An Expert’s Struggle With Binge Eating & Her Successful Recovery
As I said yesterday, sadly, people with binge eating disorder (BED) can feel a lot of shame and embarrassment about having the disorder. They feel totally out of control and blame themselves for their wilting willpower. They beat themselves up because they think they should be able to stop bingeing on their own or that binge eating somehow makes them a bad person.
But please know a few things: that the above are myths, that you’re not alone in struggling with BED and that, with treatment, recovery is absolutely possible.
I’m grateful to Amy Pershing, who in part two of our interview, shares her own struggles with BED and how she recovered. She also offers several tips to help readers.
If you haven’t yet, be sure to check out yesterday’s first part.
Again, Amy is the executive director at PershingTurner Centers and clinical director for The Center for Eating Disorders in Ann Arbor, MI. Amy specializes in treating binge eating disorder (BED) and is an advocate of Health At Every Size and intuitive eating. (I’ve included her bio below.)
Q: You’ve also struggled with BED. Can you talk about your own struggles with the disorder?
A: I started bingeing when I was about 11 years old. I had dieted before that, as early as 9 or so. I came from a family of women who all were dieting, who all hated their bodies. I remember eating 800 calories a day, then bingeing on the weekends.
Overhunger was a contributor for sure, but it was about far more than that. My family didn’t talk about real feelings, so I couldn’t express all that was going on for me. Bingeing soothed all my fears and confusions. I was expected to be a “good girl” and follow the rules. Bingeing allowed me a private way to break all those rules. It helped me save my voice.
My recovery took place over some time, starting with therapy in college. It has been a rocky road, to be sure, but in the end, my eating disorder was a great gift. To recover, I had to find my voice, and learn to hang on to it. I had to accept all of me, including my depression, my history, and my body.
I also had to learn that recovery is not a destination, or some fixed point. It means being able to “course-correct,” as I call it, to deal with feelings, needs and boundaries as they come up. It is an ongoing learning. Finally, I am ok with that!
Q: How were you able to recover?
A: Treatment, treatment, treatment! I used to not say that so clearly because, as a therapist, it sounds self-serving! But the reality is eating disorders almost always require treatment.
These disorders develop in isolation; a good therapist helps us understand how and why we have the relationship with food that we do, why we might be afraid to change it, and how to overcome those fears.
Treatment too can help us deal with depression or other mood issues and the effects of trauma. It is completely unreasonable to expect ourselves to deal with all these issues alone. But most of us who have dealt with BED are not great at asking for help (myself included!). So take one small step at a time!
Q: What are the top recovery strategies that readers can try at home?
A: There are lots if things we can do at home to augment treatment. Top of the list is stop dieting and start listening. There are some great books out there about intuitive eating.
Also, build a support community, online or via a support group. Read about recovery and stories of the journeys of others (Aimee Liu’s books are great). Surround yourself with people and ideas that are supportive of recovery.
Think about triggers to binge as well, and try to avoid them as best you can. Once a behavior is ingrained, anything associated with it tends to trigger the urge to binge. If you have decided to binge, try and be as conscious as possible. A
sk yourself what food you really want, and have that food, not a lot of other things you don’t want. Try eating a portion or two, and ask yourself, honestly, if you need more, or if you are ready to stop. If you want more, have another portion, and ask again.
I have found this strategy extremely helpful once a binge is triggered. It allows people to have some impact on a binge, and feel less out of control.
And finally, once a binge is over, the worst thing you can do is shame yourself about it. If you feel shame, notice it, remind yourself that you were doing your best, and see if you can figure out how and why the binge occurred. The best way to guarantee another binge is shame; the best way to lessen the odds is to understand it, and meet those needs in another way.
Finally, remember you will not stop bingeing until there are other tools in the toolbox. You have to meet the needs bingeing has tried to meet. Without that work, recovery cannot happen. It will only be temporary behavior change.
Thank you, Amy, for your honesty and insight!
More about Amy:
Amy Pershing LMSW, ACSW is the Executive Director of PershingTurnerCenters, a full-spectrum outpatient center for the treatment of eating and related disorders in Annapolis, MD, and Clinical Director of the Center for Eating Disorders in Ann Arbor, MI. She is the founder of Bodywise, a comprehensive treatment program for binge eating and related disorders offered at both centers. She speaks nationally and writes extensively on binge eating treatment, weight stigma and the intuitive eating model. Amy maintains her clinical practice in Ann Arbor.
Please stay tuned for the last part tomorrow where Amy offers some wise words for boosting our body image!
Tartakovsky, M. (2011). An Expert’s Struggle With Binge Eating & Her Successful Recovery. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 30, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2011/06/an-experts-struggle-with-binge-eating-her-successful-recovery/