Comments on: Positive Thinking Vs. Victim Identity http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/2010/03/positive-thinking-vs-victim-identity/ Everything you wanted to know about psychotherapy but were afraid to ask. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:10:59 +0000 hourly 1 By: Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/2010/03/positive-thinking-vs-victim-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-95 Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC Thu, 10 Jun 2010 00:58:59 +0000 http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/?p=267#comment-95 Well said, Go West. Thanks. Well said, Go West. Thanks.

]]> By: GoWest http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/2010/03/positive-thinking-vs-victim-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-94 GoWest Wed, 09 Jun 2010 21:55:28 +0000 http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/?p=267#comment-94 The first step toward resolving victimhood is accepting that you were a victim. The second step is learning that you are not defined by what happend to you or what was done to you, but how you grow stronger and wiser in spite of the harm done to you. Was Joseph sold as a slave by his brothers? Yes. Was he a victim? Yes. What did he do about it? He turned the world around and eventually saved his brothers' lives. The first step toward resolving victimhood is accepting that you were a victim. The second step is learning that you are not defined by what happend to you or what was done to you, but how you grow stronger and wiser in spite of the harm done to you. Was Joseph sold as a slave by his brothers? Yes. Was he a victim? Yes. What did he do about it? He turned the world around and eventually saved his brothers’ lives.

]]> By: Marty http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/2010/03/positive-thinking-vs-victim-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-93 Marty Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:22:00 +0000 http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/?p=267#comment-93 I think affirmations might help if someone really believes they are giving them control of their life, even if this is scientifially questionable it is getting them out of the helpless victim mindset, which is (at least) half the battle. The scariest thing I've read about victomhood is that defining oneself as a victim is claiming the right to victimise others (I don't recall the author, someone in conflict resolution). So they're likely to get retaliation for their vitimising, bullying, behavior which is likely to make them feel like victims even more, like quicksand, the more you struggle/fight the worse it gets. I think affirmations might help if someone really believes they are giving them control of their life, even if this is scientifially questionable it is getting them out of the helpless victim mindset, which is (at least) half the battle.

The scariest thing I’ve read about victomhood is that defining oneself as a victim is claiming the right to victimise others (I don’t recall the author, someone in conflict resolution).

So they’re likely to get retaliation for their vitimising, bullying, behavior which is likely to make them feel like victims even more, like quicksand, the more you struggle/fight the worse it gets.

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