So much is unknown about this mystery we like to call “life.”

We have our theories and ideas about it, our values and beliefs that may help guide us through it, but watertight certainty about any of it is hard to find.

Except for one thing:

This is probably the only time your life will be lived.

Just think about that for a moment…

This is the only time when your unique talents and abilities and yearnings and experiences and even your pain can mix together in quite this way. It’s more than just the chance of a lifetime…

So it’s also probably the only time your dreams have a chance to be lived out in quite the way that you – and only you – could live them. So will you let them live?

Or will you let the everyday obligations and sensible “safety” take over? Will you let your dreams or hopes or aspirations get lost amongst the letters that spell out a life much blander? (A bit like in the photo, above).

It’s important to think about.

For you’re the custodian of your dreams.

You get to decide if they even have a chance. And no matter how fanciful or frivolous or straight out mad they may seem to others – or even to the more buttoned-down parts of yourself – they’re still real. They’re still there. For now…

They can still make your heart beat faster (if you let them). They can still infuse your day with passion and purpose (if you let them). They can still rescue you from a life that’s been proscribed by someone else’s “norms;” someone else’s “sensible.” And paint your world in vivid colours where once was beige…

All they need is a chance to live. While you still do.

So will you let them?



Text and photo copyright: Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar
Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar (Grad Dip Counselling & Psychotherapy) is a writer, blogger and Sydney psychotherapist in private practice at One Life Counselling & Psychotherapy. Gabrielle also facilitates telephone support groups for people who are living with cancer, for their carers, and for people who have been bereaved through a cancer experience. She was the former editor of a journal on counselling and psychotherapy and she provides regular therapeutic updates on facebook and Twitter @OneLifeTherapy.



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    Last reviewed: 11 Dec 2011

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Gawne-Kelnar, G. (2011). Letting Your Dreams Live A Life Of Their Own. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 28, 2015, from


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