On Courage And Not Loving Our Bodies

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

brave, creative joy retreat

I just read this great post from Dani Shapiro on Marianne’s blog. In it she explains that we don’t need confidence to write something great. In fact, confidence gets in the way. She writes:

Show me a confident writer, and in all likelihood you will also be showing me work that falls short of originality or greatness — because originality and greatness come from the willingness to take risks.  To leap into the void.  To do what scares you.  And while it may seem that this leap would take confidence, what it really takes to leap is courage.  Which is a whole other kettle of fish.

Courage isn’t the same as being fearless. It’s doing that thing, anyway, despite the fear, despite the panic.



Your Body Is Not The Enemy

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

creative joy, notice, love and hearts, 2012

In our culture there is a prevailing belief that if we can’t get our bodies to look a certain way, to lose weight, to fit into an old pair of jeans, then they’re the enemy.

They’re an enemy we have to subdue, manipulate and pound into submission. An enemy we need to insult, yell at and despise.

Today, I wanted to share a reminder that, in fact, our bodies are not the enemy — despite what you see in ads or read in “health” publications. They never were.



25 More Statements for Speaking Kindly to Ourselves

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

glitter and kind statements

On Tuesday I shared 25 compassionate statements we can say to ourselves, inspired by Joyce’s beautiful post. Today, I’m sharing 25 more statements.

As I wrote in my other post, when speaking these statements to yourself, try to use a gentle, soft, caring voice, as though you are speaking to a child or the person you love most in this world.

This might feel strange or uncomfortable at first. But give it a try. Pick statements that resonate with you — statements that feel true and real.



25 Statements for Speaking Kindly to Ourselves

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

creative joy retreat, 2012, hearts

I love this powerful post from Joyce on 50 loving sentiments to say to our partners, family members and friends. It inspired me to think of the statements we can say to ourselves. Because so many of us get stuck in a self-critical dialogue. So many of us get stuck ruminating over the same harsh thoughts.

I’m too big to wear that. I’m not pretty or smart enough. I can’t tell them no. They’ll hate me! I’m such a failure. No one makes such stupid mistakes. My body is disgusting. Wow, am I an idiot.

The good news is we can change our inner dialogue. We can learn to be kinder to ourselves. With practice.



Body Image Boosters From the Blogosphere 7.13.14

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

dreamy nyc, july, 2014

A positive body image goes beyond liking your looks. It encompasses taking good care of yourself and leading a fulfilling life. In this weekly series, I share some of my favorite posts from some of my favorite bloggers on this topic. Sometimes I also share relevant pieces that I’ve written elsewhere. Hope you find these links inspiring!

You are insatiable.

“There is no human experience that we have alone. It’s up to each of us to tear town the chambers of isolation that comparison and fear build.”



10 Reasons to Love Your Body

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

creative joy, single heart, 2012

In our culture there are conditions. There are conditions that dictate when we can — and can’t — love our bodies.

For instance, we can love our bodies when we’re thin. We can love our bodies when we’ve lost weight. We can love them when our waists and thighs are small, when our bodies adhere to certain random standards.



Exploring Our Beauty And Body Beliefs

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Buddha quote

{quote from Daily Joy}

Last week I shared 20 questions for connecting to ourselves and our needs.

It’s also helpful to explore questions around beauty, worthiness and enoughness. Because it’s our beliefs about what is beautiful and what is enough that influence — negatively or positively — how we think about ourselves, how we take care of ourselves and how we navigate our lives.

Often these beliefs are so ingrained that we just assume they’re the truth or how things should be.

Exploring these beliefs helps us better understand why we think the way we do, and why we do what we do. It opens the door to thinking and living in ways that serve us.

Here are 20 questions to help you examine these beliefs.



20 Questions for Connecting to Yourself & Your Needs

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Viktor Frankl quote

“The only journey is the one within.”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

The foundation for self-care is knowing who you are — knowing your needs, wants, wishes. Because in order to respond to our needs and innermost desires, it’s important to know what they are in the first place.

As such, here are 20 questions to help you delve deeper into the glorious abyss that is you.



Declaring Our Independence From What Doesn’t Serve Us

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

grand central, nyc

Every year, around July 4th, I republish and update a piece on declaring our independence from what doesn’t serve us — everything from dieting to damaging beliefs. Hope you find it helpful!

Tomorrow, we’re celebrating our independence here in America. But wherever you live, it also might be the day you celebrate your independence, too.

It might be the day you liberate yourself from certain behaviors, beliefs, objects or people that sink your body image, your self-care, your mood and your life.



Body Image Booster: What Feeds You?

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

colored pencils

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it.

Rosie recently penned a beautiful post on exploring what feeds us. She writes: “What feeds your soul?  Takes you to a place of satisfaction and the feeling of being well cared for… by you.”



 
 

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