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Can An Angry Teacher Teach You About Anger?

An Angry Teacher?

Who are your mentors, teachers, role models? Whom do you admire? Respect? Learn from?

Can they control their anger?

Imagine: You're sitting in a college classroom, taking a course on the philosophy of relationships. Your professor, a tenured, well-respected man, gives a brilliant lecture on the nobility of friendship. He speaks about forbearance, equanimity, tolerance and seeing the good in others.

You have a question about the assignment, but
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Enlightenment–Thinking About Attachment

Enlightenment: the action or state of attaining or having attained spiritual knowledge or insight, so says the dictionary.

Non-Attachment Enlightenment

The concept of enlightenment today sometimes reflects the view that an awareness which frees a person from the cycle of rebirth, enlightenment is largely about non-attachment.

Attachment is prison, meditation and nothingness are the key to enlightenment.

Non-attachment is the highest state of being and total enlightenment.

Letting go is the way to go.

Practice enlightened mindfulness, not attachment.

And the famous:...
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The Deeper Meaning Of Blame Vs. Punishment In The Brain

C. R. writes: A recent study from Vanderbilt University seems to show that blame and punishment are decided by two different parts of the brain:
Juries in criminal cases typically decide if someone is guilty, then a judge determines a suitable level of punishment. New research confirms that these two separate assessments of guilt and punishment -- though related -- are calculated in different parts of the brain. In fact, researchers have found that they can disrupt and change one decision without affecting the other.
—Vanderbilt University. "How your brain decides blame and punishment, and how it can be changed." ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 16 September 2015.
This is both fascinating and timely!

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Do You Really Need To Talk About Your Past?

Does therapy absolutely require you to "talk about your past?" Do you need to "go down that road?"

My answer, adapted from Therapy Revolution: Find Help, Get Better, and Move On, may surprise you.

Your therapist will, beginning from the very first session, evaluate how you cope with problems and challenges. Where your coping skills aren’t as strong as they might be, a good therapist will teach you how to strengthen them. I believe that generally, only then, should your therapist ask your permission to go ahead and explore important events in your past.
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Being Shy Can Be A Good Thing

A little over a decade ago, I was consulted by a young couple regarding their nine-year old son. The school had recommended counseling. They felt his shyness and lack of participation in class was concealing a deeper problem, perhaps abuse, depression, or other issue.

The boy had once participated freely in class, but by mid-year, he never raised his hands and looked like he was daydreaming. The parents took him to a specialist who felt he might be on the autism spectrum and recommended therapy. They wanted another opinion.
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