Food For Thought: Exploring Your Relationship With Your Body
I’m starting a new series here on Weightless, where I’ll share a quote, comment or passage from another resource. Think of it as a kind of nugget to ponder, a morsel to nibble on; questions to explore when you have a few moments to yourself.
These questions will mostly focus on delving into your relationship with your body and yourself.
When I was younger, I rarely took the time to ask myself what I wanted. I rarely took the time to think through my intentions, needs and goals.
Sure, I knew I wanted to do well in school and to lose weight.
But did I dig deeper?
Unfortunately, not so much. Maybe I did. But I just don’t remember any thoughtful reflection or conscious efforts on my part.
So with this series, I’d like to encourage you to carve out some time to get quiet and contemplate. Because once you do, you have an exquisite sense of direction.
You have a clearer picture of what you need and want. You understand what’s working and what isn’t. You’re able to create a life that reflects your values and priorities.
And you’re able to make conscious and intentional choices.
Today, I want to share a passage from Susannah Conway’s beautiful book This I Know: Notes on Unraveling the Heart. (It’s one of my favorites!) In it, she reveals what she’d like her relationship with her body to look like.
Like all of Susannah’s writing, this passage is inspiring and provides a a meal of questions to sink into:
“I do want my body to last an entire lifetime. I want it to run smoothly and painlessly, like a well-oiled lawnmower, the kind you drive around the yard, smiling as a mundane chore turns into an hour of fun. I want my relationship with my body to be fun, to be light and loving, a pleasure not an ordeal. I want to call a truce, to find a way to be a body and a soul, both at the same time.
And just as I nurture my creativity and feed my mind with words and art, I want to learn how to nurture my body, to treasure the curves and the sags, and thank my feet every day for walking me to the supermarket without too much complaint. To remember to appreciate my arms that carry my groceries home, the finger that presses the shutter button, the knees that bend, the bottom that allows me to sit comfortably as I write these words.
And my shoulders! How lucky I am to have them either side of my head, bearing the weight of the world as soundlessly as they do. I want to learn to love my body again because it’s the only one I’ve got.”
So today’s questions are: What would you like your relationship with your body to look like? How would you like to nurture your body? Have you thanked it lately? How would you like to show your appreciation from now on?
Feel free to take out your journal. Remember that your answers may change. They may change every few months, maybe even every few weeks. Come back to these inquiries. Check in with yourself. Figure out the direction you’d like to go.
Tartakovsky, M. (2013). Food For Thought: Exploring Your Relationship With Your Body. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 19, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2013/05/food-for-thought-exploring-your-relationship-with-your-body/