For some, turning thirty marks the first birthday event that seems vaguely unsettling. Thirty just sounds so different than 20 or even 29. Pressures to get married already bear down on those who are single, and the “when’s the baby coming?” questions start popping up in the conversations with people who are married but have no kids.

Thirty can also be a time when your body no longer seems to function as seamlessly as it once did (if it once did). That can be a rude shock, too.

A challenge far less frequently recognized is that after 30 (or thereabouts), it can also become more difficult to make friends. In your teens and twenties, if you are friendship-fortunate, like-minded people open to friendship are all around you. Not so later on.

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What’s Really Difficult about Turning 30: It’s Harder to Make Friends

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  1. Hmm… now I see why all these relationships aren’t working. The repeated, unplanned interactions are missing. I moved to another country, and often make plans to see people on the weekend, but I don’t really feel like any of the people I meet are turning out to be close friends. I live in a small town, and tend to travel to the big city to meet people. Proximity is lacking, and all of the interactions are pre-planned. Although I can chat with people at a coffee shop, it isn’t really the same as sitting around my parent’s house at midnight sharing secrets, like I did with my close friends in America.

  2. College is the best imaginable time and place. All of the ingredients are there…wish it could last forever!

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