We Celebrate A Reader: Connie
Connie is a Therapy Soup reader who has a powerful story to tell. In fact, she has so much to talk about that she writes two blogs. On A Road Less Traveled she blogs about a variety of topics, from therapy, books that have made a difference in her life, music, and more.
On Loving From the Inside Out she blogs about loving people from “the inside out” and inspiring others to do the same. She dedicates this blog to her late fiancé, Ron Knope, who died of a heart attack at only 34 years old.
She writes candidly about Ron’s weight problems and how, because of him, she learned to love someone from “the inside out.” She talks about appearance, its impact on us, and the insights and wisdom she gained from her relationship with Ron. From reading her blog, you can tell that Connie is an example of someone who seeks answers to important questions and doesn’t let obstacles stop her.
On her new blog, A Road Less Traveled, she blogs about a lot of topics, including Books That Made A Difference. When our first book came out, we hoped it would help people find a good therapist who could really help them. Since then, we’ve received emails and comments that have touched our hearts. People said that the book literally changed their lives.
Connie is one of them. We were surprised and delighted when she sent us a review she wrote about Therapy Revolution (see below).
So go ahead and check out. Here are excerpts from her blogs to get you started:
Loving From the Inside Out:
B is for Beauty
Beauty, on Loving From the Inside Out? Yep, and I’ll tell ya why. I’m on a mission to redefine what beauty means. Ask most people what they think beauty is, and they’ll probably give you some version of “something that looks good, that’s pleasing to the eye.” And of course, our world is obsessed with physical beauty. We even have contests, euphemistically disguised as pageants, to see who the most beautiful people are. Magazines devote whole issues in some cases to show us who the most beautiful people are, not to mention the bajillion heavily-retouched, unrealistically perfect ads you have to turn past to get to the pictures of those most beautiful people. And if it’s a beauty or fashion magazine, then of course all of that is surrounded by articles on how to perfect the latest beauty technique. Seems to me the message this sends, to young girls and even to still-insecure women, is: “You must change yourself to resemble as closely as possible this arbitrarily defined and impossibly narrow set of physical characteristics, or you’re not beautiful.” And in a culture obsessed with physical beauty, if you’re not “beautiful,” you’re not worth anything. The havoc this wreaks on the hearts and self esteem of women breaks my heart.
And, from A Road Less Traveled, we had to go with Connie’s review of Therapy Revolution:
Books That Made a Difference: Therapy Revolution
Note: This is the first post in my occasional series Books That Made a Difference. I’ve been through, already, collectively, years of therapy. The problem is: I almost never felt like I was getting anywhere. (I still feel I haven’t really come all that far, so I guess that’s fitting.) I say “almost” because, to be fair, there are a few things that one of my therapists in particular did help me see, things she helped me reframe; and I really value the new perspectives that helped me to have.But–for the most part: I would go and talk for the better part of an hour, leave (often feeling drained), go back a week or two later, do the same thing all over again…and soon wonder if–you guessed it–I was getting anywhere. And, sometimes, wonder if I was paying someone to essentially just listen to me. And I’d think, “Well, I have friends for that.”So relatively recently, when I decided that therapy was something I still needed*, I decided to look into how to find a good therapist. (In the past I’d just taken recommendations from friends or whatever and never did much investigating. That’s on me, but–I also didn’t know how.)
I’m happy to report I found that and much more when I discovered the book Therapy Revolution by Richard and C.R. Zwolinski. (Richard seems to be the primary author, so when I use “Zwolinski” or a male pronoun, I’m talking about him.) As you can see, the subtitle is Find Help, Get Better, and Move On Without Wasting Time or Money. With one look at that, I was like: that’s exactly what I need!
Here are some of the ideas from the book that I find the most helpful (all brand new to me).
NOTE TO THERAPY SOUP READERS: We are very grateful to be blessed with such amazing readers. If you would like to be featured on a “We Celebrate A Reader” post, please send your inspiring story to firstname.lastname@example.org. We’re looking for personal stories as unique as each of you are, but one which other readers can relate to or learn something from. If we think your story is right for this space, we’ll contact you to learn more.
& C.R. Zwolinski, R. (2012). We Celebrate A Reader: Connie. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 5, 2016, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/2012/10/we-celebrate-a-reader-connie/