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Answers to All Your Questions about Single People and Single Life

I have been writing about single people and single life for many years. During that time, I have probably written on just about every relevant topic (except dating and other attempts to become unsingle). I put together collections of links to articles about more than 30 different topics. You can find all of them here, or you can go directly to the particular topics that interest you by clicking the relevant links below.
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Why Unmarried Status Is a Diversity Issue

[This is the second part of a 2-part article making the case that unmarried status is a diversity issue. The first part, "Is your workplace fair to people who are not married?," included the sections I The Script that Remains Powerful, Even as Fewer People Actually Follow It, and II An Example of a Workplace that Prides Itself on Valuing Diversity, But Offered Only Dismissiveness toward Unmarried Employees.]

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Is Your Workplace Fair to People Who Are Not Married?

When you think about diversity, you probably don't think about people who are not married. Unmarried status, though, is a diversity issue. In this first of a two-part article, based on my latest column at Unmarried Equality, I present the issue and introduce an example of an employee who tried, unsuccessfully, to make the case for the importance of valuing single people in his organization. In the second part, I will explain why unmarried status is a diversity issue, and what taking that seriously would involve.

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Is There Anything Good about Loneliness?

Loneliness has a prominent place in the news these days. As the number of people who live alone continues to grow, as does the number of seniors, concern swells. Studies suggesting all sorts of dire correlates of loneliness increase the worry to a state of near panic.

Neither living alone nor growing old means that you will end up lonely. Loneliness is different from living alone or spending time alone. Many people, including most who are single at heart, savor their solitude. Loneliness is not about savoring, it is about pain. It is the distress we feel when our social relationships are not what we want them to be. People can feel deeply lonely when they are in a marriage and when they are in a crowd.

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Single by Choice and Single at Heart: Is There a Difference?

The name of this blog, "Single at Heart," refers to a set of single people who, culturally, are almost entirely invisible. They are the single people for whom living single is how they live their best, most authentic, most meaningful lives.

You may have heard people say that being single is better than being in a bad marriage. Well, for people who are single at heart, being single is better than being in a good marriage.

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Why Study Single People?

For nearly two decades, I have been researching and writing about people who are single. It is a real passion for me. Yet some people – including some single people – recoil at the thought. Why should single people be examined as if they are some bug under a microscope, or some exotic species separate from other humans?

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20 Years of Psych Central: Caring Is Our Foundation

"We're driven by the daily reminder that through our efforts, we may be able to save lives."
–John Grohol, Fonder and CEO of Psych Central
[Bella's intro: I have been a blogger at Psych Central since 2011, and it has been a wonderful experience. This year, 2015, marked the 20th anniversary of Psych Central. I invited John Grohol, the Founder and CEO of the site, to tell me more about Psych Central and its 20-year history. I am so delighted that he agreed to do so. I thought I already knew a lot about the site, but from his answers, I learned so much more. John, you are a true inspiration! Many thanks for all that you do.]
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Your Perfect Life: What Would It Look Like?

We all know that no one's life can ever be perfect, but it can't hurt to dream. And what better time than now, with the New Year approaching. Reassessing and re-envisioning your life can happen any time at all, but there is something about starting a fresh new year that seems to welcome that reflection even more.

There are so many potential components of an ideal life that you might like to consider. Here are a few.

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