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Let’s Talk about Brain Health and Brain Illness Instead of Mental Health and Mental Illness

Getting mental illnesses taken as seriously as physical ones has been a long-lasting struggle. Medical insurance hasn't always covered mental health treatments the way it routinely covers treatments for physical problems. And too often, uninformed laypersons assume that seriously depressed people, for example, should be able to just snap out of it. In part because of the assumption that mental health is under our conscious control in a way that physical health is not, people suffering from mental health problems are more likely to be stigmatized. And that stigma, in turn, can stand in the way of seeking the help that is needed.
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Love & Affection

What Does Happiness Mean to You?

More and more over the past decades, social scientists have been studying happiness. You've probably seen headlines declaring the happiest countries, or the science-based paths to a happier life. Some of the studies are based on huge numbers of participants. It is possible to do surveys of that many people when you ask simple questions that are easy to code. Often, happiness is measured by people's answer to just one question. They indicate how happy they feel (or how satisfied they are with their life) on a rating scale by choosing one of the numbers. For example, the scale might range from 1 to 9, with 1 indicating the least happiness and 9, the most. But what if happiness means different things to different people?
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How we live now

Committing to Single Life: Is There a Time When You Just Know?

All sorts of life transitions are marked by rituals that memorialize a particular day, or a particular event, as significant. Graduations. Birthday parties. Retirement celebrations. The wedding ritual, marking the day of the official transition into married life. More and more often, there are also divorce events, putting a stamp – sometimes a celebratory one – on the end of a marriage. But what about people who are single and decide to continue on that course? People who perhaps are single at heart – who believe that they lead their best, most authentic, and most meaningful lives by living single. Others, too, whose commitment to single life may not be an unqualified embrace, but who have weighed the options in their life and decided, single it is. Is there a time when they just know that they want to live single?
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Understanding Marital Status Discrimination: From a Congressional Candidate

When constituents write to their political leaders and candidates, what they get back in just about every instance is a form letter. That's not entirely a bad thing, I don't think; if they have a form letter in their back pocket, at least they've thought about the issue and developed a position on it. Every once in a while, though, something amazing happens: a person in politics writes a personal, thoughtful, and informed response – and, cares about the cause you wrote about. That just happened on one of the issues most important to me – marital status discrimination. (The ways in which single people are treated less fairly just because they are single, marital status discrimination, is part of a broader concept I call singlism, the stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single.)
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