Archives for Addiction
You can become a healthy role model for your child—even for your adult child. Obviously, the earlier on you model healthy emotions and behavior for your child, the better. A child who grows up with a parent who is mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy will usually have a better chance of developing these qualities him or herself. But sometimes, being a role model is deeper than merely being a responsible, thoughtful adult. Children see everything, and are often able to read what we really think, feel, and believe.
It's all about feelings. When a person struggles with a sense of self and they aren't sure who they are, they aren't sure how to experience, live with, or manage their thoughts and feeling. Feelings especially can become baffling, annoying or painful. In many years working in both mental health and addiction, I've found that in general, people try drugs or alcohol, and end up abusing them, because they want to change, forget or control a feeling or feelings. Changing a feeling can be as simple as
Honesty, Open-mindedness, and Willingness, commonly referred to as "HOW," are three keys to recovery from addiction, according to self-help groups. These three keys are essential to being emotionally, spiritually, and physically healthy as well.
To find joy is the hardest thing of all. It is harder than all other spiritual tasks…Put all your energy into being happy. — Rebbe Nachman of Breslov People struggling with depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses benefit from making joy a part of their mental health treatment plan. Joy's Power Joy's Dark Opposites: Joy is the opposite of nearly every draining emotion and feeling: Despair. Anger. Depression. Jealousy. Hate. You can't merely implant joy on top of negative emotions and feelings, but you can engage in joyful activities which are important to the healing process.
Drugs There were 46, 471 deaths from drug overdoses in the United States in 2013, the latest year for which there is data. About half of those were from prescription-drug overdoes. Another 8,000 were from heroin. (Painkillers are being abused more than heroin, cocaine, PCP, methamphetamines, and MDMA all combined.)
If you believe you're essentially like a hippo, starfish, pug, or sheep (or any other animal), then read no further. If you believe you are a unique, divinely-created soul, and that your soul and body are carefully-chosen mates; if you believe that your life circumstances are designed specifically with you in mind, to help you achieve a purpose or mission in this lifetime; then you probably already know: YOU CAN START OVER.
Trauma Can Change Us There is no doubt trauma changes us. When I (C.R.) was beginning graduate studies, my main focus was on what I call "legacy trauma." Personal interviews and experience has shown me that the children of those who are not spiritually and emotionally healed from traumatic experiences seem to be likely to pass down a legacy of trauma through the generations. This legacy affects every aspect of their children's and grandchildren's lives, from how they respond to positive or negative "news" to how they show their love for each other. I've seen this primarily with families of Holocaust survivors and this was to be my main research, but certainly other traumatic, national and personal events (my focus was on national, ethnic, etc.), from war in places like Sudan and Syria, to the Japanese earthquakes, to the Ring of Fire Tsunami, appears to leave survivors with a broad range of reactions, ranging from feelings of helplessness to developing suddenly acquired but abiding belief in God. But are there actual physiological changes that lead to a genetic legacy?