Yep, it’s that time of year already – again. Welcome to the season that packs so much into itself:

  • The “silly season”
  • The season of goodwill
  • Of giving and receiving
  • Of remembering or maybe even trying to forget
  • Of balancing extra pressure and expectations
  • Of anniversaries and reflections; joy and pain.

It’s a complicated time of year…

So as you prepare yourself for whatever shades of the seasonal spectrum that you will face this time, maybe it’s work asking:

What will you give yourself this year?

(And you know I’m not talking about the material stuff here).

Or perhaps it’s easier to think about what you might like to receive from yourself?

Maybe you’d like to give yourself a break – and just recognise and respect your human-ness and stop pushing yourself to the edge or expecting super-human feats all the time.

Maybe you could give yourself more time – just to relax or to daydream or to unfurl gently into. Sometimes the seemingly inconsequential moments between the “real” things on your schedule are the places you end up doing the most living in anyway…

Maybe you’d like a gift of support – permission to finally pursue that passion or whimsy that feels like it “doesn’t make sense,” but that keeps whispering at you to take it seriously. To take you seriously.

What else might you consider on your internal wish-list? Which other metaphysical or metaphorical gifts might make all the difference? To the moment? To the season? To your life?

It’s said that giving and receiving are actually the same thing, just wrapped up a little differently.

So if you were to give a little more to yourself – and actually allow yourself to receive that – would it impact how you might feel about giving to others?

If you grant yourself more of what sustains you, more of what enlivens you, would that make it easier to share yourself with others? To share the wealth that you and your uniqueness bring to this place… and to this season.


Text copyright: Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar
Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar (Grad Dip Counselling & Psychotherapy) is a writer, blogger and Sydney psychotherapist in private practice at One Life Counselling & Psychotherapy. Gabrielle also facilitates telephone support groups for people who are living with cancer, for their carers, and for people who have been bereaved through a cancer experience. She was the former editor of a journal on counselling and psychotherapy and she provides regular therapeutic updates on facebook and Twitter @OneLifeTherapy.



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    Last reviewed: 4 Dec 2011

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Gawne-Kelnar, G. (2011). The Season Of Giving (Yourself A Break). Psych Central. Retrieved on March 28, 2015, from


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