High School Reunions – High Anxiety or Settling Old Ghosts to Rest?
Most people at one time or another have to face school reunions. Some with the knowledge of being in the cool group, some with the pride of being in the brainy group and some who weren’t either cool or brainy but who turn up anyway because life has turned out ok.
I’ve got my 30th school reunion coming up but I have this dilemma. In 4th and 5th year high school this girl, Jackie, stopped talking to me because I teased her about a boy she met at a party. I probably overteased her. At least I think that is the reason. She didn’t talk to me for half of 4th year and all of 5th year and it really upset me. I tried to talk to her and asked her friends and they wouldn’t tell me why. I left school and it took me a long time to get over it.
I felt the punishment far exceeded the crime. Hello therapy.
She may or may not be at the St Brigids 30th reunion. She wasn’t at the 10th and wasn’t at the 20th. However facebook has dragged in many people whose whereabouts otherwise would remain a complete mystery. If she is at the 30th what do you think I should do? Should I say hello and be civil or should I just ignore her completely. I was over this but of course school reunions bring up all sorts of unresolved suppressed issues.
The reunion is on the 19th June. I would really appreciate any advice, anecdotes or feelings anyone has over this.
Neale, S. (2009). High School Reunions – High Anxiety or Settling Old Ghosts to Rest?. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 28, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/unplugged/2009/06/high-school-reunions-high-anxiety-or-settling-old-ghosts-to-rest/