The Parent-Child Dance: Understanding (And Improving) Your Child’s Problem Behavior

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

!cid_3B50DC3C-AD0F-47E6-A10D-A53A3ABE4989@hsd1_mi_comcast_netI’m really excited to tell you about The Parent-Child Dance: A Guide to Help You Understand and Shape Your Child’s Behavior, because I know that the author is making a difference in the lives of so many parents and kids. The Parent-Child Dance is written by award-winning pediatric behavioral specialist, Miriam Manela, OTR/L, with the help of me, C.R. Zwolinski from Therapy Soup.

For over a decade, Miriam Manela has been working with children and parents, educators, and therapists, addressing behavioral, emotional, social, learning, physical and other challenges.  During her workshops for professionals, students and educators, Miriam helps the participants understand how to help children regulate themselves and become better able to manage their emotions, connect with others, and learn. She also works closely with pediatric professionals in a variety of professions including mental health therapy professionals, nutritionists, and others.

Richard and I asked Miriam to explain why she wrote The Parent-Child Dance.

Welcome to PsychCentral and Therapy Soup, Miriam. Why did you decide to write the Parent-Child Dance?


I had a client, one of many who had impulsive behavior, a boy I’ll call Terry. Terry would take his brothers’ and sisters’ homework, and crumple it up and rip it, he’d hurt a child on the playground, or he’d a chew his collars and sleeves and rip holes in his clothes. But though he had a hard time controlling his impulses. Terry always regretted his actions later.

He also had a hard time sitting still, especially in the classroom. Both his mom and dad were at their wits’ end. It felt to Terry’s father that he was talking to a wall.

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7 Strategies To Deal With The Winter Blues NOW, Before Winter Begins

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Dirt Road with Maple Trees in Winter SunriseFor those of us living in the Northern Hemisphere, the days are getting shorter and darker. Snow flakes, fireplaces, and cozy sweaters will be making their appearances in the near future.

For some, it’s a time of growing darkness and despair.

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Girl Declared “Brain-Dead”, Jahi McMath, Is Alive And Responsive

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

1152277_90340870Sam Schmid‘s is a college student who returned from a “brain-dead” coma.

Cases including that of Steven Thorpe, a teen who “came back” after being declared brain dead by four medical experts, as well as Terri Schiavo and Karen Quinlan who were both pulled off life support (and in Terri Schiavo’s situation, that life support consisted of nutritional support) are hotly debated.

Now, five neurologists have declared that young Jahi McMath, who went into a coma during a tonsillectomy, is

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Could A Walking Meditation In The Park Be The Way To Deal With Too Many Problems?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

815331_33283550Ebola spreading.

Nukes increasing.

Isis lasting.

Families losing.

Couples splitting.

Children risking.

Depression targeting.






Walking meditation, especially done in a natural setting, whether a city park or a wilderness trail, has the ability to help us gain new insights into problems both personal and global, as well as insights into ourselves.

There are various techniques that can get you started. Here are two:

Numbers Walk

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Great Blogs You’ve (Probably) Missed On Emotions, Mental Health, Abuse, Relationships & More

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski



Photo by S. Spivak

Photo by S. Spivak

The is a blog for people who are thinking about making personal changes. It shares insights from people who’ve made changes in their lives, people with depression, anxiety, and addiciton and others who just want a life of personal growth. Posts such as 6 Lies Your Depression Wants You To Believe, speak directly to mental health issues, but others on self-awareness, motivation, finances and more are interesting reads.

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3 Minutes, 27 Seconds: Can We Auto-correct Humanity?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Absolutely amazing, and worth three minutes and 27 seconds of your time. Rapper Prince Ea’s viral video about living life plugged-in, and what it’s doing to us.

The 5-Step Forgiveness Formula To Help You Heal Your Relationships

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

1152277_90340870This coming Friday night through Saturday night we’ll be concentrating on healing relationships. It is the most important fast day in the Jewish tradition, Yom Kippur, translated as the Day of Atonement.

How do you achieve at-one-ment, a sense of being at one with self, God, and other?

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I Was Wrong About Online Therapy (With A Caveat Or Two)

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

1260785_84481055Some years ago I was interviewed by a popular science magazine about what I thought of online therapy. At that point, online therapy wasn’t exactly new, but it wasn’t spreading like wildfire either.

I said that therapy in person could be supplemented by online therapy, but that a therapist can learn a lot about a patient by meeting in person. Body language, dress, and other factors were essential.

At the time I strongly believed that online therapy was a great solution for people who were isolated, whether because of location, disability, or other confounding factors, and couldn’t make it to their therapist’s office.

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Three Universal Questions To Ask Ourselves During Rosh Hashana

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Earth_Eastern_HemisphereThis Wednesday night through Friday, Jewish people the world over will observe the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashana, literally translated as the Head of the Year.

The Jewish New Year is quite different from other New Years—though there are festive meals rich with tradition, Rosh Hashana is primarily spent in lengthy prayer, meditation, and self-reflection.

Many people take upon themselves a day or two of limiting or even refraining from trivial conversation, in order to better connect with the spiritual potential inherent in these days.

But whether we limit chatter or not, self-reflection is something every New Year observer is encouraged to engage in. But, self-reflection can feel static unless it involves the process of questioning and answering.

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Good Vibrations: Relaxing Music & Sound Therapy In Addiction Treatment

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

122910_8053Dr. Harry Henshaw discusses the powerful relaxation effects of music and sound therapy:

Less Anxiety, Better Decisions

When those in recovery from addiction learn how to reduce stress and manage anxiety, their ability to make better decisions increases.

Being able to make better decisions helps addicts in recovery stay in therapy that’s working. It also helps them put in place the support systems they need to help them prevent relapse. A range of relaxation techniques is an important part of addiction treatment.

For several years, I’ve been using an extremely effective method of helping clients reduce anxiety—music and sound therapy.

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