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Every Monday features a tip, exercise, inspiring quote or other tid-bit to help boost your body image. For many of us, Mondays are tough. We may feel anxious and stressed out, anticipating an arduous week, especially if we didn’t get much rest and relaxation during the weekend. These kinds of feelings don’t create the best environment for improving one’s body image. In fact, you might be harder on yourself and easily frustrated. You might even feel like you’re walking on egg shells – with yourself! With these posts, I hope you’ll have a healthier and happier body image day, that’ll last throughout the week.

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky@gmail.com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. It can be anything you do that’s healthy and helps boost your body image. I’d love to hear from you!

Do you love yourself? Do you love yourself unconditionally? Do you even like yourself? You may have never even considered it. Say “self-love” and many people think conceited, vain and narcissistic. Or hokey, in a kumbaya-sorta way. But after today’s post, I hope you see loving yourself a little differently. Not as selfish. Not as unnecessary. And definitely for you.

Thanks to Stephanie at the wonderful blog Radical Hateloss, who sent me the info, I discovered a movement called “Madly In Love With Me.” According to the founder, Christine Arylo:

“Madly in Love with METM is a self-love movement. It was created to raise the awareness of self-love among women and girls around the world…and to provide a pathway that gives those women and girls the guidance, support, wisdom and inspiration they need to freely and fully live and love the women they are, free of self-criticism, self-hatred, and self-abuse.”

She also writes:

Do you dare to fall madly in love with yourself, and…

  • Take care of yourself, not just everyone else
  • Design a life that supports you, not depletes you
  • Create relationships full of unconditional love
  • Celebrate who you are today, not who you may be later
  • Focus on what you’ve done, instead of what you haven’t
  • Express–instead of repress–your body, mind, spirit

Self-love can become the antidote to a poor self-image and the path to honoring, listening and taking care of your body. One of the ways we can start cultivating our self-love is by creating a “Madly In Love With Me Manifesta.” Here, Christine encourages every woman to spell out what self-love means to her. For instance, this is the official Madly In Love With Me Manifesta. Julie of one of my favorite body image blogs, Beautiful You, also recently shared her manifesta, which I absolutely love. You can read hers here.

Here’s what self-love means to me:

Realizing and acknowledging my qualities and accepting that I’m not perfect and that’s OK

Forgiving myself for bad choices

Not comparing myself to others

Not berating myself

Remembering that I am unique and don’t need to be or look like anyone else

Being kind to myself, especially if I don’t think that I look my best (i.e., am having a “fat” day) or I’ve made a mistake

Knowing that I deserve to take good care of myself

Focusing on being healthy

Listening to my body, heart and soul

Striving to be authentic and making my own decisions

Loving myself for who I am right now, regardless of my size, shape, appearance or mood.

So, this week, consider writing up your own self-love manifesto. Take a few minutes to think about what self-love means to you and how you promise to treat yourself. What does your self-love look and feel like? What vows will you make to yourself? This is also a fantastic activity to do with kids to teach them early on to respect, honor and love themselves.

I also have a fun giveaway that Christine has provided me with (hint: see above :) ). If you’d like the chance to win the the ME heart token necklace, download the free Me-Love kit, and tell us below the vow or dare you’d like to take and why (details in the kit). The last day to comment is on February 26th. You can find out about other contests here.

More Self-Love This Week

Tomorrow and Wednesday, I’m thrilled to publish a Q&A with writer and certified health coach, Eleanor Kohlsaat of Make Friends with Food, “In pursuit of healthy eating… without getting too crazy about it.” She shares her struggles with and recovery from binge eating. Her responses really resonated with me, and she gives some wonderful words of wisdom and inspiration, which actually tie in perfectly with the self-love movement of honoring ourselves and our bodies.

Plus, later this week, I have the pleasure of sharing with you a Q&A with Christine Arylo about self-love and being authentic.

A Beautiful Event in Austin, TX

I also wanted to highlight a fantastic event in Austin. This weekend, I received an email from the VP of the Austin Foundation for Eating Disorders (AFED). They’re hosting a free event on Saturday, February 20th to honor the life of Kelsey Veldman, who passed away at 23 after a nine-year battle with bulimia and anorexia. Kelsey was an artist, and her work will be auctioned off that Saturday.

Whether you’re interested in the art, want to volunteer (at the auction or in general for AFED) or spread the word, please join them and let others know about this auction and the organization.

Here are the details on the “You’re Beautiful” Silent Auction:

Saturday, February 20th, 7-9 p.m.

Space 12, 3121 E 12th Ave, Austin, TX

For more information on Kelsey, see here and here. And here are the Facebook pages for the auction and the organization.

 


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Tartakovsky, M. (2010). Boosting Your Body Image by Becoming "Madly In Love with Me". Psych Central. Retrieved on April 17, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2010/02/boosting-your-body-image-by-becoming-madly-in-love-with-me/

 

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