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Why Bucket Lists Are Kind Of Depressing

C.R. writes:

A recent Mayo Clinic study on happiness concluded that happiness is a learned trait, something to be cultivated. The Mayo Clinic also reports that most if not all happy people exhibit these five behaviors/traits:
1.Devoting time to family and friends
2.Appreciating what they have
3.Maintaining an optimistic outlook
4.Feeling a sense of purpose
5.Living in the moment
For some people, number 6. is Having a "bucket list."

The concept of a bucket list is based on a movie (I didn't know this until I researched its origins) about two terminally men who create a list of things they want to do before they "kick the bucket".

My Introduction to Bucket Lists

I remember exactly how and when I became familiar with the term. A few years ago a friend of mine told me that she really wanted to visit Morocco. It was, she said, at the top of her "bucket list." I asked her what a bucket list was, and she said a bunch of things people want to do before they die. Her bucket list included mainly adventures in foreign lands and a few glamorous activities (something to do with celebrities, five star hotels, perhaps.)

I found this stunning.
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Communication

Gary Vaynerchuk Says In-Person Meetings Are Essential

C.R. writes: When communications & marketing guru, technology and cultural commentator, rule-breaking investor and entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk has something to say about the value of in-person meetings, we should pay attention.

That's because Gary has mastered the digital life. As an internet marketing and digital-media visionary, he exploits to the fullest the online world. It has made him very successful.

But it's not all business.

Gary Vaynerchuk really has thought deeply about the way relationships
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anxiety

Creating A Basic Relationship-Agreement

Just because we cannot, with our limited human abilities, describe absolute truth doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

One of the primary ways discussion can collapse into heated argument is when both sides cannot agree what truth is or what the past looks like. While both sides are entitled to their own points of view, agreeing that there is a truthful reality that is independent of individual perception is often important when solving differences.

If you are in relationship counseling, it might be helpful in some circumstances to set the past aside and work on outlining concrete guidelines for the future of the relationship.
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Mindfulness–Reach Beyond Your Turbulent Mind

We're continuing our discussion of the intersection of spirituality and therapy with psychotherapist Tanchum (Tani) Burton. Tani is a rabbi and educator whose approaches to therapy and spirituality are relevant for an increasing number of clients and students.

Welcome back, Tani. You are a student of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov, whose powerful teachings we have frequently blogged about on the Therapy Soup blog. Can you tell us about the (free) classes you are currently teaching at BreslovCampus.com called The Chassidic Law of Attraction?

I’m giving a course on one of Rebbe Nachman’s famous stories, known in English as “the Sophisticate and the Simpleton."

This story shows us a path towards—and away from—true wealth, joy and growth in the analogy of the main characters, who are simple and complicated, satisfied and restless, joyous and miserable respectively.

The challenge and opportunity for us is that we all have elements of both characters, and, when we can recognize which one is operating, we can readjust and reboot our lives for the better.
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