The Silent Treatment And What You Can Do To Stop It Cold

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

590329_58780489One of the more frustrating passive-aggressive tactics to those on the receiving end is “the silent treatment”.

The silent treatment is an abusive method of control, punishment, avoidance, or disempowerment (sometimes these four types overlap, sometimes not) that is a favorite tactic of narcissists, and especially those who have a hard time with impulse control, that is, those with more infantile tendencies.

The silent treatment can be used as an abusive tactic that is the adult narcissist’s version of a child’s  “holding my breath until you give in and give me what I want.”

It is one of the most frustrating tactics

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Take The Happiness Test + 13 Curious Articles About Happiness

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

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Take the Happiness Quiz

(How did you do?)

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How To Cope With Second-Hand Stress If You Are A Sensitive Empath

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

831837_79977773Is stress contagious?

You know, those symptoms of stress, such as clenched jaw, highly-pitched voice, furrowed brow, anger, anxiety, and so on.

For some people, other people’s stressed-out emotions and moods are simply that: Other People’s Stress. OPS. Not theirs.

For others, OPS is absorbed like water to a sponge. And you DON’T have to be co-dependent to be the sponge. You may simply be sensitive.

I’m a strong believer that not every imperfect personality trait requires a diagnosis or a pathology category, and that no one, therapist or not, can truly define the best combination of personality traits. This is highly individual. Most traits have flip sides, and sensitivity—responding to other people’s feelings and concerns with empathy—is no exception.

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Breathing Right Can Change Your Mental State

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Take a deep breath. Breathing correctly is important for your mental and physical well-being. Breathing can actually change your mental states. In this short video, part one of a breathing series, Miriam Manela, occupational therapist, talks about the importance of breathing.



Three Ways To Handle Mild But Upsetting Racing Thoughts

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

725521_70463323*Robin, a psychology graduate student, called up her therapist and left her fourth message of the day. She knew that Jen, her therapist was on vacation and unreachable for at least twenty-four more hours, but she didn’t want to call the back-up therapist.

She wasn’t having a full-fledged panic attack as she had in the past. At least not exactly. But she was experiencing racing thoughts: repetitive negative thoughts that she felt were beyond her ability to control.

These were strong enough to distract and upset her, but mild enough so that she was aware of her surrounding environment, was not hallucinating, and felt mildly, but not totally, out of control.

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The Parent-Child Dance: Understanding (And Improving) Your Child’s Problem Behavior

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

!cid_3B50DC3C-AD0F-47E6-A10D-A53A3ABE4989@hsd1_mi_comcast_netI’m really excited to tell you about The Parent-Child Dance: A Guide to Help You Understand and Shape Your Child’s Behavior, because I know that the author is making a difference in the lives of so many parents and kids. The Parent-Child Dance is written by award-winning pediatric behavioral specialist, Miriam Manela, OTR/L, with the help of me, C.R. Zwolinski from Therapy Soup.

For over a decade, Miriam Manela has been working with children and parents, educators, and therapists, addressing behavioral, emotional, social, learning, physical and other challenges.  During her workshops for professionals, students and educators, Miriam helps the participants understand how to help children regulate themselves and become better able to manage their emotions, connect with others, and learn. She also works closely with pediatric professionals in a variety of professions including mental health therapy professionals, nutritionists, and others.

Richard and I asked Miriam to explain why she wrote The Parent-Child Dance.

Welcome to PsychCentral and Therapy Soup, Miriam. Why did you decide to write the Parent-Child Dance?

Thanks!

I had a client, one of many who had impulsive behavior, a boy I’ll call Terry. Terry would take his brothers’ and sisters’ homework, and crumple it up and rip it, he’d hurt a child on the playground, or he’d a chew his collars and sleeves and rip holes in his clothes. But though he had a hard time controlling his impulses. Terry always regretted his actions later.

He also had a hard time sitting still, especially in the classroom. Both his mom and dad were at their wits’ end. It felt to Terry’s father that he was talking to a wall.

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7 Strategies To Deal With The Winter Blues NOW, Before Winter Begins

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Dirt Road with Maple Trees in Winter SunriseFor those of us living in the Northern Hemisphere, the days are getting shorter and darker. Snow flakes, fireplaces, and cozy sweaters will be making their appearances in the near future.

For some, it’s a time of growing darkness and despair.

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Girl Declared “Brain-Dead”, Jahi McMath, Is Alive And Responsive

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

1152277_90340870Sam Schmid‘s is a college student who returned from a “brain-dead” coma.

Cases including that of Steven Thorpe, a teen who “came back” after being declared brain dead by four medical experts, as well as Terri Schiavo and Karen Quinlan who were both pulled off life support (and in Terri Schiavo’s situation, that life support consisted of nutritional support) are hotly debated.

Now, five neurologists have declared that young Jahi McMath, who went into a coma during a tonsillectomy, is

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Could A Walking Meditation In The Park Be The Way To Deal With Too Many Problems?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

815331_33283550Ebola spreading.

Nukes increasing.

Isis lasting.

Families losing.

Couples splitting.

Children risking.

Depression targeting.

Self-hating.

Self-questioning.

Self.

Self.

Self.

Walking meditation, especially done in a natural setting, whether a city park or a wilderness trail, has the ability to help us gain new insights into problems both personal and global, as well as insights into ourselves.

There are various techniques that can get you started. Here are two:

Numbers Walk

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Great Blogs You’ve (Probably) Missed On Emotions, Mental Health, Abuse, Relationships & More

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

 

 

Photo by S. Spivak

Photo by S. Spivak

The Changeblog.com is a blog for people who are thinking about making personal changes. It shares insights from people who’ve made changes in their lives, people with depression, anxiety, and addiciton and others who just want a life of personal growth. Posts such as 6 Lies Your Depression Wants You To Believe, speak directly to mental health issues, but others on self-awareness, motivation, finances and more are interesting reads.

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