Wow, that would certainly be hard. Whatever you do, please do not go back to hurting yourself. Get extra session with your therapist or go for a walk or do whatever you need to do to distract yourself. But if you have been able to stop the self harm, do not go back. I have spent too many years doing that to myself, unable to quit and wishing I could. I wish you the best of luck in this situation and hope you can stay safe.

Sonia, that ‘is’ a story, and I am so glad you told us here. Lets make this an ongoing thread so you can tell us every day or several times a day how it’s going. You can also e-mail me privately at kreichh@comcast.net if you wish, OK?

I think it’s a good thing you won’t be alone with her. This way you have witnesses.

Also, it is possible that this woman did this to you when her brain cancer was growing, right, and she would be dead without treatment. So, it would make sense to assume that she had something like ‘gamma knife’ surgery. (radiation) With this, the brain cancer is totally and completely wiped out in the brain. (The brain is totally unique in that regard) She would now be brain sterile.

I also do believe that the reason these people working with her have empathy is a sign that this woman has not messed up and since treatment, and that you really got hit hard. I sort of trust that there is a reason they have empathy and which has nothing to do with your not having it but because she no longer acts and thinks like she did with you.

She must be under intense supervision with her history. I, for once, would believe you, and do believe you, totally, and I want you to assume that nobody will be or act against you, no matter what, and not even the crazy woman.

otherwise, I have total empathy with you, but I think you will be OK, and it will go better than you think.

Please, keep us updated.

You are in my thoughts,

KATRIN

Oh, and Sonia, I have really serious bc myself, and I’m not a bitch. Just suffering a lot from short term memory loss. The reason I am telling you is, because when you don’t have cancer, having cancer is like such a huge big deal, and you hardly know how to compare yourself with such a ‘suffering soul’ ?

Well, once you get it it doesn’t feel the least bit like what you expected it to be like. it’s not such a big deal since there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, so you just deal with it.

So, don’t put her on this high horse just because she has metastatic cancer. It’s no excuse to be like her, unless it really was her tumor. on the other hand, I don’t think I would become mean with a tumor, either. like, I don’t get mean when I’m drunk. It can only bring out what’s already in you? (Now, i don’t know that for sure)

Oh, yes, and I just remembered this. I broke up with one of my best friends about six months ago, indefinitely. (Something I never, ever thought i would do, because she had sort of become family, like the really annoying great aunt, or something?)

What happened is that she had really bad pain and I really helped her out as I am in my than one was a nurse, and I do that well.

She became so psychotic from the oxicodone her doctor prescribed, and not just psychotic, but really abusive and in the same way you describe..mean, lying, that I robbed her house, and worse.

I am still trying to figure out if the abusiveness could be from her psychosis, or not, because if it’s not, than I would find it even more difficult to forgive her. What’s happening with me now is not so much that I cannot forgive her, but that I have no feelings at all for her, none, and the thought of being her friend disgusts me. (not edited)

My sister did this to me about 1 year ago-she called the police and said that I had jumped on her, kicked, punched, screamed and God knows what else. All I did was slap her because she was being verbally abusive with me, and always has been. And I was finally putting an end to it.

I had taken care of my sick father, all alone, with no help from ANY family member and I was ill with adrenal fatigue and severe depression, and having bad side effects from SSRIs and this is how I was paid. By having her lie about me.
Now I have to explain everytime someone wants a police check. It is your worst, most disabling nightmare to be so viciously lied about.

She never apologized and never corrected the lie.
I suffer from PTSD still, although it gets better with time and many times I just want to die because the pain is so great.

Having a brain tumour will cause disturbances in the brain, aggression, meanness and lying, Manipulating may also be part of this scenario. Her employers should know that it is part of her medical condition and you should go and find another job, or this situation will eat you up.

She could also be a narcissist or a bipolar, or both and manipulating and lying are also ways to get what they want.

Distance is the best. They will never accept that they are wrong, only in old age.