remembering, continue remembering to breathe deeply.”



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    Last reviewed: 22 Mar 2014

APA Reference
Tartakovsky, M. (2014). When Someone Doubts Your Dreams Or Decisions (Including Yourself). Psych Central. Retrieved on September 20, 2014, from




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