Cliff Hangers & Therapy Don’t Mix

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

732128_72168845*No matter what happens during a session, whether or not you resolve an issue, as the end of the session approaches, your therapist should “check in” with you and make sure you are feeling okay.

He may ask you to summarize your session by talking about your progress, discussing the accomplishments you made during the session, or exploring what you have achieved over the course of therapy so far. He may also summarize the session himself. He may also give you homework, highlighting some skills that you can work on before your next session.

I like to give my patients a lot of homework–I want them to have really solid techniques at their fingertips to help them deal with both internal and external problems.

It is important that each session end on a positive, hopeful note. Above all, your therapist shouldn’t allow the session to end if you are experiencing any extremely negative feelings or thoughts which might cause you to have a crisis. Cliff-hangers and therapy DO NOT MIX.

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Something’s Holding Me Back In Therapy…

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

725521_70463323*Sometimes, a patient will feel apathetic about therapy. Assuming the patient is working with a good therapist, and one who is right for him, the feelings of apathy could be a cover for feelings of anger and fear.

Sometimes uncovering your problems and seeing yourself more objectively can be scary. You might unconsciously quash these uncomfortable feelings by feeling, or convincing yourself that you feel, apathetic.
If you find yourself feeling

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What Is A Soul-Mate?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

1414424_35810153The recent report from PsychCentral news that soul-mates may actually have lousy relationships, does nominally prove that believing soul-mates are perfect matches and will always live in harmony and unity is bunk.

This leads to the question: What is a soul-mate?

The Jewish sages teach that every person has a soul*, and that each soul is missing its other half, which was assigned to it before birth. In some cases, we might have more than one destined partner, but we still have only one other true soul-half. Part of our life may be spent seeking the other half. Sometimes the other half shows up without our prior realization that our soul has been longing for and seeking it.

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A Campaign Of Hatred Against Child & Parent

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

173717_9004C.R. writes: One of the reasons I find parental alienation so gut-wrenching, is because children are used as pawns, or weapons, in an attack on the spouse and this destroys the natural, loving parent-child relationship.

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Parental Alienation & Bias

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

517526_99507694Richard is taking a brief break. C.R. writes:

You can’t get any more mainstream than Newsweek. (Does anybody even read Newsweek?)

I guess Parental Alienation has finally become mainstream when a celebrity-studded article appears about it in Newsweek’s pages.

Whether or not the DSM accepts that PA qualifies as a syndrome (they don’t), and whether or not other experts think it exists (many do), children and parents suffering from the effects of parental alienation live with a painful reality.

Women, Men, and Bias

Perhaps one of the reasons why PA wasn’t widely accepted originally,

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Do You Have Free Will?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

1405557_80469989C.R. writes: According to a new study, the idea of the existence of free will has been defeated. We are, essentially, at the mercy of the random firings or background noise of our brain.

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Starting Over From Despair

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Yellow and Green ButterflySlavery. War. Destruction of sacred places.

According to the Jewish mystical tradition, all events in the outside world are reflections of, even responses to, our inner mental, emotional, and spiritual states.

Just as world events appear to cycle up and down, so do we. And the down-times can be launching pads for rebirth, if we know how to harness the positive energy buried deep inside.

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How To Navigate The Self-Help Jungle

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

70689_3772In Promise Land: My Journey Through America’s Self-Help Culture, author Jessica Lamb-Shapiro explains that the world of self-help is a mix of helpful and decidedly unhelpful. Without writing an expose, she reveals the, well, let’s face it, tacky world of those self-help gurus who are in it for the bucks alone, and whose promises of salvation, or even maturation or actualization, are as thin as the dollar bills shelled out for them.

She also identifies some possibly helpful self-help programs

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Travel Standing Still

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski
Reconnecting by Karen Hollingsworth

Reconnecting by Karen Hollingsworth

I created the painting titled “Reconnecting” after returning home from a trip to New York. While I was there I couldn’t help but notice that this is the view from practically every window in the city, and having seen a number of other artists versions of the urban landscape at galleries in Manhattan, I wanted to give it a try myself. The idea of the New York Times crossword puzzle and a cup of coffee came pretty easily.!cid_F91F896C-4090-49AF-9BDD-DB1181296DDE@hsd1_ga_comcast_net

The next painting titled “Viewpoint” is a fantasy for me. I’m thinking location is somewhere in Tuscany. The style of the windows are distinctly European, and to make the room even more inviting, a kitty. Clearly this is a place I hope to visit one day!
I don’t vacation often, and admit I do have some anxiety about traveling. My Windowscape paintings may be my way of seeing the world without the necessity of leaving my house!
See Gazing At Calm and Shifting Emotions, two Therapy Soup posts featuring the work of artist Karen Hollingsworth.
See more of the artist’s work at KarenHollingsworth.com

 

 

 

 

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Gazing At Calm: The Work Of Karen Hollingsworth

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

 

Unwind by Karen Hollingsworth

Unwind by Karen Hollingsworth

If I were to psychoanalyze myself, I would probably interpret the calm interior spaces as my inner self, with the windows representing my eyes bridging the gap between me and the outside world. 

—Karen Hollingsworth

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