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The One Person You Should NEVER Say You’re Sorry To

 C.R. writes:
"Sometimes, on rare occasions, apologizing is the worst thing you can do. It allows a person who is in the wrong to feel superior. It feeds their narcissism."
This doesn't really tally with what I believe—that saying you're sorry, asking for forgiveness, and making peace are literally requirements for mature and moral folks; that even if you're not really in the wrong it's best to swallow your pride and make peace—but something resonated here at a deep level.
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23 Ways To Make Life Better

Here are 23 of our favorite ways to make life better:

1. Be prepared for things to not go as planned. Have faith it will all work out in the end if you do the right thing.

2. When possible, have a Plan B, even a Plan C. But remember number 1.

3. Look for the good in others. Make this an active, not passive. process. Try it daily.

4. Look for the good in yourself. Make this an active process. Try it daily.

5. Give other's the benefit of the doubt, but if someone breaks your trust more than twice, be wary.

6. Explore Faith and Belief. Connect to the Creator.

7. Learn from mentors. What is an example of a good mentor? An experienced person who truly" walks the walk", someone who has good relationships with others and is kind and caring. Someone who almost never gets angry. Someone who is honest. Someone who is moral. Someone who behaves when alone as he/she does in front of others. Someone who values each person and is not swayed or lured by money, fame, or power. 
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Getting Focused On Life, Feelings, Hopes: A Therapy Tool

In recent comments, Lorr, a reader asked to see an example of a personal perspective paper, a therapy tool that can benefit clients who struggle with articulating their experience.

Lorr asks:

I think the PPP is a great idea, I read about it in your book. Do you have a format or samples? I’m not sure how to get started.

How is the PPP different from a biography?

A biography, or autobiography, can tell the events in a person's life, without the inner experience. A PPP is more focused on what these events felt like and how they impacted the person's emotions and his own insights into his challenges.
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Stress In Your Child: Useful Resources

Miriam Manela, of OTThrive.com, shares signs of stress in children plus some simple ways to address minor stress, here. She's the author, with me (C.R. from Therapy Soup) of The Parent-Child Dance: A Guide to Help You Understand and Shape Your Child's Behavior. In The Parent-Child Dance you'll learn to understand how children's systems deal with stress, how this can affect their behavior, and proven tools and techniques to help your child progress.

The APA (American Psychological Association) shows you how to identify stress in your younger child or teen.

MedlinePlus (a project of the National Institute of Health; U.S. National Library of Medicine) offers
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Change Your Core Beliefs And You Might Change How You Feel

Core Beliefs

Whether you are dealing with a mental illness or personality disorder or not, if you still struggle with painful personality traits, feelings, and behaviors, one suggestion is to take a look at your core beliefs.

The following questions can prompt deep thought. Try focusing on one of the following questions a week, reflecting on it daily. You can use your weekly questions as a springboard for journaling, meditative thought, or prayerful meditation.
1. What do I believe about other people, those in my life and those who are strangers?
2. What do I believe about life in general?
3. What do I believe about myself?
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