anxiety

If They Don’t Call Or Text You Back, Do They Hate You?

Sometimes it can be hard to put yourself in someone else's shoes and see things from their perspective, especially if it concerns your relationship with them. Here's a thought exercise for those who feel rejected when good friends are too busy to text or call or see them for a short period of time:
Imagine your busiest day ever.
You have to wake up over an hour earlier than normal because you have a big project due at work, which includes making a presentation, something you're not totally experienced at, and you went to bed in the wee hours because you were working on another project.
You don't have time to finish your coffee. (No coffee!)
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Communication

The One Person You Should NEVER Say You’re Sorry To

 C.R. writes:
"Sometimes, on rare occasions, apologizing is the worst thing you can do. It allows a person who is in the wrong to feel superior. It feeds their narcissism."
This doesn't really tally with what I believe—that saying you're sorry, asking for forgiveness, and making peace are literally requirements for mature and moral folks; that even if you're not really in the wrong it's best to swallow your pride and make peace—but something resonated here at a deep level.
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General

23 Ways To Make Life Better

Here are 23 of our favorite ways to make life better:

1. Be prepared for things to not go as planned. Have faith it will all work out in the end if you do the right thing.

2. When possible, have a Plan B, even a Plan C. But remember number 1.

3. Look for the good in others. Make this an active, not passive. process. Try it daily.

4. Look for the good in yourself. Make this an active process. Try it daily.

5. Give other's the benefit of the doubt, but if someone breaks your trust more than twice, be wary.

6. Explore Faith and Belief. Connect to the Creator.

7. Learn from mentors. What is an example of a good mentor? An experienced person who truly" walks the walk", someone who has good relationships with others and is kind and caring. Someone who almost never gets angry. Someone who is honest. Someone who is moral. Someone who behaves when alone as he/she does in front of others. Someone who values each person and is not swayed or lured by money, fame, or power. 
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anxiety

Getting Focused On Life, Feelings, Hopes: A Therapy Tool

In recent comments, Lorr, a reader asked to see an example of a personal perspective paper, a therapy tool that can benefit clients who struggle with articulating their experience.

Lorr asks:

I think the PPP is a great idea, I read about it in your book. Do you have a format or samples? I’m not sure how to get started.

How is the PPP different from a biography?

A biography, or autobiography, can tell the events in a person's life, without the inner experience. A PPP is more focused on what these events felt like and how they impacted the person's emotions and his own insights into his challenges.
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anxiety

TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation) For Depression

In 2011 we interviewed John Elder-Robison, author of two bestselling books about being on the autism spectrum, Look Me In The Eye and Be Different. On his blog, John describes his experience with TMS, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation, and the dramatic changes which occurred with this treatment.

In the past few years, the use of TMS has exploded, and
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