The Road to Growth: 6 Mistakes to Avoid

By Jessica Beltran, MS

road-to-mountain2This past month I’ve been struggling with my personal view on growth. A concept so dear to me considering it’s been the underlying principle of my whole existence.

See, I’m one of those persons who firmly believes life is an opportunity for continuous improvement. And that individuals should always strive for ongoing self-enhancement.

Needless to say, I’m a fan of Maslow’s theory of self-actualization. Because I do believe that when all other needs are met, most of us (realize it or not) have a need to make the best use of our potential. That is, if we want to lead a life deeply filled with contentment and satisfaction.

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Dare to Embrace the Uncertainty

By Jessica Beltran, MS

uncertainty-of-lifeAs human beings we have a natural need to understand and control. We want to make sense of our world. And in a life that is so uncertain and unpredictable, we want to have power over the outcome of our experiences.

And as we struggle to find certainty in life, a certainty that can never be found, we cling on to ways of thinking and acting in an effort to gain that understanding and control we’re searching for.

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Be Happier by Maximizing Your Strengths

By Jessica Beltran, MS

12711940535_0b0f4110e5_oAs ordinary as we may feel, we each possess special gifts that make us unique. Gifts that if we were to acknowledge and apply to our lives would not only make us happier, but would provide us more satisfaction and well-being.

Positive psychologists (those that study the science of happiness) have found that knowing our strengths and using them in different ways increases our positive emotions and reduces our depressive symptoms. In other words, making the best out of our strengths makes us happier!

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Make it about TODAY

By Jessica Beltran, MS

7912377858_d2f106e90f_oA friend of mine once asked me how I managed to get through a painful divorce. She asked because she saw me broken once and now I seemed complete again. And not only did I seem complete, but happy.

“How did you get through it?” she asked me crying. Her 3-year boyfriend who she was planning on marrying had just broken up with her and she felt like her world was falling apart. All of her dreams and wishes had been shattered and she wondered how anyone could survive from a broken heart.

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Your Inner Critic: Friend or Foe?

By Jessica Beltran, MS

untitledWhether we realize it or not, we each have an inner critic that speaks to us. An invisible auditor who resides in our mind and is constantly inspecting (judging even) our actions. A “necessary evil” that as annoying as it is, makes sure we stay on track. But that if not handled with the proper discretion, can kill our self-esteem by fooling us into thinking despite our efforts we’re just not good enough.

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Create the Life of Your Dreams

By Jessica Beltran, MS

dreams,nature,photography,railroad,sunny,tracks-1df142a30a9c6316f13e659fc38edd6d_hLast night I had a terrifying nightmare. I dreamt that I was trapped in someone else’s life.  But not just anyone else’s life. I was trapped in my own life. The one I had 5 years ago. A life I created for myself for all the wrong reasons. A life that made me feel empty and miserable.

Have you ever felt like that? Waking up one day and realizing the life you’re living is not really yours. Wondering: “How did I even get here?”  Have you ever experienced that horrifying feeling of being a captive of your fears, doubts, and insecurities? Like a straightjacket you just can’t get out of. Feeling like a prisoner in a life that you chose for yourself. A life that nobody forced you into. But that still feels as suffocating as prison itself.

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The Power of the Unconscious

By Jessica Beltran, MS

50562032_0a71fdb799_oHave you ever felt threatened by a situation that in reality was not threatening at all, as if you were reacting to a different place and time? Or ever caught yourself reacting absurdly to a present moment because it somehow reminded you of a past experience? Or felt furious at someone for no reason whatsoever, probably because those feelings were really about somebody else?

If you have, then you understand the power of the unconscious. Those inner forces outside our conscious awareness that in so many ways control and dictate our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

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Are You Spending Your Energy Wisely?

By Jessica Beltran, MS

1009928944_3183307817_oHave you ever asked yourself what it is that you expend your energy on?

It seems that in this busy and dynamic world we’ve become more and more aware of the importance of managing our time effectively.

But what about managing our energy? Could it be “energy management” skills what we really need?

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The Value of Being Valued

By Jessica Beltran, MS

 

2719370443_cf5a845ab5_oYesterday was a very special day. As a Human Resources Director I had the amazing privilege of making 350 employees happier.

These employees were formally recognized for the first time in 40 years for their loyalty and dedication. And what really surprised me was that it was not the award that was given to them what made the difference.

It was all about the recognition. The appreciation. The thoughtfulness. That’s what made these 350 individuals smile.

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Is the Perfect the Enemy of the Good?

By Jessica Beltran, MS

5206308986_90f4ce5776_zVoltaire once said “perfect is the enemy of the good.” And as a perfectionist in recovery I can say without hesitation, boy was he right!

Having high standards motivates us to work hard and to excel in life.

However, the desire to be perfect, only handicaps us. It stops us from doing what we’d really like to do. And if it doesn’t, it deprives us of the pleasure of enjoying what we pursue.

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