Comments on: This Thanksgiving, Banish the Body Bashing

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A Body Image Confession | Weightless — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 12:26:45 +0000

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An Effective Way to Help You End Emotional Eating | Weightless — Tue, 11 May 2010 23:14:49 +0000

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Fri, 04 Dec 2009 02:05:02 +0000

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By: Jayne Coleman

Jayne Coleman — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:05:02 +0000

Burgundy I find that so sad. You must be a very strong person, even if you don’t think so, to have overcome/recovered from anorexia and the constant criticism that probably fuelled it. This December do whatever you need to do to protect yourself from the negative messages. One of the things I learned from a book by Doreen Virtue is to imagine myself surrounded by white light that protects me from any negative vibes/thoughts/actions.

On a more practical note, maybe you and your sisters need to talk to him about the impact his attitude has had on your lives? Your dad is missing out on so much by focusing on what you weigh, rather than on who you really are.

Blessed be this festive season.

By: Burgundy

Burgundy — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 09:25:18 +0000

my father will be coming from abroad to stay with me one week this December. I have the complete reversal of this. I have an ambivalent relationship with my body and have had severe body image issues that I am currently working on. I am not overweight and none of my sisters are, either. This does not stop my father always making a remark about our body weight and he makes no secret of the fact that he thinks women should be thin. (My younger sister is a UK size 6 and he told her she was gaining weight). He said the same to me and my sister broke in “do you think she looked better back in 2003?” (When I was a recovering anorexic and clinically underweight) and he shrugged “well….that wasn’t so bad”.
That moment was a wake-up call that he’s no authority on what I should be looking like, but even so, whenever I spend time with him (not often, once a year) he never fails to make me even more conscious of how I fall short of his expectations, being a UK size 14.

By: Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Margarita Tartakovsky, MS — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 01:28:50 +0000

@Lyn and JJ, You’re so welcome!! It means a lot that it resonated with you both. JJ, I’m so sorry about your dad. He was so young. All the best to you guys, and I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!

By: JJ

JJ — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 01:03:35 +0000

Thanks for sharing such a sweet post. I lost my dad in August six years ago, when he was 53 and I was 23. Death is such a reminder of the preciousness of life. Best to your family.

By: Lyn C

Lyn C — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:28:40 +0000

Margarita, I am so sorry for your loss. Thanks for your advice about staying present with the loved ones we have (including ourselves).

By: Dr. Kathleen Young

Dr. Kathleen Young — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 19:27:12 +0000

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