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Love & Affection

At Vassar Event, Only Married People Are Allowed to Bring a Guest

It came in a beautiful envelope, with an elegant smaller envelope for my reply – almost like a wedding invitation. The organizers of this event for my alma mater, Vassar College, must have had marriage on their minds. The invitation was to an event called “Reflections on an Election Year.” The reply card included the note, “Due to our limited capacity, we ask that you limit your one guest to a spouse, partner, or Vassar alumna/us.”
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Love & Affection

Even the Intellectual Vanguard Practices Casual Singlism and Matrimania

Singlism (the stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single) is different from other more familiar isms such as racism, heterosexism, and sexism. For example, other isms are sometimes linked to violence. On the other hand, because singlism is rarely part of our cultural conversations, people practice it without awareness or apology. What is especially disheartening is that it is practiced unselfconsciously by some of the intellectual vanguard of our times, the cutting edge thinkers and writers.
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Love & Affection

The Dark Side of the Focus on Families: A View from Australia

[Bella’s intro: As an American, I’m used to hearing lots of family talk, especially from political candidates. One after another, they promise to help families. But when their focus is so much on families, what does that mean for people who are single and living alone? I learned recently from Louise Harper that there is similar family talk in Australia. She, too, wonders about the dark side and sent a letter to an Australian newspaper about that. I asked if I could publish it here and she said yes. Thank-you, Louise Harper, for sharing these important observations with us.]
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General

A Contrarian’s View of Dying Alone: Guest Post by ‘Think Again’

[Bella’s intro: There are so many things wrong with the scare story served up to single people about how they will die alone. But that particular threat seems to have some real staying power, so it needs to be challenged over and over again. Someone I have long admired wrote a particularly insightful challenge and gave me permission to share it with you here. She does not want me to use her name, so I’m going to refer to her as ‘Think Again.” Today marks the beginning of Unmarried and Single Americans Week, and this thoughtful essay is a great way to get it started.]
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20 Reasons to Celebrate Unmarried and Single Americans Week

The third full week of September, September 18-24, is National Singles Week (more formally known as Unmarried and Single Americans Week). In some ways, this has been a good year for insightful and enlightening stories about single people. In fact, just yesterday (September 17, 2016), Fusion published “Meet the people who want to be single forever.” Earlier, New York magazine gave us “The new science of single people” and a story in the Huffington Post, “Research says single people – wait for it – live rich, meaningful lives,” was shared on Facebook more than 50,000 times. Over at the TED blog, readers learned about “The price of being single.”
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