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12 Steps For 15 Maladies

In the original 1938 Alcoholics Anonymous book*, fifteen emotional/spiritual symptoms (referred to as maladies) of addiction are listed: being restless, irritable, and discontented having trouble with personal relationships not being able to control our emotional natures being prey to (or suffering from) misery and depression not being able to make a living (or a happy and successful life) having feelings of uselessness being full of fear unhappiness inability to be of real help to other people being like "the actor who wants to run the whole show" being "driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity" self-will run riot leading a double life living like a tornado running through the lives of others exhibiting selfish and inconsiderate habits These maladies are all rooted in
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Does Your Therapist Have Successful Outcomes?

When searching for and interviewing a prospective therapist, ask him to tell you about his rate of successful outcomes. A therapist should be able to tell you what percentage (approximately/in the ball park), of his patients with problems similar to yours (for example, clinical depression, borderline personality disorder, addiction, and so on), have achieved successful outcomes with his help. If you don't have a diagnosis, it still may be helpful to hear from the therapist how his patients have improved.
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Healing Families With Honest Role Modeling

You can become a healthy role model for your child—even for your adult child. Obviously, the earlier on you model healthy emotions and behavior for your child, the better. A child who grows up with a parent who is mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy will usually have a better chance of developing these qualities him or herself. But sometimes, being a role model is deeper than merely being a responsible, thoughtful adult. Children see everything, and are often able to read what we really think, feel, and believe. 
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The Real Reason People Begin To Use Drugs, Drink (And What You Can Do About It)

It's all about feelings. When a person struggles with a sense of self and they aren't sure who they are,  they aren't sure how to experience, live with, or manage their thoughts and feeling. Feelings especially can become baffling, annoying or painful. In many years working in both mental health and addiction, I've found that in general, people try drugs or alcohol, and end up abusing them, because they want to change, forget or control a feeling or feelings.   Changing a feeling can be as simple as
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