Body Image

What We Want to Remember

I recently discovered a new-to-me blog by Karina Bania. This post in particular struck me. In it Bania wonders what she'll remember about today:

"Will it be the eight am beach-combing and ocean swim? The almost running out of gas on the deserted road, or the ten am piña colada that accompanied the epic wave watching laziness. Will it be the five year-old attitude and the endless sibling fighting that defined the afternoon?

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Or maybe the only memory will be this sunset swim. The one where summer and fall and my girls growing selves meet. Where seasons change subtly, days blur into one another, and so many beautiful moments in life are blown into the wind."
This made me think of a journal prompt we can explore every day, something simple, in the evening:

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Self-Care Sunday: Weekly Check-in

When we're busy, we tend to go on autopilot (or in survival mode) and barrel through our days. We don't really pay much attention to how we're doing. Instead, we hyperfocus on tasks and chores. We may forget to tune into our thoughts and feelings, to check in with the happenings of our hearts.

That's why it's important to schedule a special time in the week that's dedicated to checking in with yourself. Just you, and your journal. Pick any day you like as your check-in, such as Sunday. Block it out in your planner. Carve out 5 or 10 minutes (more if you have it) to sit and reflect on how you're doing.

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Writing Lists for a Better Body Image, Self-Care and Well-Being

In the book Listful Thinking: Using Lists to be More Productive, Highly Successful, and Less Stressed, author Paula Rizzo talks about the many helpful lists we can make.* For Rizzo lists have been a life-saver, helping her do everything from finding an apartment in Manhattan to navigating her busy days as a TV producer.

I make a lot of lists, too, because they help me organize the random racing thoughts preoccupying my mind. They help me break down messy, complicated things into feasible smaller steps. They help me feel less overwhelmed. They help me create a plan of action. They give my life structure. And lists even give me insights into who I am.

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Body Image

Why We Should Listen to Our Inner Critics

Have you found yourself in this situation: You're working on treating yourself with more compassion. But then your inner critic starts: You're enormous. Ugly. Stupid. Undeserving. Lazy. Are you sure you should be relaxing? Are you sure you want to do that presentation or ask for a promotion? Are you sure you're good enough? You're not.


And as these thoughts spill out, you feel disappointed, maybe even angry: Really? Why am I still so hard on myself? What the hell is wrong with me?

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Body Image Booster: Penning a Permission Slip


On some Mondays I share a tip, activity, inspiring quote or other tidbits that help boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. I’d love to hear from you!
One of the biggest reasons I didn't like my body and take good care of it was because I believed I wasn't allowed to. I believed I didn't have the permission until I changed my appearance, until I lost weight, which meant I finally deserved to.

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You Are Not a Number

In an earlier post I talked about the different small ways we can embrace ourselves. In one tip I suggested tossing out the scale. Because you're not a number.

But sometimes, it feels like we are. Doesn't it?

Sometimes, we become convinced that the number on the scale means everything, dictates everything -- from our happiness to our relationship status to our worth as a human being.

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Self-Care Sunday: Focusing on Your Relationships

One of the most important parts of self-care is cultivating connection. This includes cultivating a connection with ourselves and with others. When it comes to others, it's important to surround ourselves with people who genuinely care about us, and to focus on building healthy relationships with those individuals.

Think of the people in your life who've been tremendously supportive. The people who've had some sort of positive influence on you. The person you can call to spill a secret to. The person you can call with good or bad news. The person who's taught you an important lesson. Who's held your hand during a rough time. Who always makes you laugh. Who truly listens. Who helped you in some sweet or compassionate way. Who accepts you for you.

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Reframing Negative Thoughts Into Helpful Questions

Yesterday, I wrote about cultivating curiosity (instead of berating or criticizing ourselves). Today, I'm exploring curiosity, again, because it's such a powerful tool in building a more positive body image and taking compassionate care of ourselves.

All of us experience negative thoughts, particularly about ourselves. And some of us experience them on repeat. While we might not be able to stop our brains from spitting out negative thoughts, we can reframe them -- instead of interpreting these thoughts as truths.

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Instead of Criticizing Yourself Cultivate Curiosity

Instead of getting frustrated with our bodies, our reactions or our feelings, we can get curious. Instead of berating ourselves, we can dig deeper. We can explore why we're having certain emotions and reactions. We can scour our mistakes for lessons. We can examine what triggers our emotional overeating and what we really need instead.

I love the concept of curiosity because it's a powerful way to engage with ourselves and our environment. When we're curious, we're more present. We're more open to learning. We get to know our needs. We get to know ourselves. We can use the information we learn to truly nourish ourselves.

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