You don’t even know the half of it…I can never send her a letter. My former therapist got freaked out when I asked for my file and she went to the police to misreport my calls to her as “harassment” instead of requesting the need for help to transition. She was afraid of her mistakes and incredibly confusing boundaries…that were not professional. She was the only person I would share everything with….and her behavior has me numb.
I found a new therapist what is obvious is that ..I wasn’t in therapy really…so what I am mourning a very personal relationship. Since my mom died when i was 5 ….i longed to be seen..and I gobbled it up not knowing it was going to cause more harm than good.
It hurts to see how see doesn’t really care……it was all an illusion.

Thanks again.

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Abrupt termination makes me very cross indeed. There is no need for it, especially if she knew your history. There is no excuse for that.

There are some therapists who truly do not understand the transference process properly. Good therapists are also therapees and have been through the transference process themselves and felt it.

Can you write her a letter explaining how you feel? You don’t necessarily have to send it but at least you can get your feelings out in the open and on paper. You need closure on that sense of betrayal.

Perhaps if you sought out another therapist, explained the situation and had their back-up for if or when you decided to send the letter, that way you would be more supported than if you did it on your own. A good therapist will help you through this traumatic time.

Regards Sonia

I felt what you described with my therapist but it ended horribly by her terminating abruptly. I lost my mom as a little girl and with her it was the only time I felt heard and seen…and I miss her terribly and yet i feel so betrayed. this has been the most devastating experience of my adult life.

any advice anyone?