God in Therapy

A Spiritual Approach To Dealing With Regrets

*A God in Therapy post

We all have them.

Minor regrets, such as: I wish I had learned how to play the clarinet. I wish I hadn't goofed off quite so much in college. I wish I...

And, major regrets, such as: I wish I didn't do (fill in the blank) because it really hurt someone/myself. I wish I had been a wiser parent, more caring spouse, more respectful child...

There are many schools of thought out there about how to deal with our regrets from the don't-pay-them-any-mind school to the beat-myself-up-black-and-blue school.

There are also a variety of spiritual and religious approaches to regrets, especially regrets about actions taken that we feel have left painful imprints on our souls.
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General

Why Bucket Lists Are Kind Of Depressing

C.R. writes:

A recent Mayo Clinic study on happiness concluded that happiness is a learned trait, something to be cultivated. The Mayo Clinic also reports that most if not all happy people exhibit these five behaviors/traits:
1.Devoting time to family and friends
2.Appreciating what they have
3.Maintaining an optimistic outlook
4.Feeling a sense of purpose
5.Living in the moment
For some people, number 6. is Having a "bucket list."

The concept of a bucket list is based on a movie (I didn't know this until I researched its origins) about two terminally men who create a list of things they want to do before they "kick the bucket".

My Introduction to Bucket Lists

I remember exactly how and when I became familiar with the term. A few years ago a friend of mine told me that she really wanted to visit Morocco. It was, she said, at the top of her "bucket list." I asked her what a bucket list was, and she said a bunch of things people want to do before they die. Her bucket list included mainly adventures in foreign lands and a few glamorous activities (something to do with celebrities, five star hotels, perhaps.)

I found this stunning.
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Communication

Gary Vaynerchuk Says In-Person Meetings Are Essential

C.R. writes: When communications & marketing guru, technology and cultural commentator, rule-breaking investor and entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk has something to say about the value of in-person meetings, we should pay attention.

That's because Gary has mastered the digital life. As an internet marketing and digital-media visionary, he exploits to the fullest the online world. It has made him very successful.

But it's not all business.

Gary Vaynerchuk really has thought deeply about the way relationships
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anxiety

Creating A Basic Relationship-Agreement

Just because we cannot, with our limited human abilities, describe absolute truth doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

One of the primary ways discussion can collapse into heated argument is when both sides cannot agree what truth is or what the past looks like. While both sides are entitled to their own points of view, agreeing that there is a truthful reality that is independent of individual perception is often important when solving differences.

If you are in relationship counseling, it might be helpful in some circumstances to set the past aside and work on outlining concrete guidelines for the future of the relationship.
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Addiction

Therapists: Could A Medical Condition Be The Cause Of Your Client’s Mental Illness?


A well-trained and dedicated medical doctor will consider whether or not there is an emotional component possibly triggering a physical issue, such as stress in the case of fatigue. But often, those in the mental health field, especially psychotherapists, might not evaluate and rule out medical or other issues in the case of a client presenting with a mental illness.

In training sessions with interns and therapists-in-training, I emphasize the importance of doing a comprehensive evaluation before diagnosing—and doing therapy with—a client. I explain that when it comes to a mental health evaluation it is as vital for therapists to determine which factors are contributing to or causing mental illness, whether that mental illness is mild or more severe.

Yet many therapists jump right into talk therapy at the first or second visit; not everyone in private practice examines medical records or asks their clients to get blood-work done.
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