Life is all about perspective. It’s not what happens to you or what you do but how you react to it and deal with it. That is what is important.
Nineteen years ago I had a row with my in-laws just before we went down South for four days before Christmas. It ruined my holiday. I could not concentrate, focus nor appreciate the beauty of the scenery, enjoy my husband and our (then) thirteen month old daughter. All I could think about was exacting revenge. I could not move on, put it behind me, have a fabulous time and resolve it when I got home. It was beyond my capabilities.
Since then I have learned that life is not fair, people are not logical and living peacefully with this dilemma is called life. Some people and family will love you, some will hate you and the rest will be totally indifferent.