Is Therapy The Right Choice For You?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • 1 min read

725521_70463323Wondering if therapy is right for you? Here are some of the possible reasons to consider seeing a skilled and compassionate therapist.

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7 Signs Your Boss Or Coworker May Be A Narcissist

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • 3 min read

1431598_76841211Are you the type that plays by the rules?

Gives everyone you work with the benefit of the doubt?

Gives everyone a chance or two or three?

Is supportive of your co-workers?

Always lends a hand?

Whether you’re a recent graduate or have been working for awhile, you may be one of the many that’s finding out that not everyone is like you. And, even more frustrating, that a handful of people you encounter during your workweek may even be the complete opposite of your straight-forward style.

Seven Confounding, Confusing, & Downright Hair-Pulling Signs You May Be Working For (or With) A Narcissist

1. They flatter you (or others), often in an over-the-top way.

Narcissists like to be admired and they they are often perfectly content with over-the-top flattery. Depending on the level of narcissism, if it’s about them and it’s sounds good, they don’t need to look to deeply. They also think others are equally happy with, and more importantly, can be manipulated by, ersatz praise.

Rest assured that the praise they deal out is not usually genuine.

Except sometimes it could be genuine. Then, watch out—the narcissist cannot tolerate anyone stealing his limelight. Except if they get to bask in your limelight as they claw their way to the top.

(Confounded yet?)

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Breathing Right Video 2, The Core-Breathing Boost

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • Less than a min read

Miriam Manela, co-author (with me, C.R.) of The Parent-Child Dance: A Guide to Help You Understand and Shape Your Child’s Behavior, talks about how to boost your or your child’s core breathing

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Vegans, Vitamin B12 & Depression, Top 10 Controversial Posts

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • 1 min read

SONY DSCC.R. writes: As someone who used to be vegetarian and even vegan for many years in my past, I remember being leery of people telling me my diet might be lacking certain nutrients. I’d point to studies which showed how healthy a balanced and well-thought out vegetarian diet was.

Was my diet balanced and well-thought out? Only occasionally.

This week we got a comment on a post (Could Vitamin B12 Help Your Anxiety, Depression?) that reminded me of this whole discussion. And just last week I got a call from a strictly-vegan friend of mine who was diagnosed with Seasonal Affective Disorder a couple of years ago, and depression last year.

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The Silent Treatment And What You Can Do To Stop It Cold

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • 4 min read

590329_58780489One of the more frustrating passive-aggressive tactics to those on the receiving end is “the silent treatment”.

The silent treatment is an abusive method of control, punishment, avoidance, or disempowerment (sometimes these four types overlap, sometimes not) that is a favorite tactic of narcissists, and especially those who have a hard time with impulse control, that is, those with more infantile tendencies.

The silent treatment can be used as an abusive tactic that is the adult narcissist’s version of a child’s  “holding my breath until you give in and give me what I want.”

It is one of the most frustrating tactics

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Take The Happiness Test + 13 Curious Articles About Happiness

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • Less than a min read


Take the Happiness Quiz

(How did you do?)

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How To Cope With Second-Hand Stress If You Are A Sensitive Empath

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • 2 min read

831837_79977773Is stress contagious?

You know, those symptoms of stress, such as clenched jaw, highly-pitched voice, furrowed brow, anger, anxiety, and so on.

For some people, other people’s stressed-out emotions and moods are simply that: Other People’s Stress. OPS. Not theirs.

For others, OPS is absorbed like water to a sponge. And you DON’T have to be co-dependent to be the sponge. You may simply be sensitive.

I’m a strong believer that not every imperfect personality trait requires a diagnosis or a pathology category, and that no one, therapist or not, can truly define the best combination of personality traits. This is highly individual. Most traits have flip sides, and sensitivity—responding to other people’s feelings and concerns with empathy—is no exception.

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Breathing Right Can Change Your Mental State

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • Less than a min read

Take a deep breath. Breathing correctly is important for your mental and physical well-being. Breathing can actually change your mental states. In this short video, part one of a breathing series, Miriam Manela, occupational therapist, talks about the importance of breathing.

Three Ways To Handle Mild But Upsetting Racing Thoughts

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • 2 min read

725521_70463323*Robin, a psychology graduate student, called up her therapist and left her fourth message of the day. She knew that Jen, her therapist was on vacation and unreachable for at least twenty-four more hours, but she didn’t want to call the back-up therapist.

She wasn’t having a full-fledged panic attack as she had in the past. At least not exactly. But she was experiencing racing thoughts: repetitive negative thoughts that she felt were beyond her ability to control.

These were strong enough to distract and upset her, but mild enough so that she was aware of her surrounding environment, was not hallucinating, and felt mildly, but not totally, out of control.

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The Parent-Child Dance: Understanding (And Improving) Your Child’s Problem Behavior

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski • 5 min read

!cid_3B50DC3C-AD0F-47E6-A10D-A53A3ABE4989@hsd1_mi_comcast_netI’m really excited to tell you about The Parent-Child Dance: A Guide to Help You Understand and Shape Your Child’s Behavior, because I know that the author is making a difference in the lives of so many parents and kids. The Parent-Child Dance is written by award-winning pediatric behavioral specialist, Miriam Manela, OTR/L, with the help of me, C.R. Zwolinski from Therapy Soup.

For over a decade, Miriam Manela has been working with children and parents, educators, and therapists, addressing behavioral, emotional, social, learning, physical and other challenges.  During her workshops for professionals, students and educators, Miriam helps the participants understand how to help children regulate themselves and become better able to manage their emotions, connect with others, and learn. She also works closely with pediatric professionals in a variety of professions including mental health therapy professionals, nutritionists, and others.

Richard and I asked Miriam to explain why she wrote The Parent-Child Dance.

Welcome to PsychCentral and Therapy Soup, Miriam. Why did you decide to write the Parent-Child Dance?


I had a client, one of many who had impulsive behavior, a boy I’ll call Terry. Terry would take his brothers’ and sisters’ homework, and crumple it up and rip it, he’d hurt a child on the playground, or he’d a chew his collars and sleeves and rip holes in his clothes. But though he had a hard time controlling his impulses. Terry always regretted his actions later.

He also had a hard time sitting still, especially in the classroom. Both his mom and dad were at their wits’ end. It felt to Terry’s father that he was talking to a wall.

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