Building A Peaceful Relationship With Food: Q&A With Christie Inge
For many of us our relationship with food is a complicated one, characterized by a kind of push and pull. We either restrict what we eat and count calories, for example. Or we say the heck with it, and we eat the foods that we once deemed forbidden — without taking our body’s cues into account or paying attention to pleasure.
Either way, we end up at war with ourselves. And we end up with very little nourishment.
Today, I’m honored to present my interview with Christie Inge, who’s recently created The Peaceful Eating Kit – The Tools You Need to End the War with Food. Throughout the years I’ve learned a lot from Christie and her work and this toolkit is no exception.
Below, in part one of our interview, Christie explains what peaceful eating entails and why diets just don’t work.
Also, Christie is generously offering Weightless readers 25 percent off the The Peaceful Eating Kit. Just enter the word “weightless” for the discount code when you’re checking out.
Stay tuned tomorrow for part two!
Q: You’ve created your own term to describe a peaceful relationship with food aptly called “peaceful eating.” Could you tell us more about what that term means?
A: Sure! For anyone who may be wondering, my concept of Peaceful Eating was born from healing my own relationship with food, first. At the worst of it, I was 220lbs and binge eating every day. Ben and Jerry was truly my best friend. I was oblivious to what was happening to my body and was using food to completely check out of my life (just like I had done with drinking, drugs, promiscuous sex).
Eventually, I found my way to dieting. I got down to my “goal weight” and had the epiphany that I wasn’t any happier – losing the weight hadn’t actually changed anything except the size of my pants. In fact, I was more obsessed with food and hated my body even with its smaller size.
When I realized this, I immediately sought refuge in the world of intuitive eating. But, even that was still tough going for me. I turned the principles of intuitive eating into just another diet.
Sure, I wasn’t technically dieting anymore but something was still missing for me. And in my quest to figure it out, I learned that I needed more direct help in the areas of emotions, mindset, core human needs, and, of course, telling myself the truth. I sought out to learn everything I could in those four areas and as a result, what I call Peaceful Eating was born.
So, not unlike intuitive eating, there are tools for listening to and honoring the signals of your body but there are also tools for helping you learn:
- How to feel your feelings (instead of eating them)
- How to manage those gremlin-y thoughts that haunt each one of us
- What your true needs are and discover ways of meeting them without food
- How to tell yourself the truth and base today’s (thoughts and) actions on what you really want for your life
I truly believe that when we integrate all of these tools with listening to our bodies about what, when, and how much to eat, a peaceful relationship with food is inevitable.
Q: What do you think is the biggest barrier to peaceful eating?
A: I think the biggest barrier to peaceful eating is believing that you can have (and deserve) it. Over the years, I have learned that our minds are the most powerful tools we have. Like I say all the time, if all you tell yourself is that you can’t make peace with food then how could you possibly do it? If you want a different ending, you have to tell a different story.
Q: Why do you think diets don’t work?
A: I think the reason diets don’t work is simple. Because they only address what I call the “outside” work – the food itself. Our relationship with food is an outer manifestation of our internal world.
As Geneen Roth says, the way we do food is the way we do everything. Dieting doesn’t help you to see the patterns of why you eat the way you do, or what I call the “inside” work. And doing the “inside” work is the only way to ever truly heal.
More About Christie:
Christie Inge, HHC, is the author of The Peaceful Eating Kit – The Tools You Need to End the War with Food and is the creator of The Body Love Alchemy Private Community.
After years on the diet and binge roller coaster, she realized that the answers she was looking for had nothing to do with the size of her blue jeans or the food on her plate. She set out onto a quest to make peace with food, her body and her weight once and for all. She began sharing her experiences on her popular, heartfelt blog. Overtime, she found that her greatest gift was helping women, just like her, overcome their struggles, too.
She has taken what she learned in the school of hard knocks and coupled that with what she has learned in her professional trainings to create a system that has helped thousands of women to make peace with food and to stop hating their bodies. No get thin quick schemes. No magic wands. Just real results.
Tartakovsky, M. (2012). Building A Peaceful Relationship With Food: Q&A With Christie Inge. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 26, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2012/10/building-a-peaceful-relationship-with-food-qa-with-christie-inge/