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God in Therapy

A Spiritual Approach To Dealing With Regrets

*A God in Therapy post

We all have them.

Minor regrets, such as: I wish I had learned how to play the clarinet. I wish I hadn't goofed off quite so much in college. I wish I...

And, major regrets, such as: I wish I didn't do (fill in the blank) because it really hurt someone/myself. I wish I had been a wiser parent, more caring spouse, more respectful child...

There are many schools of thought out there about how to deal with our regrets from the don't-pay-them-any-mind school to the beat-myself-up-black-and-blue school.

There are also a variety of spiritual and religious approaches to regrets, especially regrets about actions taken that we feel have left painful imprints on our souls.
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anxiety

Mindfulness–Reach Beyond Your Turbulent Mind

We're continuing our discussion of the intersection of spirituality and therapy with psychotherapist Tanchum (Tani) Burton. Tani is a rabbi and educator whose approaches to therapy and spirituality are relevant for an increasing number of clients and students.

Welcome back, Tani. You are a student of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov, whose powerful teachings we have frequently blogged about on the Therapy Soup blog. Can you tell us about the (free) classes you are currently teaching at BreslovCampus.com called The Chassidic Law of Attraction?

I’m giving a course on one of Rebbe Nachman’s famous stories, known in English as “the Sophisticate and the Simpleton."

This story shows us a path towards—and away from—true wealth, joy and growth in the analogy of the main characters, who are simple and complicated, satisfied and restless, joyous and miserable respectively.

The challenge and opportunity for us is that we all have elements of both characters, and, when we can recognize which one is operating, we can readjust and reboot our lives for the better.
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Communication

Therapy and the Soul with Tanchum Burton

We're talking with psychotherapist Tanchum (Tani) Burton, who is also a rabbi and educator, about his approaches to therapy and spirituality.

Welcome. What do you believe is the interface between spirituality and psychotherapy, the spiritual nature of people and their emotional well-being?

It’s harder to define “spirituality” than to define “psychotherapy”; spirituality means different things to different people.

Psychotherapy, on the other hand, has certain basic defined elements, such as Rogers’ six conditions for therapeutic change--unconditional positive regard, empathic understanding, communication of that understanding, and the like.

When these are in place, when the human connection between people in a therapy room is one of acceptance, and of a prizing of the individual who has come for help, I think that the groundwork for spirituality has been laid.
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Addiction

Meditation: Benefits…And Dangers?

C.R. writes: A friend of mine's son left his home in Israel to travel through India and Nepal and returned shortly before the recent earthquake. He had trekked with his friends, searching for enlightenment, but returned home with a parasitic infection, feeling weak and also disillusioned.

He described what he saw as the hypocrisy of some of the gurus and yogis he met (he called them "cash-rakers") and told how some of the Westerners who flocked to them seemed to magnify their worst personality traits after time spent following certain meditative practices.

His email to me said: "They become intolerant of anyone who disturbs their "bliss", and they are like addicts being hooked on their drug," he told me. "Nothing bothers them unless it messes with their personal comfort and they seem to become really short on compassion."

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General

23 Ways To Make Life Better

Here are 23 of our favorite ways to make life better:

1. Be prepared for things to not go as planned. Have faith it will all work out in the end if you do the right thing.

2. When possible, have a Plan B, even a Plan C. But remember number 1.

3. Look for the good in others. Make this an active, not passive. process. Try it daily.

4. Look for the good in yourself. Make this an active process. Try it daily.

5. Give other's the benefit of the doubt, but if someone breaks your trust more than twice, be wary.

6. Explore Faith and Belief. Connect to the Creator.

7. Learn from mentors. What is an example of a good mentor? An experienced person who truly" walks the walk", someone who has good relationships with others and is kind and caring. Someone who almost never gets angry. Someone who is honest. Someone who is moral. Someone who behaves when alone as he/she does in front of others. Someone who values each person and is not swayed or lured by money, fame, or power. 
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General

Starting Over In The Dead Of Winter–New Year For The Trees

Tonight is Tu B'Shevat, the New Year for the Trees.* Each year, we serve an enormous variety of fruits (this year it will be a few more than 30, some years, we've served 72 types!), bless them, and eat them, sharing them with guests.

It's actually a lot of fun, adults and children love it, and there are many beautiful practices and customs associated with the day, including a deep and mystic "Seder" (containing elements of the Passover Seder), as well as many creative personal expressions of the holiday.

But Tu B'Shevat isn't just a fruit extravaganza nor is it only a mystical meditation. It actually has a very powerful practical message for those willing to listen.
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General

Girl Declared “Brain-Dead”, Jahi McMath, Is Alive And Responsive

Sam Schmid's is a college student who returned from a "brain-dead" coma.

Cases including that of Steven Thorpe, a teen who "came back" after being declared brain dead by four medical experts, as well as Terri Schiavo and Karen Quinlan who were both pulled off life support (and in Terri Schiavo's situation, that life support consisted of nutritional support) are hotly debated.

Now, 
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