Like most bloggers we take a serious interest in your comments. There’s been a lot of positive feedback, thoughtful criticism, and interesting debates. And very occasionally we’ve found the experience…painful.
Mostly though, a large number of your comments (and emails) have inspired us to explore new topics on Therapy Soup. And for that we are grateful.
Perhaps the most powerful experience for us (and maybe other PsychCentral bloggers) is watching how your comments create connections, communities and sometimes conflicts. Often, a blog post boils down to being a starting point for a conversation between readers.
So, why do you comment online?
In a Yougov.UK Poll last January, people gave a range of reasons:
(You can see the original story, here).
So, about those annoying comments, the ones that really get you down—here are some thoughts, which you might consider:
If you think someone’s comments (or emails, Tweets, etc.) are clueless, hostile, annoying, phony, fake, combative, manipulative, dumb, pointless, even ludicrous; remember that the people who write them might believe what they are writing. Accept that they have a different point of view and don’t engage in correcting them if you know it will get you down. Also, they’ve never met you so each new online relationship has to assume a whole lot, such as your gender, age, location, education, and so on.
Or, you can assume they aren’t for real, they are just spouting off stuff they know is nonsense. (They could also be trolls or spammers, by the way, people just trying to sell something.)
The choice is yours. Don’t let anyone, online or off, ruin your day.
Although we’re all for healthy, lasting relationships, online relationships don’t seem to be very lasting. It may be a good idea to end your relationship with them at the click of a mouse or the installation of a spam blocker if necessary.
Of course, someone who pushes your buttons, may not be button-pushing at all to someone who agrees with them. But, if someone is abusive, attacking, or threatening, just end that connection. Safety first.
You can sound off in our POLL about online comments.
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Last reviewed: 7 Oct 2012