How To Divorce A Narcissist (Dr. Karyl McBride)

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

will-i-ever-be-free-of-you-9781476755694_lgC.R. writes:

In Will I Ever Be Free Of You, Karyl McBride, PhD, author of the national bestseller Will I Ever Be Good Enough, has created the compact but thorough guide to successfully handling and surviving a divorce—if you’re married to a narcissist.

Those whose lives have been helped with Karyl McBride’s previous book will not be surprised that her latest is packed with useful advice.

One of my favorite things about her first book was her proactive, goal-oriented approach, and Will I Ever Be Free Of You does not disappoint.

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What Can You Do If You Dislike Being Touched?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

1152277_90340870Touch enriches our lives.

A  caress from a loved one.

The feeling of a worn cotton tee shirt.

A tickly kiss from a child.

The spring of dough being kneaded.

The soft petal of a rose.

But some people have aversions to one or more types of normally enjoyed or tolerated touch. If you find your aversion to touch interferes with your personal life, relationships, happiness, it’s not too late to seek answers.

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Can You Hear Your Body’s Song Of Emotion?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski


Do you listen to your body?

Do you understand what its messages?

Miriam Manela of Thrive OT suggests we listen without judgment, without shaming or blaming.

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Is Therapy The Right Choice For You?

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

725521_70463323Wondering if therapy is right for you? Here are some of the possible reasons to consider seeing a skilled and compassionate therapist.

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7 Signs Your Boss Or Coworker May Be A Narcissist

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

1431598_76841211Are you the type that plays by the rules?

Gives everyone you work with the benefit of the doubt?

Gives everyone a chance or two or three?

Is supportive of your co-workers?

Always lends a hand?

Whether you’re a recent graduate or have been working for awhile, you may be one of the many that’s finding out that not everyone is like you. And, even more frustrating, that a handful of people you encounter during your workweek may even be the complete opposite of your straight-forward style.

Seven Confounding, Confusing, & Downright Hair-Pulling Signs You May Be Working For (or With) A Narcissist

1. They flatter you (or others), often in an over-the-top way.

Narcissists like to be admired and they they are often perfectly content with over-the-top flattery. Depending on the level of narcissism, if it’s about them and it’s sounds good, they don’t need to look to deeply. They also think others are equally happy with, and more importantly, can be manipulated by, ersatz praise.

Rest assured that the praise they deal out is not usually genuine.

Except sometimes it could be genuine. Then, watch out—the narcissist cannot tolerate anyone stealing his limelight. Except if they get to bask in your limelight as they claw their way to the top.

(Confounded yet?)

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Breathing Right Video 2, The Core-Breathing Boost

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Miriam Manela, co-author (with me, C.R.) of The Parent-Child Dance: A Guide to Help You Understand and Shape Your Child’s Behavior, talks about how to boost your or your child’s core breathing

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Vegans, Vitamin B12 & Depression, Top 10 Controversial Posts

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

SONY DSCC.R. writes: As someone who used to be vegetarian and even vegan for many years in my past, I remember being leery of people telling me my diet might be lacking certain nutrients. I’d point to studies which showed how healthy a balanced and well-thought out vegetarian diet was.

Was my diet balanced and well-thought out? Only occasionally.

This week we got a comment on a post (Could Vitamin B12 Help Your Anxiety, Depression?) that reminded me of this whole discussion. And just last week I got a call from a strictly-vegan friend of mine who was diagnosed with Seasonal Affective Disorder a couple of years ago, and depression last year.

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The Silent Treatment And What You Can Do To Stop It Cold

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

590329_58780489One of the more frustrating passive-aggressive tactics to those on the receiving end is “the silent treatment”.

The silent treatment is an abusive method of control, punishment, avoidance, or disempowerment (sometimes these four types overlap, sometimes not) that is a favorite tactic of narcissists, and especially those who have a hard time with impulse control, that is, those with more infantile tendencies.

The silent treatment can be used as an abusive tactic that is the adult narcissist’s version of a child’s  “holding my breath until you give in and give me what I want.”

It is one of the most frustrating tactics

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Take The Happiness Test + 13 Curious Articles About Happiness

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski


Take the Happiness Quiz

(How did you do?)

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How To Cope With Second-Hand Stress If You Are A Sensitive Empath

By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

831837_79977773Is stress contagious?

You know, those symptoms of stress, such as clenched jaw, highly-pitched voice, furrowed brow, anger, anxiety, and so on.

For some people, other people’s stressed-out emotions and moods are simply that: Other People’s Stress. OPS. Not theirs.

For others, OPS is absorbed like water to a sponge. And you DON’T have to be co-dependent to be the sponge. You may simply be sensitive.

I’m a strong believer that not every imperfect personality trait requires a diagnosis or a pathology category, and that no one, therapist or not, can truly define the best combination of personality traits. This is highly individual. Most traits have flip sides, and sensitivity—responding to other people’s feelings and concerns with empathy—is no exception.

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