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Getting Focused On Life, Feelings, Hopes: A Therapy Tool

In recent comments, Lorr, a reader asked to see an example of a personal perspective paper, a therapy tool that can benefit clients who struggle with articulating their experience.

Lorr asks:

I think the PPP is a great idea, I read about it in your book. Do you have a format or samples? I’m not sure how to get started.

How is the PPP different from a biography?

A biography, or autobiography, can tell the events in a person's life, without the inner experience. A PPP is more focused on what these events felt like and how they impacted the person's emotions and his own insights into his challenges.
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Communication

Activate These 5 Fundamentals For Conscious Change


Conscious Change

These are three examples of conscious change:
A golfer who works consistently on her swing despite not having a natural ability, may find herself able to hold her own in a tournament.
A college student who enters medical school may have no idea how to treat heart disease, but after studying hard in med school and working at his internship, he may be performing open-heart surgery on a regular basis.
A person with an explosive temper can go to an anger management class and learn techniques that help him relax and manage uncomfortable feelings in more productive ways.
Do You REALLY Believe You Can Change?

If people couldn't change, there would be no point to therapy, coaching or personal
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General

Change Your Core Beliefs And You Might Change How You Feel

Core Beliefs

Whether you are dealing with a mental illness or personality disorder or not, if you still struggle with painful personality traits, feelings, and behaviors, one suggestion is to take a look at your core beliefs.

The following questions can prompt deep thought. Try focusing on one of the following questions a week, reflecting on it daily. You can use your weekly questions as a springboard for journaling, meditative thought, or prayerful meditation.
1. What do I believe about other people, those in my life and those who are strangers?
2. What do I believe about life in general?
3. What do I believe about myself?
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Communication

The Therapist That Didn’t Show Up For His Sessions

Recently we advised a young woman in her twenties to seek another therapist. We didn't make the suggestion on a whim, this was after consulting with her three times in six months.

Here's why.

Last summer, a friend of a friend (we'll call her Ann), called to ask us for advice regarding her therapist. She and her husband had been seeing him individually, and together in couple's counseling, spending nearly $2000 a month out of pocket. They had been seeing him for just under a year and felt they had seen little to no improvement. Because finances were very tight, they had been cutting back on everything, even basics, like groceries, to pay his fee.

After asking her about what went on in therapy this is what we learned:
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Addiction

Should Your Therapist Poke His/Her Nose Into Your Personal Business?

Good therapists are the ones who have the specialized knowledge to actually give you the key to your own transformation. They also have the sensitivity, training, and ability to work within the parameters of your belief system; not aggressively challenging, nor blindly accepting your conditional outlook, but gently helping you deepen your understanding of your life and your life’s purpose. They help you resolve to improve.

From Therapy Revolution: Find Help, Get Better and Move On Without Wasting Time or Money

Should your therapist "butt in" to your personal life?

Anyone who has ever been in therapy finds this question at once both ludicrous and apt.

How personal should therapy actually be?

There is no easy answer that holds true for everyone. If you are in therapy to work on a certain issue, such as anger, for example, you might be content to gain more awareness of your anger as it occurs in the present, and learn thought-based and behavioral changes to manage it.

Or you might yearn to find the deeper roots of your anger, how it might be related to your deepest fears, and spend a year or more analyzing every nuance of your anger-fear feelings.
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