Comments on: 7 Signs Your Body Image Is Bruised (and 5 Solutions)

By: will0wisp

will0wisp — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 17:02:58 +0000

“She behaves as if she was beautiful. Most American women do. It is the secret of their charm.” — Oscar Wilde

I made a commitment for the new year to be more positive about myself and my body. Some days are better than others. Sometimes I can manage to muster up the courage to put on a tight pair of jeans and a little makeup. Other times, it’s the baggy pants and the hoodie. The above quote from Oscar Wilde is meant to be my new motto… the old one was a subconscious motto that went like this: “If you don’t look like you’re trying, people won’t be able to say you’re failing.”

By: A Battered Body Image, Part II: Ideas for Not Missing Out | Weightless

A Battered Body Image, Part II: Ideas for Not Missing Out | Weightless — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 16:24:15 +0000

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By: Linda Bacon

Linda Bacon — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 15:55:38 +0000

Great to see this article! Too many people are in pain around their bodies. You may want to learn more about the Health at Every Size community, which supports people in implementing the suggestions listed here. To learn more and show your support, check out the (free) Health at Every Size Community Resources (www.HAESCommunity.Org). An internet search will also lead you to plenty more information.

By: Hanging On…

Hanging On… — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 19:39:13 +0000

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By: Ling

Ling — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:56:24 +0000

I’d suffered most of my life, because my Aunts and cousins made me felt ugly, every time I’m around them they always said “Oh My Gosh” you look fat. You don’t have no shape and no butt. But the truth is that I’m 31 years old, I Model and Do some Acting in my previous years. It took me more than 25 years of my life to actually love myself. I am married and have 2 kids, my husband always said to me I married the most beautiful girl on the world and my Kids always want me to go to their school so everyone see me and usually they comment oh my gosh it thats your mom and they said yes, and everyone said your a liar she look like your sister wow she look so young i can’t believe it, even my kids teachers always asked me for an id. So the truth is that no matter if we chubby or skinny its about your self-esteem if you around negative people like some of my family that always have something to say its because they hated their-self and want you to feel the same way they feel. You call that jealousy, let me put it this way i have 2 kids right and I’m 5′6 height and 120 pounds. Now i know I’m not big but people around me said the wrongs things because they looked like me before they had kids. I really don’t care if i get big because for the first time I love myself and it took me long to feel the way I feel…

My mom, dad, and my 2 brothers always made me feel good. But i didn’t listened because I have 8 Aunts and 12 Cousins who constantly came to my house just to criticism and look at me up and down and said oh girl you need help, did you ever see yourself in the mirror you know horror stuff like that so since I was on Elementary school I heard you ugly, Growing up into 31 years that I am now I still heard those comments.. But since I go to church and read the bible thats when my life totally change. I know God loves me the way I am and he will not change me because for him I’m special and unique in certain way. I thank God for my My mom, dad, 2 brothers, 2 kids and Husband because they never gave up on me at all…. They always being there… So please if you reading this do not let anyone to hurt you remember that God created you because your special and unique and you need to be around people who is positive those people that make you feel bad its because they’re unhappy and want you to feel the same way they feel… Now I think about those stuff I laugh because most of my Aunt and Cousins are 3 or 4 times my size they was just jealous. If you have Cruel Aunt, cousin or a friend that make you feel bad, Don’t pick up the phone or invite them inside your house you don’t want the same experience to repeat with your kids. JUST MOVE ON…..

God created different races, body shapes, etc. Don’t try to be like a super model or hollywood actresses because in fact no one its perfect. I really don’t understand why we always care about others… Live your life and forget who said and who don’t. I don’t want to spend another year thinking if I’m ugly or not. Like I said everyone is beautiful, Thats why God let you born isn’t…. We are not the only one facing negativity even celebrities doing they-self surgery to look better,,,, because in some time on their life they let someone tell them negative comments… Who ever said any negative comment about you its because they hated their-self and want you to join the same club…. So please its time for you to have a good life walk away from it and don’t look back just breath and go on in your life, don’t feel guilty just be happy of yourself either your skinny, chubby or big it no matter JUST LOVE YOURSELF, eat right and exercise sometimes so you don’t ending up with bad joints, etc. Stop complaining about if you ugly or fat or whatever its time to move on 2010 a new year coming up start having a positive mind and start to appreciate yourself, treat yourself now and then and please don’t let anyone to destroy the real beauty you have, I did waste half of my life hated myself Don’t do the same…. God bless you and if anyone need a friend or someone to talk to I’m not a doctor I’m just a regular person. But if you feel you need someone positive to walk you to the right direction I’ll be there if you need me… You can contact me at lings75@hotmail.com God bless you and don’t let anyone ruin one more year of your life.

By: A Battered Body Image: Missing Out | Weightless

A Battered Body Image: Missing Out | Weightless — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:57:30 +0000

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By: Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Margarita Tartakovsky, MS — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 23:43:16 +0000

Thank you everyone so much for your comments! I wanted to share a quote with you I found on the fantastic blog “Healthy Girl” by Maya Angelou (check out the whole post here, http://healthygirl.org/2009/11/11/the-best-body-image-line-ive-ever-heard/):

“I want to be as beautiful as I can be—to MYSELF first. THEN to whomever has the SENSE to see me.”

Sunny, of Healthy Girl, also links to Dr. Angelou’s poem, “Phenomenal Woman”: http://www.poetryfoundation.org/archive/poem.html?id=178942

By: xin

xin — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 11:36:57 +0000

its easy to come up with 5 or 7 or 10 tips to overcome it. but acting on them is so much harder. for every hour i spend feeling sorry for myself i sometimes may have 1 minute thinking i like my eyes, then a friend comes along and say, “oh my look at those bags under your eyes.”

self esteem is hard to build up when people around you don’t realize how sensitive certain issues are.

By: Betty Hall

Betty Hall — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:09:47 +0000

I know it is out of hand that everyone has to be size 2 -4-6-8- or they are fat. Learn to love you body , warts and all. We are who we are and it is out mind and heart that makes us worthwhile, not how thin we are

By: Scott Volltrauer

Scott Volltrauer — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:08:26 +0000

I turned 47 yesterday.

Regarding solutions, is denial a permissible albeit unfortunately effective solution?