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Love & Affection

What Does Happiness Mean to You?

More and more over the past decades, social scientists have been studying happiness. You've probably seen headlines declaring the happiest countries, or the science-based paths to a happier life. Some of the studies are based on huge numbers of participants. It is possible to do surveys of that many people when you ask simple questions that are easy to code. Often, happiness is measured by people's answer to just one question. They indicate how happy they feel (or how satisfied they are with their life) on a rating scale by choosing one of the numbers. For example, the scale might range from 1 to 9, with 1 indicating the least happiness and 9, the most. But what if happiness means different things to different people?
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How we live now

Committing to Single Life: Is There a Time When You Just Know?

All sorts of life transitions are marked by rituals that memorialize a particular day, or a particular event, as significant. Graduations. Birthday parties. Retirement celebrations. The wedding ritual, marking the day of the official transition into married life. More and more often, there are also divorce events, putting a stamp – sometimes a celebratory one – on the end of a marriage. But what about people who are single and decide to continue on that course? People who perhaps are single at heart – who believe that they lead their best, most authentic, and most meaningful lives by living single. Others, too, whose commitment to single life may not be an unqualified embrace, but who have weighed the options in their life and decided, single it is. Is there a time when they just know that they want to live single?
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General

Understanding Marital Status Discrimination: From a Congressional Candidate

When constituents write to their political leaders and candidates, what they get back in just about every instance is a form letter. That's not entirely a bad thing, I don't think; if they have a form letter in their back pocket, at least they've thought about the issue and developed a position on it. Every once in a while, though, something amazing happens: a person in politics writes a personal, thoughtful, and informed response – and, cares about the cause you wrote about. That just happened on one of the issues most important to me – marital status discrimination. (The ways in which single people are treated less fairly just because they are single, marital status discrimination, is part of a broader concept I call singlism, the stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single.)
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College Love Stories, Reimagined

I went to Vassar College because a friend of my father's, knowing that I had good grades, told him I should apply there. At the time, I had never heard of it. Neither had my dad. I grew up in the tiny town of Dunmore, Pennsylvania, outside of Scranton. Once I realized that Vassar was an elite school, I was a bit embarrassed to have tried for admission. About a month after I applied, my high school guidance counselor asked if I had heard anything back yet. I said I hadn't, and didn't really expect any good news. To which she replied, "Oh, honey, you shouldn't feel that way. In 1933, a girl from this school applied to Smith, and she got in."
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General

21 Ways Single People Are Taxed More Than Married People on Tax Day and Every Other Day

Americans become especially attuned to fairness in taxation when April 15 rolls around, but for people who are single, every day is tax day. When single people pay more than married people do, either financially or emotionally, they are subsidizing married people.

Here are just some of the ways in which every day is tax day if you are single.

When you are single, every day is the day when you pay more...
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General

If You Are Single with No Kids, Who Is Your Family?

Today in the U.S., it is just about as ordinary to be single as to be married. There are 107 million unmarried Americans who are 18 or older; if you start counting at 16, singles have outnumbered married people for years. Alongside the steady and remarkable increase in the number of single people is another striking development – the rise of people who never do raise any kids. If you are single and you have no kids, who is your family? Do you even have one?
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