Self-Care Sunday: Easeful Evenings

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

candle in the office, instagram

Last Sunday we talked about creating meaningful mornings. Today, let’s talk about evenings.

How do you normally spend your evenings? Do you plop on the couch and watch TV? Do you continue responding to email? Do you wash the dishes and clean up most of the night? Do you read or write?

Think about how your evenings look. Write down what you normally do. Then consider how you’d like your evenings to look.

How Can You Seek Stillness?

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

blue springs, feb, 2015, taken by mama

The beautiful and intimidating thing about yoga is that it’s a time to stop and be still. It’s a time to be quiet with ourselves. Which many of us don’t do very often.

The other types of exercises I do are mostly high intensity (which I also love). Go. Go. Go. We sprint from one exercise to another, from running the stairs to doing push-ups to doing burpees.

And even though I work from home, my thoughts are usually focused on articles and ideas and errands and to-dos.

Even when I’m relaxing, it’s not the same as whatever happens when I’m practicing yoga.

Navigating Daily Disappointments

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 2 min read

blue springs, feb, 2015

Many days I feel disappointed in myself. I’m disappointed I didn’t wake up early. I’m disappointed I missed the morning yoga class. I’m disappointed I didn’t work hard enough. I’m disappointed I’m easily distracted. I’m disappointed I didn’t do the laundry or make the bed or organize that thing I was going to organize but haven’t. In months. I’m disappointed I wasn’t brave.

I feel this disappointment in the pit of my stomach. Churning. It’s a guilt that turns into regret that stays there all day. Almost like a mass. Eventually, it shrinks.

Self-Care Sunday: Meaningful Mornings

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 2 min read

flagler beach, sun setting, feb 2015

Mornings can be tough. Maybe you like to sleep in as long as you can, and end up getting ready for the day by running around your house like a crazed animal.

Maybe you have a basic routine you’ve been cycling through for years. Maybe you work from home and get to work right after splashing water on your face and brushing your teeth.

According to psychologist and Psych Central blogger Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D, in his newest book Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion,  our mornings set the stage for the rest of our days. So when the day is filled with bumps, a good morning can help us navigate those challenges.

A Self-Care Project: Capturing Ourselves Every Day

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 2 min read

self-portrait 2 for daily project, feb, 2015

I’ve noticed that lately, my picture-taking has been sparse, even though there’s a camera (a great camera) in my smartphone, even though images make me happy.

Part of the problem is that I feel like I can’t live up to the stream of pretty, put-together pictures on sites like Instagram. (Why does it even matter? I’m not sure.)

But I’m going to change that.

Practicing Self-Compassion When You Can’t

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 2 min read

branch, creative joy

I recently wrote this article on how to practice self-compassion when it’s the last thing you want to do. Because when we’re upset, so many of us revert back to what we know: berating ourselves.

We might do this in the moment. For days. Maybe even weeks.

We might do this after bathing suit shopping. After not running as fast or walking as long as someone else, or ourselves the time before. After an awkward interaction with our boss. After making a mistake. After doing, saying or experiencing anything we deem inadequate.

When You Feel Frustrated with Your Body

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

NYC in Oct 2012

I appreciate my body.

I respect it.

I try to protect it.

And yet there are days when frustration fills

my bones at the same rate my breath does.


Days I wish I had more energy

Days I don’t understand why I’m slower

than everyone else in a workout class

Days I’m doubled over with disappointment that I’m not stronger

Days I resent my sensitivity to so many things

Days I wish I didn’t require as much sleep or caring.

A Valentine’s Day Gift for Your Body

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

shadows, instagram

So often, as we sprint through the day, the last thing we think about is our body.

The last thing we think about is the inner machinery that’s involved in the seemingly simplest of movements: opening our eyes in the morning; glancing about the room, hitting the snooze button (a few times); shifting our feet from the bed to the floor; walking (or running) into the bathroom; splashing water onto our faces; picking up a toothbrush; turning on the faucet for a hot shower.

In those few minutes, our bodies perform great feats.

Reconciling the Seemingly Disparate Parts of Self-Care

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 2 min read

flagler beach, february 8, 2015

Recently, I read two pieces about respecting our natural tendencies and needs.

In one Therese talks about being a highly sensitive person (which I totally am) and avoiding the things that only heighten this sensitivity (like the mall!).

In another Jen talks about honoring her current desire to slow down.

These articles are reminding me about the pivotal parts of self-care: listening to ourselves, acknowledging what we’re going through, understanding our needs and responding to them.

Self-Care Sunday: Hard Questions

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

wizard of oz quote

In Thursday’s post I mentioned that sometimes self-care involves asking hard questions. I shared these examples:

“What am I afraid of? What is important to me? What am I doing that I really don’t want to be doing? What do I really need? What do I need to let go of? Who doesn’t actually support me? How can I stop spending time with them?”

Here are additional tough questions, which you might reflect on in your journal:


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