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When I was deep in the body image black hole, I could barely see past my stuffed stomach, hefty hips and thunder thighs.

I could barely see past calories counts, low-fat, no-fat, weigh-ins, women’s magazines, guilt and shame.

It’s not surprising. When our minds are focused on our physicality, when we develop this tunnel vision for thinness, we have difficulty focusing on anything else.

When I was in the midst of thinking thinness was my answer, I genuinely forgot, regularly, that there’s more to life! I was so fixated on my “flaws,” that I forgot about having fun.

I forgot about cultivating my other qualities, about growing as a person and thriving.

That’s why today I want to talk about passion.

What are you passionate about? What do you love to do? What puts a smile on your face?

Is it reading, biking, baking, blogging, scrapbooking, cooking, dancing, decorating, traveling, learning new languages, painting, pottery-making, picture-taking,¬†doing art projects daily, writing poetry, playing tennis, gardening, golfing, journaling, volunteering, hiking, sewing…?(OK, I’ll stop now.)

For me, it’s practicing Pilates. And, of course, it’s writing and reading. The best thing is reading a stunning sentence that you highlight and underline-twice-and aspiring to do something that at least sorta, kinda, on a good day, compares (sorta).

Here’s a great description of reading from the memoir¬†Tolstoy and the Purple Chair: My Year of Magical Thinking by Nina Sankovitch:

The experience of just me and my book under the light of one lamp was like sitting before a spotlighted stage in a dark theater. The whole performance went on just for me. No intermission, no interruptions, and every word illuminated.

What makes you feel as though you’re the only one privileged enough to do it? The only one who’s in on the secret of how amazing this activity feels? You have a laser-like focus, and you’re the only one in the world.

If you don’t have something, no big deal. Experiment trying several activities that you think will be fun.

(By the way, here are some blogs to spark your creativity along with some on fashion, cooking and beauty.)

If it helps, make a list of your passions. And since the weekend is almost here, consider participating in one of these passionate activities either Saturday or Sunday!

So I’ll reiterate, and please share below…

What are you passionate about? What do you love to do? What puts a smile on your face?



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    Last reviewed: 28 Mar 2014

APA Reference
Tartakovsky, M. (2011). What Is Your Passion?. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 2, 2015, from




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