The Power Of Ignoring Your Inner Critic
Today I wanted to do something a little different and share a poem I originally wrote for my personal blog. Even though I’ve largely gotten over my weight worries and body image issues, it’s interesting to see the traces of insecurities that still remain.
I’ve talked before about how my past appearance-based self-doubts morphed into other insecurities.
But I’ve only briefly mentioned my iffiness about my looks in general and my not-so-thick hair in particular. That’s the topic I tackle below.
I used to think
that I couldn’t have long hair.
It’s not thick enough.
the strands spaghetti-thin.
Maybe it’s too boring
my natural color
perhaps too dull
It’d probably look better
with more layers
so it doesn’t scream thin
like it’s proud of it
I look to some invisible
I’ll never meet
to tell me how
my hair should look
as if there’s some unspoken
rule about long locks.
I even apologize
for my hair.
I know it’s really thin
but I just love long hair.
But I’m trying to stop
Because I’m happy
I’m happy that I’ve decided
to be a
who ignores this all-mighty stranger
and lets her hair fall to her elbows
satisfaction sinking in.
Today, I encourage you to consider what other appearance-based insecurities you have and how they might affect your life. Then consider what it would be like to let go or simply ignore your negative thoughts and ruminations. To let them pass without giving them fuel or encouragement, without seeing those thoughts and worries as hard-as-nails facts.
I think it’s incredibly empowering to realize that regardless of the harsh words our inner critic doles out, we can ignore her. We don’t have to listen. Our behaviors don’t have to reflect those mean thoughts.
What would you do if you ignored her negative words?
How would you feel? Would you have long hair? Check out a new place to eat? Dance? Buy a different piece of clothing? Laugh more? Walk with more confidence? Try a new hobby? Have more fun?
P.S., Eating disorder expert Susan Schulherr (who I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing before for Weightless) is giving an hour-long webinar for clinicians this Friday (5/18). It’s called “Trauma and Eating Disorders: Essentials for a Clinician to Know (and Do!).” You can register here.
Also, check out my guest post about creativity on Ashley’s blog, Nourishing the Soul. I’m honored to be there. Ashley is an incredible blogger (person and professional), and I absolutely love her work!
Tartakovsky, M. (2014). The Power Of Ignoring Your Inner Critic. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 1, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2012/05/the-power-of-ignoring-your-inner-critic/