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‘Liberty is a Better Husband’ and Other Perspectives on Single Life

With Kate Bolick's Spinster: Making a Life of One's Own continuing to inspire conversations across the media, and encouraged by the interest in my review of the book here at Psych Central and in my post, 50 Shades of Single, I thought I'd share some of my favorite quotes and insights from the book. And because Spinster does not include among the five inspirational figures from the past anyone who stayed single for life, I will also add a few words of wisdom from someone who did, Louisa May Alcott.

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10 Fun Facts about Spinsters

I think I know quite a lot about single people and single life. I've studied single people for many years and have practiced single life my whole life. But I learned a lot of new fun facts from Kate Bolick's new book, Spinster: Making a Life of One's Own. (I reviewed the book for Psych Central and also wrote about it in "50 shades of single".)

Here are a few of my favorite fun facts:

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How That Shocking Episode of Grey’s Can Turn Out to Be the Most Affirming

[Spoiler alert: If you have not seen or heard about the April 23, 2015 episode of Grey's Anatomy, there will be spoilers ahead.]

I'm not such a devoted TV fan that I track the time left on my favorite characters' contracts, but if I had, I would have realized why the recent episode that has repeatedly been described as "shocking" was even more shocking to those in the know. Patrick Dempsey, who played Derek "McDreamy" Shepherd on Grey's Anatomy, had another year left on his contract, but now we know he's gone after 11 seasons. He got killed off at the end of last week's dramatic episode.

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50 Shades of Single

In my writings on single life, I have a lot to say about singlism, the ways in which single people are stereotyped and stigmatized and discriminated against. That includes – for single women, especially – the derogatory terms that have been hurled at them.

In her new book, Spinster: Making a Life of One's Own (which I reviewed for Psych Central), Kate Bolick reminds us that single women have not always been portrayed in entirely demeaning ways:

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Why Don’t You Have Kids?

I'm one of 4 "kids". My mother was one of 7 – it would have been 9 but two died very young. At the time of our respective childhoods, it wasn't unusual for either of us. Now, though, typical family sizes are much smaller and more and more women are having no kids at all. Childbearing, once deemed totally natural for women and not a decision at all, is increasingly considered optional. Not that all social pressure has lifted. Most women who choose not to have kids are at some point – or many points – asked to defend their decisions.

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Why Do People Get Angry at Women Who Stay Single and Don’t Have Kids?

As part of the feature, "Up for Discussion," at Zócalo Public Square, a panel of experts (myself included) was asked to provide a brief answer to the question below. Our discussion was published in Time magazine.

The question:

"Americans have come to accept a range of non-traditional family structures--so why does a woman's choice not to have children still elicit skepticism and judgment?"

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What Is the Best Way to Help More of the People More of the Time?

Look at the tagline at the top of this site, Psych Central, and you may find, "We've helped over 175 million people. We can help you too." The focus here is, of course, on the psychological. As a visitor to the site, you have probably become familiar with the many ways the information and the experts at Psych Central can help.

American discourse has always included an ongoing conversation about how best to help people in need, not just psychologically but all sorts of other ways, too. A recent concern is the growing economic inequality and the many ways it makes life more difficult for so many. One simplistic solution that is getting a whole lot of attention in the media is that we should simply get more people to marry (and discourage the already-married from divorcing). The advocates for the marriage solution have formed a Marriage Opportunity Council, so I call them the marriage opportunists.

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