12-Steps For 15 Maladies

In the original 1938 Alcoholics Anonymous book*, 15 emotional/spiritual symptoms (referred to as maladies) of addiction are listed: being restless, irritable, and discontented having trouble with personal relationships not being able to control our emotional natures being prey to (or suffering from) misery and depression not being able to make a living (or a happy and successful life) having feelings of uselessness being full of fear unhappiness inability to be of real help to other people being like "the actor who wants to run the whole show" being "driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity" self-will run riot leading a double life living like a tornado running through the lives of others exhibiting selfish and inconsiderate habits These maladies are all rooted in
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Top 10 Fears Of Americans – Video

What are you afraid of? See Americans' Top Ten Fears of 2016 according to Chapman University. Top 10 Fears of 2016 (From Chapman University)

Below is a list of the 10 fears for which the highest percentage of Americans reported being “Afraid,” or “Very Afraid.” (Chart from Chapman University website.) Fear
Fear Domain
% Afraid or Very Afraid
Corrupt government officials
Government Terrorist Attack
Manmade Disasters

Not having enough money for the future
Economic Terrorism
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Media Triggers

C.R. writes: Yes, it once again feels to me like a very good time for a news fast. As fascinating as the post-election transition might be, I personally believe that the ever-provocative, ratings-driven idealogues in the media aren't particularly worth watching, reading and listening to—especially if their yapping is causing you stress, or leading to feelings of anxiety or depression.
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How To Choose A Therapist You Actually Like

Look for a therapist with the right balance of professionalism and personality if you want therapy to succeed. Although ideally you will find a therapist with excellent credentials, appropriate training, and relevant experience, as well as a very high percentage of successful outcomes, if you dislike your therapist or don’t trust them—therapy will not be successful. A therapist should have a fairly good balance of professional attributes and personality. Concerning personality, you want to put at least some trust in your gut feelings. If you would like a more concrete way to assess personality, the following information may help. Likability is important if you want to be able to form the kind of connection you need for successful therapy. There is no shame in rejecting a qualified therapist because you don't "click."
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Unbiased Tools To Really Help You Vote

It's the elephant in the room. No matter what the topic of discussion, we all agree that life in America will be very different after the upcoming election. Even therapists are finding the topic is coming up in therapy; clients are concerned about the effect the election results will have on their lives. Are you still undecided? Or do you have nagging doubts about who you've decided to vote for? Voters and the media can agree on one thing: Both presidential candidates from the major parties are flawed (and the two other candidates, no matter how much you like them, are probably spoilers.)
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Does Your Therapist Have Successful Outcomes?

When searching for and interviewing a prospective therapist, ask him to tell you about his rate of successful outcomes. A therapist should be able to tell you what percentage (approximately/in the ball park), of his patients with problems similar to yours (for example, clinical depression, borderline personality disorder, addiction, and so on), have achieved successful outcomes with his help. If you don't have a diagnosis, it still may be helpful to hear from the therapist how his patients have improved.
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