Addiction

The Real Reason People Begin To Use Drugs, Drink (And What You Can Do About It)

It's all about feelings. When a person struggles with a sense of self and they aren't sure who they are,  they aren't sure how to experience, live with, or manage their thoughts and feeling. Feelings especially can become baffling, annoying or painful. In many years working in both mental health and addiction, I've found that in general, people try drugs or alcohol, and end up abusing them, because they want to change, forget or control a feeling or feelings.   Changing a feeling can be as simple as
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Communication

What Is Therapy, Really?

*Let's begin answering this essential question: What is therapy, really? By definition, psychotherapy is “The treatment of mental or emotional problems by the use of techniques that are tailored to the unique problems and backgrounds of the individual and that may include talk therapy, behavioral modification, medication, and other treatments.” The goal of psychotherapy is to help resolve an individual’s mental and emotional problems and, at the same time, teach that individual how to attain the skills needed to deal with life on life’s terms. Therapy is also an inner journey with the therapist as guide. With a good therapist assisting you, your emotions (what you feel) begin to get in sync with your intellect (what you know). When your head leads and your heart follows, the world becomes an easier, more meaningful place in which to live. Therapy is not about
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Communication

Help Me Deal With Difficult People

How do you deal with the difficult people in your life? People for whom you seem to walk on eggshells, trying to avoid unwittingly provoking their anger. People who must be in control of every personal exchange so their superiority shows. People who try and control you with insults or put downs. People who try to emotionally manipulate you. People you can never please. People who are caught in a spiral of negativity. People who lie.
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General

4 Steps To Creating Your Own Simple Self-Improvement Plan

Therapy with a treatment plan, that handy guide to setting and achieving your emotional and behavioral goals, holds the therapist and client to accountability and boosts the potential for positive change. You can also make a self-improvement plan, something simple, easy to implement, and effective. There is some similarity to the treatment plan you might use in therapy, except you can do this on your own (or with a friend, adviser, or even if you like, your therapist.) Step 1: EVALUATION If you wanted to buy a car,
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General

Where Does Your Power Begin?

Finally, Reason In The Nature vs. Nurture Debate From ScienceDaily a viewpoint that makes sense: Evolutionary science stresses the contributions biology makes to our behavior. Some anthropologists try to understand how societies and histories construct our identities, and others ask about how genes and the environment do the same thing. Which is the better approach? Both are needed, argues Agustin Fuentes, University of Notre Dame biological anthropologist. "Seeing bodies and evolutionary histories as things that can be measured separate from the human cultural experience is a poor approach and bad science," Fuentes said. "Seeing cultural perceptions and the human experience as unconnected to biology and evolutionary history is equally misguided. Data from a vast array of sources tell us that we need an integrative approach to best understand what it means to become and be human." Therapy Soup weighs in: Now that Agustin Feuntes has got that out of the way, perhaps we can understand that the most meaningful question in many cases isn't nature vs. nurture, as much as do we believe in free will and choice?
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anxiety

10 Best Holistic Mental Health Posts

Holistic health and medicine is a diverse field of alternative medicine in which the "whole person" is focused on, not just the malady itself. Often called mind-body medicine, holistic medicine takes into account the spirit or soul, as well. According to the individual viewpoint of the patient or the practitioner, the definition of "spiritual" as well as the relationship between the body, mind, and spirit or soul can be strikingly different. An important factor in mental health treatment is the awareness, by practitioner and client, of the fact that both physical health and spiritual health correlate to mental health, sometimes in a web of causality that can seem at first like an overwhelming puzzle. For those seeking meaning and reasons behind mental and emotional struggles, healing the body and soul go hand in hand with healing the mind.
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anxiety

When A Patient Becomes Aggressive & Passive-Agressive Vs. Assertive

A therapist I supervise came to me with a case: F. struggles with relationships and socializing. The sensory processing and cognitive issues she's struggled with since childhood cause her to misunderstand or miss social cues. Therefore, her responses to people's words, gestures, or tone of voice often were often wildly inappropriate and misfire. One of the biggest issues for her used to be her inability to read when someone was belittling or bullying her. Her social awkwardness made her an easy target. With the guidance of her counselor as well as support in developing a healthy response to bullying, she began to be able to assert herself and even stand up for herself, too. She learned about healthy boundaries and in cases where she used to get overly involved in other people's lives, especially people who were using and/or abusing her, she began to be able to recognize
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anxiety

8 Steps To Healthy Thoughts & Feelings

Your thoughts and feelings are not, as some suggest, your interface with reality. They are your reality.  That's why understanding that you can change your thoughts and feelings is so important, because once you believe you can change them, you give yourself the freedom to do so. Gaining mastery over your thoughts and feelings changes your life. Of course, this is easier said than done. 
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