I happened to spy this leaf on the path the other day.  I was on my way to somewhere else and had my mind on other things, and could easily have walked right past it. Yet there it was.


And now found.

(And in the shape of a heart because of all those things, not despite them).

On Valentine’s Day, it’s usually the big, shiny, idealized loves that get the spotlight. But that’s just one variety of many. There are all sorts. All worthy of beholding and remembering and appreciating.

Even the ones that feel torn.

Even the ones that feel broken.

Even the ones that are shaped or constrained by loss or death.

For maybe it’s simply the fact that we can love that could be celebrated on Valentine’s Day.

For even if you’ve been hurt or feel a bit broken yourself, maybe just when you’re not particularly looking (like finding this leaf in the picture), you might just stumble upon some love that’s already around you. Maybe it’s not the big shiny bubblegum romantic ideal just yet. But maybe it’s enough. For this moment. A moment of seeing the love that’s here, in whatever guise it takes – from friends or family or even yourself. Even when your heart’s been broken. (Perhaps especially then).

Lost and found love. Maybe that’s something worth celebrating today…



Text and photos copyright: Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar
Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar (Grad Dip Counselling & Psychotherapy) is a writer, blogger and Sydney psychotherapist in private practice at One Life Counselling & Psychotherapy. Gabrielle also facilitates telephone support groups for people who are living with cancer, for their carers, and for people who have been bereaved through a cancer experience. She was the former editor of a journal on counselling and psychotherapy and she provides regular therapeutic updates on facebook and Twitter @OneLifeTherapy.





View Comments / Leave a Comment

This post currently has 2 comments.
You can read the comments or leave your own thoughts.


No trackbacks yet to this post.

    Last reviewed: 13 Feb 2012

APA Reference
Gawne-Kelnar, G. (2012). Lost And Found Love On Valentine’s Day. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 5, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapist-within/2012/02/lost-and-found-love-on-valentines-day-therapy-self-help/


Therapist Within

Subscribe to this Blog:


Subscribe to this Blog:



Subscribe to this Blog: Feed

Recent Comments
  • mellidin staboul: thank you for your copied verses appeared at the right moment for me and issued more than numerous...
  • addie: I have been feeling really lonely recently, and I am wondering if I have become the black sheep of my family....
  • Jenn: As a twin, I can relate to this. Right from birth, if the mother cannot cope, the weaker or more traumatic of...
  • Sweet Violet: Hurrah, Luann! In reading the article and the comments above yours, I was pretty much thinking what you...
  • Matthew (@Matthew_T_Rader): Hello, I noticed that you are using a photo of mine on this post: The photo of the Broken...
Find a Therapist
Enter ZIP or postal code

Users Online: 12240
Join Us Now!