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Gary Vaynerchuk Says In-Person Meetings Are Essential

C.R. writes: When communications & marketing guru, technology and cultural commentator, rule-breaking investor and entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk has something to say about the value of in-person meetings, we should pay attention.

That's because Gary has mastered the digital life. As an internet marketing and digital-media visionary, he exploits to the fullest the online world. It has made him very successful.

But it's not all business.

Gary Vaynerchuk really has thought deeply about the way relationships
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Creating A Basic Relationship-Agreement

Just because we cannot, with our limited human abilities, describe absolute truth doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

One of the primary ways discussion can collapse into heated argument is when both sides cannot agree what truth is or what the past looks like. While both sides are entitled to their own points of view, agreeing that there is a truthful reality that is independent of individual perception is often important when solving differences.

If you are in relationship counseling, it might be helpful in some circumstances to set the past aside and work on outlining concrete guidelines for the future of the relationship.
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Therapists: Could A Medical Condition Be The Cause Of Your Client’s Mental Illness?


A well-trained and dedicated medical doctor will consider whether or not there is an emotional component possibly triggering a physical issue, such as stress in the case of fatigue. But often, those in the mental health field, especially psychotherapists, might not evaluate and rule out medical or other issues in the case of a client presenting with a mental illness.

In training sessions with interns and therapists-in-training, I emphasize the importance of doing a comprehensive evaluation before diagnosing—and doing therapy with—a client. I explain that when it comes to a mental health evaluation it is as vital for therapists to determine which factors are contributing to or causing mental illness, whether that mental illness is mild or more severe.

Yet many therapists jump right into talk therapy at the first or second visit; not everyone in private practice examines medical records or asks their clients to get blood-work done.
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Mindfulness–Reach Beyond Your Turbulent Mind

We're continuing our discussion of the intersection of spirituality and therapy with psychotherapist Tanchum (Tani) Burton. Tani is a rabbi and educator whose approaches to therapy and spirituality are relevant for an increasing number of clients and students.

Welcome back, Tani. You are a student of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov, whose powerful teachings we have frequently blogged about on the Therapy Soup blog. Can you tell us about the (free) classes you are currently teaching at BreslovCampus.com called The Chassidic Law of Attraction?

I’m giving a course on one of Rebbe Nachman’s famous stories, known in English as “the Sophisticate and the Simpleton."

This story shows us a path towards—and away from—true wealth, joy and growth in the analogy of the main characters, who are simple and complicated, satisfied and restless, joyous and miserable respectively.

The challenge and opportunity for us is that we all have elements of both characters, and, when we can recognize which one is operating, we can readjust and reboot our lives for the better.
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Communication

Therapy and the Soul with Tanchum Burton

We're talking with psychotherapist Tanchum (Tani) Burton, who is also a rabbi and educator, about his approaches to therapy and spirituality.

Welcome. What do you believe is the interface between spirituality and psychotherapy, the spiritual nature of people and their emotional well-being?

It’s harder to define “spirituality” than to define “psychotherapy”; spirituality means different things to different people.

Psychotherapy, on the other hand, has certain basic defined elements, such as Rogers’ six conditions for therapeutic change--unconditional positive regard, empathic understanding, communication of that understanding, and the like.

When these are in place, when the human connection between people in a therapy room is one of acceptance, and of a prizing of the individual who has come for help, I think that the groundwork for spirituality has been laid.
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Communication

The One Person You Should NEVER Say You’re Sorry To

 C.R. writes:
"Sometimes, on rare occasions, apologizing is the worst thing you can do. It allows a person who is in the wrong to feel superior. It feeds their narcissism."
This doesn't really tally with what I believe—that saying you're sorry, asking for forgiveness, and making peace are literally requirements for mature and moral folks; that even if you're not really in the wrong it's best to swallow your pride and make peace—but something resonated here at a deep level.
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Communication

Activate These 5 Fundamentals For Conscious Change


Conscious Change

These are three examples of conscious change:
A golfer who works consistently on her swing despite not having a natural ability, may find herself able to hold her own in a tournament.
A college student who enters medical school may have no idea how to treat heart disease, but after studying hard in med school and working at his internship, he may be performing open-heart surgery on a regular basis.
A person with an explosive temper can go to an anger management class and learn techniques that help him relax and manage uncomfortable feelings in more productive ways.
Do You REALLY Believe You Can Change?

If people couldn't change, there would be no point to therapy, coaching or personal
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