Archives for Goals and Objectives

General

23 Ways To Make Life Better

Here are 23 of our favorite ways to make life better:

1. Be prepared for things to not go as planned. Have faith it will all work out in the end if you do the right thing.

2. When possible, have a Plan B, even a Plan C. But remember number 1.

3. Look for the good in others. Make this an active, not passive. process. Try it daily.

4. Look for the good in yourself. Make this an active process. Try it daily.

5. Give other's the benefit of the doubt, but if someone breaks your trust more than twice, be wary.

6. Explore Faith and Belief. Connect to the Creator.

7. Learn from mentors. What is an example of a good mentor? An experienced person who truly" walks the walk", someone who has good relationships with others and is kind and caring. Someone who almost never gets angry. Someone who is honest. Someone who is moral. Someone who behaves when alone as he/she does in front of others. Someone who values each person and is not swayed or lured by money, fame, or power. 
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anxiety

Getting Focused On Life, Feelings, Hopes: A Therapy Tool

In recent comments, Lorr, a reader asked to see an example of a personal perspective paper, a therapy tool that can benefit clients who struggle with articulating their experience.

Lorr asks:

I think the PPP is a great idea, I read about it in your book. Do you have a format or samples? I’m not sure how to get started.

How is the PPP different from a biography?

A biography, or autobiography, can tell the events in a person's life, without the inner experience. A PPP is more focused on what these events felt like and how they impacted the person's emotions and his own insights into his challenges.
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Communication

Activate These 5 Fundamentals For Conscious Change


Conscious Change

These are three examples of conscious change:
A golfer who works consistently on her swing despite not having a natural ability, may find herself able to hold her own in a tournament.
A college student who enters medical school may have no idea how to treat heart disease, but after studying hard in med school and working at his internship, he may be performing open-heart surgery on a regular basis.
A person with an explosive temper can go to an anger management class and learn techniques that help him relax and manage uncomfortable feelings in more productive ways.
Do You REALLY Believe You Can Change?

If people couldn't change, there would be no point to therapy, coaching or personal
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General

Change Your Core Beliefs And You Might Change How You Feel

Core Beliefs

Whether you are dealing with a mental illness or personality disorder or not, if you still struggle with painful personality traits, feelings, and behaviors, one suggestion is to take a look at your core beliefs.

The following questions can prompt deep thought. Try focusing on one of the following questions a week, reflecting on it daily. You can use your weekly questions as a springboard for journaling, meditative thought, or prayerful meditation.
1. What do I believe about other people, those in my life and those who are strangers?
2. What do I believe about life in general?
3. What do I believe about myself?
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Addiction

Do You Have Any Of These Borderline Traits?

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) doesn't have to be diagnosed in order for borderline-like traits to wreak havoc in your life. Just having one or two BPD-like symptoms can be enough to derail relationships and create obstacles to personal and professional satisfaction in life.

Do any of the following* sound like they apply to you or your life?
You lie often and/or compulsively

You are irritable and fly off the handle easily

Your problems seem to be more "dramatic" or "catastrophic" than other people's
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Goals and Objectives

5 Essential Ingredients Of Successful Therapy

Successful therapy, that is, therapy that effectively changes how you live your life, must contain five fundamental ingredients:

1. The therapist must be a motivated, experienced professional.

2. The therapist must use evidence-based treatments; that is, proven methods and techniques.

3. Therapy must be carried out in a reasonable treatment time frame.

4. The therapist’s per-hour fee and the entire cost of the course of treatment must be fair and reasonable.

5. The patient must be a motivated patient.

It is important to know
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Communication

The Therapist That Didn’t Show Up For His Sessions

Recently we advised a young woman in her twenties to seek another therapist. We didn't make the suggestion on a whim, this was after consulting with her three times in six months.

Here's why.

Last summer, a friend of a friend (we'll call her Ann), called to ask us for advice regarding her therapist. She and her husband had been seeing him individually, and together in couple's counseling, spending nearly $2000 a month out of pocket. They had been seeing him for just under a year and felt they had seen little to no improvement. Because finances were very tight, they had been cutting back on everything, even basics, like groceries, to pay his fee.

After asking her about what went on in therapy this is what we learned:
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